Divorce should be banned...

I don't think Jesus would like to see men molesting their children and beating their wives and the wife sitting there letting them and doing nothing about it. go preach your baloney someplace else. you could not possibly be human and feel that a woman who is being abused and or the children should not leave and file for a divorce because Jesus said so. That is nice that you are religious, but think for yourself without blaming and find answers in the bible. Would you like your sister to be beaten daily and not get a divorce? How about your daughter. What if your daughter calls to tell you she fears for her life? Are you going to advise her to stay with her husband in that case? Come on people.. We all read about and hear about these things on the news, the internet and and in the papers about the men killing their wives and the children! I guess those woman should not have gotten a divorce either, right? So all of the woman's shelters should be closed I guess since woman should not have the right to leave a man. They should stay until he kills her.

Was it not Jesus who preached that we should forgive others. Was it not Jesus who changed many bad people, so why not rectify and correct the spouce and make a good person from him/her. That was what Jesus did to many people who were bad. Everyone deserves a second chance to be corrected. If we follow Jesus and adore and praise his many deeds, why not we follow in his footsteps strictly. Why do we change His principles according to our needs because we cannot follow them.

I think..what man had created..he can find the solution..and change he certainly can. God will not look down upon them...i didnt say that...we strive to have a better society based on good religious principles....not all though which cannot be applied.

What about tatoos, or smoking, or drinking? There are a lot of sins that we cannot take back. And just because you lied and then told the truth it doesn't change the initial act that was origanlly done. If people were perfect we wouldn't need Jesus. We wouldn't need the forgivness he offers. There is only One unforgivable sin and divorce isn't it.

You cannot correct one wrong by making another wrong. If spouces fight it is wrong, how can u correct it with another wrong-divorce. Because we commit wrongs like drinking, we cannot balance it with divorce. i.e justifying ourselves with another wrong. Ex:that boy beat so i too beat. It will not correct the mistake Drinking, smoking can be taken back i.e corrected And these are corrected with right. Not like divorce. Correcting a marriage which is wrong with divorce which is also a wrong.

About lying: We can always tell the truth and correct our lie and correct ourselves. Divorce cannot be correct...you cannot revert it back. Once done it is done.

You are right. But dont you think kids also have only one chance to enjoy life. It is the parents who bring them into existence. And if they get divorced are we not making the children suffer for our wrong choices.

Children don't suffer from divorce, children suffer from being shoved into homes where the parents don't love eachother and spend the entire time screaming at eachother because love obviously doesn't reside there.

Children indeed suffer more in divorced familites then in families with problems. This is not my word, it is what many surveys are saying. There is now increased impetus to stay together due to various reasons.

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I understand that there can be nothing more horrific for children to stand and see all the abuse. On the other side it is not good that children suffer due to divorce. What i said was, we should ban divorce. I did not say that woman need to suffer abuse while still staying in the marriage. Abuse has been happening from ages. But woman are no longer taking it. They are fighting for their rights. And these days, woman are also at fault when it comes to failed marriage. People are less careful in choosing and maintaining their marital relationship because they know there is an easy way out-divorce. So to stop abuse and also divorce, why dont we bring in new rules and total overhaul of the marital system. If a child misbehaves, we correct, we dont abandon. So is the case here. We cannot correct grown ups, i think this is where LAW can act. I mean we taking the easy route-divorce. If we have made so much progress in science, why not strive to make laws which will make the society more ethical. I dont again mean woman should stay abused, stop divorce and also abuse, if we can really think, we can come out with something productive. You cannot correct one wrong by making another wrong. If spouces fight it is wrong, how can u correct it with another wrong-divorce. Ex:that boy beat, so i too beat. It will not correct the mistake If we make friends, there is no ceremony like marriage and oath, if we have children, there is no ceremony and oath, if we have boy friends and girl friends, there is no ceremony and oath, Then why is it only in marriage that we have Oath. Why cant we do without it. Because it is sacred, not a contract, that we can resign and divorce. Then there neednt be marriage in relgious places or places of worship.

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A country might not be run by religion, but it is definitely influenced by religion. Example: there are no holidays for islamic, buddhist or hindu religions in U.S.A altough there is substantial population, but there are holidays for christian festivals like christmas, easter etc. Dont you think religion has a bearing on the rules of the country. Son those counties wich are ruled by religion also run on the same principles, the difference being they are stricer. With time, change creeps into every society, so lets wait. Irrespective of whether it is mentioned in religion or not, if we look at an ideal society, dont you think not having divorce, no smoking, no drinking etc would be its characteristics.

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Then why do you think Jesus said so about divorse. Was Jesus insensitive to all these, He definitely wasnt. Or were these problems non-existent at that time. But God says thing for all eternity, not only for those times. If he told for all eternity then dont you think we shoul rectify the underlying problem than introduce divorce.

Thank you for you response. I too dont like men who abuse their wives but why not strive to have society without abuse and divorse.

Abusive people aren't going to change..if they're going to kill someone..they're going to do it, regardless of whether or not they're working on an underlying problem. Abusive partners hardly 'recover' it just isn't done.

Thank you for that response. thats right "Marriages Are Made in Heaven" if this is true then who discovered this Divorce. That is a good point there.

I understand we are all humans. Please do refer to the second page of this discussion where i have elaborated. Thank you.

That was very moving. I didnt mean that people ought to judged they are bad if they divorced. That is the law in place. So we will opt for that. I just wanted to stop abuse and also divorce. We obviously cannot stop divorce and still be in an abusive relationship. Thank you. You are best. Stay strong and Good luck.

in an ideal world it would be nice to get things right first time.. not everyone has this privilage.. i tried so hard in 11 years of an almost loveless, celibate marriage to keep things going and believe me..when you have buse from more than one member of the family and the community for years and years and you are not very strong physically...it just doesn't work..i became so ill.i had to leave for the sake of my life.. we made the most amicable divorce.. i always tell my son..to love and resoect his father..who adores him..and i am building my self confidence on the basis of love and forgiveness and moving on.. no one gets married to divorce..and i went through years of hell before i opted out..i didn't just leave on an impulse.. i believe each case as being individual..i prayed every day and night for the abuse to end.and gave love back for hatred and contempt..my body and heart couldn't cope any more..and i am going to be judged for that?

But people these days are choosing their spouces. You told that forced marriages are not joined by god, but people who chose their spouces and were not forced are also taking divorces. Dont you think they were joined by god.

im qouting in the context of fix marriages, and that i am also pointing out that there should be some exemptions not just banning marriage for any reason at all.

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Thank you for your support. People should not jump on Divorce wagon for simple reasons.

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There are some problems that can't be fixed. What's better? Living in an unhappy marriage, or ending an unhappy marriage?

Making the unhappy marriage into a happy marriage would be the solution. Please refer to second page of this discussion where i have explained.

I dont think Jesus was close minded. What is your opinion. We should adress the fundamental problem and correct rather than introducing divorce.

in 4 to 5 years many marriages would be so bad that it wouldnt make it to court again they would just go in different ways, or worse wind up killing each other.if its a case where the man or woman is abusive either verbally or physically the only thing to do is divorce.

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LOL come to think of it.. yeah. Hear, hear!!!

Yes, agreed. But is there no other way than divorce.

No, i dont think murder is the right way.

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