Am I being SELFISH?
@adellelovesbeach (86)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 7:03pm CST
For one month now, I am very busy with my graduate studies application. Also, I made a lot of sacrifices and efforts so I can enroll next school year, such as saving, spending my money wisely and cutting all my expenses. Last monday, I received a text message, it was my sister telling me that my mother badly needs the money. I was so confused. I can't just give them the money and drop my desire to study. I've been longing to enroll and I thought that this is the perfect time. Am I being selfish? I don't know what to do...
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@chumm525 (169)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
good day! You can ask your sister first where will they be spending the money for?If it is so important then why not give them, but not all the money to have saved, just enough for the reason. If its for some important things to be bought like medicine, food, electric and water bills, then you should help them. But if it's for some luxuries think it twice.
i know that now a days it is not easy to earn money it takes time to have enough money specially for your studies if your a working student.but if you are the bread winner of the family and you are the only person that your sister and your parents can turn to dont hesitate to help them.
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@adellelovesbeach (86)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
They will use the money to pay the interest, they pawned our lot and we have to pay it monthly... so aside from the huge amount of money, I have to give provide them monthly, so they can pay it. whew! So hard right?
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@adellelovesbeach (86)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
she is a year older than me. But he has her own family already.
@adellelovesbeach (86)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
Thats what I am considering, I wanted to focus on my goals so I can help them someday. Thank you you for your concern. This is hard, really.
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
It is not your job to look after anotheradult, not even your mother, unless she is unableto work herself. Yes, she supported you while you were growing up, but she did it out offree will, you should not be expected to give up your life to pay some loan shark she has stupidly owed money to
@adellelovesbeach (86)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Sometimes, advices are easier said thatn done. But you have a point. Thank you for your advice, really.
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
No, I don't think you ae being selfish at all! Whether you give the money to your mother is another storyI think it depends on what your mother needs the money for. if your mother needs surgery, yes, you should give up yourstudies for a few months, but if, as I suspect, you sister just wants your mother to buy something for her with your money, no, don't give it to her. i think that if your mother really did need themoney, she would say so herself. How does your sister even know that you have the money? if it is because you told her, ignore the request. She just wants the money for herself, and is jealous that you are going to university. In the hen, its your choice, since its YOUR money that you obviously earned, not the family's money
@adellelovesbeach (86)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
They really need the money that is why I thought I am being selfish. I wanted to choose myself, but I know Mama will get hurt. Until now, I am undecided. Thank you for letting me know your side. At least I someone is there to listen
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