Fathers

I know quite a bit of fathers that are just as close with their children as the mothers are. I don't feel a special bond to my children just because I'm their mom. I do feel a bond with them because I took care of them more than their father did. Their father chose himself over his children many times and they remember that. I do know a few fathers that raised their children - due to divorce or work situations. They have a closer bond because of the fact that they took better care of the kids more often. It's a mentality thing. If the man thinks his job is to bring home the bacon then that's all he'll do. If he thinks he needs to play an active part in raising his children, he will.

I think woman are better equipped to take care of children because we have a motherly instinct that fathers don't. We get a feeling about things and we are usually right. I think fathers do what it is they can and I applaud them for that. But if he did everything he would be taking my only job away.

When I was married over 45 yrs ago yes the woman did all the childcare ,but my 2 sons who are now married share all the chores with their wives , shhh don't tell anyone but my grandaughters prefer their dad's cooking to mums lol . so changed days , changed for the good . My mum used to say I shouldn,t ask my boys to help in the house but my daughter in laws both think it is great that I did .

I think that fathers can do just as good job as a mother. I think that sometimes women want it a certain way, and we get too critical of their ways. But, if they are willing, dad's can take care of the children just as well, sometimes better.

It may go back to cavemen days when the man was suppose to do all the hunting and the woman took care of the home and children. The women would gather plants for food also. I read where after giving birth they have a special bond with their child. Also men have that testosterone which may make them less equipped for child rearing. I think some men make good fathers though. It may depend on their personalities, also.

I believe that because the woman is the one who carries the baby it brings about a bond that is someting no one will ever be able to compete with . Woman are much more emotional then men and therefore have more empathy . So when your baby is crying it will be the mother who will often run first to check and see what is wrong with the baby . All this forms a strong bond with your little one . We feel them kick from inside which is something no man has ever experienced and is not the same as feeling the baby kick from the outside . For these reasons I believe it forms such a strong bond with the child and the mother making it easier for the mother to care for her child . Although I have seen some very good fathers who were better then the mother , so I would have to say that the primary caregiver is the one who holds the stronger bond making that person teh one more capable of figuring out what is wrong with the baby making them more equipped .