Help! I'm in a dillema..what should come first--CAREER or LOVELIFE?

hi there, you are in a dilemma, if you do want to stay with your partner then you should or could try look for another job to fit around your relationship, people feel lonley sometimes, i know i do when my partner works but im fine witht hat, the more peace i get the better, lol! hope everything works out for you! :)

It's certainly one hell of a challenge trying to find the balance that's for sure! My career is very demanding and takes up a considerable amount of my time. Thankfully my partner is extremely understanding and accommodating when it comes to me having to take off somewhere at very short notice. The secret for me is making sure that work is work and home is home. Whilst at work give it everything, whilst at home etc leave work aside and give all of your attention to your relationship. Problems arise when you can't let work go and it affects your relationship. If you can achieve this then hopefully quality will rule over quantity in the relationship! You may not get as much time together as you would like but at least the time you do spend together will be unforgettable and have your partner looking forward to the next!

What will probably happen is that a crunch will come. There are some combinations that just do not work together. They tend to create friction, and both suffer as a result. If you're in the middle, you get both results. If you can find a way of managing your time so you can deal with the career, which is probably the easier thing to schedule, you might achieve both. If not, reality is going to have to get a word in.

That's one of the big issue that we once have with my husband when we were not yet married. I am usually the jealous type of girl. Jealous not only to women but to his work. He once had this oppurtunity to go to Manila but I cried so he refuse his boss of this offer. Sometimes he blames me for that. As of my experince the two should be balance and if career calls you you should explain that what you're doing is for your future. If he loves you then he will accept you as a career woman. For me, I was really sorry for what I've done to my husband before because it affected his career now.

I think You must choose the carrer, because for the future it's must important. But the love is also important, go out with yours friends, know new people and if find the love He will understanding you if you'll be at hte job and not whit him!

don't worry about it too much (**wink wink**) I'm sure deep inside your significant other understands :)