The Husband should earn more than his Wife.

It should not and in an idea world, it would not, but.... I worked and always paid my own bills until I got pregnant. Then once I had my children, it was not long until we learned they are both asthmatics. Since I was the one that gave up working until the children started school, I was the parent to remain home with the children. I tried to hold a job, but it is hard when the children are having bad breathing days, they needed Mommy. So I gave up and had to except my Husband would be the "bread winner" in this house. It was hard for me to deal with. Prior I was very independent and now I had to face the facts I HAVE to depend on him. It was never an issue over money, he shares very well, LOL. It was just the idea I felt like a child myself being taken care of. I reckon for some, whether it be who makes more or who is making it at all, it is a pride issue, more so of a power and/or control problem. However, in time with patience and understanding a couple can work through this issue and be quite fine. We did, actually I did since really the problem lied with me more so than him. Now I can say, OK this is how it is and who knows, maybe the girls asthma will go in to a permanent remission and I could go back to work again some day.

I don't think it SHOULD have an effect on people's relationships, but I won't say it never days, or never can. Personally I think if it does it is because the man is insecure. It all goes back to the belief that the spouse who stays at home to care for the kids is doing "less" for the family, and that right there is bull. Spouses can have different, but still equally important, roles in the family. Money does not importance make.

Each couple is different. Different ages and cultures can have different effects on a relationshiop. I personally don't think it matters who makes more and who stays home. In my home though, hubby makes more and I stay home.

I think if you like someone, it is because what he is. I have seen here in my country where a bank officer married to a office dispatch. I believe the difference in salary between the two is huge. But they seems to be happy with 3 children. At the office, the husband is a dispatch, he give his respect to his wife, at home from what that I can see, the wife give her full respect to the king of the house. If you ask me, it's all up to us. If we have hugh ego in our head, even if the husband is the hugh earner, it won't work.

hi faylinn, i think for me there is no effect if one of us has the highest salary received.this is the matter of financial understanding between the couple on how they will manage their money.for us, we don't share our money but we divided our responsibility to our family.like my husband who in-charged in paying rent of our house,for the water and electricity,and milk for our baby while i am in-charge for our foods,our baby's needs and do the extra money to save for our future. but for us women should set aside money for ourselves that our husband doesn't know.so that when, you want or need something to buy for yourself you have your "owned" money. as what i have observed mostly couples argued on money matters and sometimes it lead to separation.

Wife earning more than husband has an effect on the marriage. I have heard of cases where the marriage is broken just because the woman earns more than her husband. It starts the argument between the couple. It hurts a man's ego that his wife earns more than he does because the men were supposed to provide for their family, not their wives.

My salary is a little bit higher than my husband, but that didn't bother us at all. We share everything together. He will pay all the expenses such as bills, loans etc with his salary and I will use my salary for our kids expenses. So far it's going very well and respect is not an issue because the most important thing is we love each other and what we are doing now is for our family.

Every person is different than the next, therefore every couple is different than the next. What works for one, won't always work for another. My husband and I do things differently than most. We each have our own seperate accounts AND we also have a joint savings and joint checking accounts. Many feel the need to put it all together. Some feel the need to keep it all seperate. This is just the way that it happened and the way that works, so we keep it. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

In my case my wife do get the higher salary than me. It is because her qualification is much more better than mine. It does have an effect but it can be managed by compromising. I do have a lower salary but I try to give something to help quell some budgetary needs in our house.

I don't think either one should hide how much they make. They need to be completely honest with eachother and that includes with earnings. I don't think that the man making less should make him feel any less than a man. We're all in this together..

I don't have any problem sharing the same bank accounts, payslips, etc. Well, I'm a stay at home mom and my husband always give his paycheck to me before he buys to pay anything. In dicision-making, we consult one another before taking it into actions. Whatever he has is also mine because we're no longer two now, but ONE!

Husbands should earn more coz we are accustomed to this situation. But when wives earns more, the only thing husbands can do is to reciprocate it by being faithful...and no matter how small your income is, but if you are a responsible husband, what's important is for you to be a good provider. Husbands and wives should also have their own bank accounts and money, aside from the joint account wherein you can get from this your daily expenses and for the needs of the children.

The general setup is that the Husband does the work and the Wife holds the fort (house). In today's case, even Wives go to work either because the earning of the Husband isn't enough or she just gets bored staying at home all day. It really depends on how they talk about it. Most Husbands prefer their Wives to stay at home though.

Having been married to the same woman for 48 years I think it depends on the attitudes of both the man and woman. Who makes the most money should be unimportant if a couple is really in love. I do believe that both husand and wife should have a separate checking acount. Whichever on handles the money (pays the bills and budgets) should have the main account and his partner an account for his/her personal needs.

No, the realtion is important not the money. If they make money as basis they will have face relation crisis first.

it basically should not have an effect with the relationship, but it is also a case to case basis. when a guy simply stays at home because he's just too lazy to work, then that's something else, i won't be needing that kind of guy. and then if the guy is earning less than girl, then it's really okay, not unless the guy won't be cool with that. i guess, it's really about understanding your partner and if you are willing to accept that he can only give the family this amount of money or nothing at all. it's still up to the couple if they are going to be ok with that.

Whether it does actually have an effect or not is different for each relationship. What I think is right may not be for other people, but I think that when you get married, you should indeed have a joint account for regular bill payments, mortgages etc. But also, you never know if your marriage will end, so I would also have separate bank accounts set up with the knowledge of my spouse to have my own money, and would expect him to do the same. I would indeed respect a man more for being open and honest and looking out for himself while taking care to look out for the marriage at the same time.

No !!..i mean it should not be always, basically it completely depends on person to person. If your spouse is understanding then it doesnt matter who is earning lot, and who is earning less?. Morever if they really respect each others, then that kind of issuses hardly come up in their life.

bank accounts was already shared before we even got married. all his payslips are given to me. i even audit it why he have deductions of sorts .. LOL :) We have no problem with that. I just give him his daily allowance plus an additional amount per payday that he can spend whichever and whenever he wants. aside from that... i have all the money to cover for everything. I work. but i'm a very financial organized freak! LOL before I earn more than my hubby.. it's not an issue really.. but did bother him.. he keeps on hopping to diffirent jobs that will offer him more pay than mine. until he decided to get all the microsoft certifications he will be needing... train abroad... and then boom!.. now he has a much more pay than me (almost doubled)... :D still... i still got to hold everything. LOL

Everyone should do the best he can for asigurate his life,but if it happen that husband earn less than his wife I don`t think that`s a shame ,or a reason to don`t deserve respect.Only if he don`t want to do anything ,he is guilty.