Is it obvious to you that one of your parents has a favorite child

Yes, when it comes to my other sibling they do play favorites. Recently it's become a lot worse compared to when I was a kid. So I completely understand how you feel as I have gone through the same thing. For example.. They will call to speak to her a large majority of the time. My mom will take her out for dinner, but when it comes to me & my other half she will never want to do the same in return for us. My mom will come to visit my sister, but not me. She will pay for her debt, her groceries, etc. My other half & me are more independent & don't rely on them for anything.. But what bothers me out of everything is they speak so highly of my sister & when it comes to me.. They look at me with sad eyes. My other half always witnesses them treating my sister in higher regards & it makes him ill. He can't understand why my own mother doesn't see how she has another daughter who she should be willing to be proud of. And notice. What's even sadder is I have confronted my mother in the past about how I have felt.. And she has ignored me completely. She shrugged it off & then later that day she ended up going shopping with my sister. I was completely devastated after she had done such a thing. Ever since then I've thought very differently of her.. I can't help but do so.. I know that if I was to have children.. I don't think I could do this to my own! . . If my other half & me have children in the future I want to treat them equally. I want to be able to show equal involvement but also concern every step of the way as they grow up. I don't want to act in the same manner as my own parents do to me. If I knew I was doing this I'd want my children to be able to be honest with me, & be able to communicate with me. As I would want to know there feelings & would want to work on the relationship I may hold with them.. In conclusion I don't know if for a lot of parents if this is natural for them to treat one child as there favorite.. But I do know that because of what I have gone through.. That I do not want to be like this to my own children through. I find this type of behavior can really help to damage one's relationship with you later on in the future. I don't want to have my own children hating me because of something such as that. I am glad because of what I have gone through though that.. It has taught me a lot about the type of parent I would want to be to my own some day! Thank you for allowing me to share with you my experiences.. I know how you feel though as I have gone through the same.. I am glad to hear that I am not the only one who goes through this though! . . Thank you for allowing me to hear your story as well! . .

I have never played favorites with my children. I tell them that they are my favorite. Each one is my favorite for being who they are. Other family members do play favoritism with their children. I do not care for this practice.

Oh yes growing up my mom and dad would asways show they favored my bro and sis more then me. I would never let it bother me cause I couldn't or it would of put me down. I am 32 now sis 31 and bro 26 and they still favor them to this day more.

I am not sure. I get whatever I want. My sister too. But what confused me is how come they let my sister to go back home to study while I staying with them a very dependent to 'em and my sister was like independent the way we used to be when we're far with our parents. I'd like to think that they love me more because they don't want to let go of me. But on the second thought, the love my sister more in way they agreed in whatever favor my sister would ask from them like stay'n with her boyfriend. What's with that? She's my younger sister but I can't be with my boyfriend just like the way she's currently doing, sleeping over her bf's house. As a matter of fact, I'm very secured with my parents somehow I could imagine, I'm the youngest. Hoooowell..

My mom never favored either my sister or me,but my dad had a favorite and I hate to say it but it was me.And I don't even know why.I didn't suck up to him or anything, in fact just the oppisite.We fought more than him and my sister.But he has even told me that he doesn't love me anymore than he loves my sister, he just likes me more and considers me not just a daughter but a friend.That is how I became his favorite.I didn't mean for it to happen and luckily my sister doesn't blame me for it.But my grandparents loved her more and even wouldn't have much to do with me when I became an adult so it some what evened out.

yeah, i feel like that every single day of my life, even if mom says she loves me and my sister the same! I have to do the shopping, feed the dogs, do chors around the house...everything! And if i ask her why do I have to do all that, she says that i do it better! Like yeah, if my sister never had to do it of course i'm doing it better! I am sick of all this too, but even if i tried to talk with my mom nothing changed...oh well,maybe all this is just in our minds...i don't know what to say!

Try to talk to your mum about this, how could she not love such a pretty little fairy?

yes I have seen that in my husbands family, his parents love only their daughter, or she is so dominating that she will not tolerate them loving their son

Ya my mom's favourite is my sister and she's a real peice of work. Shes rude to my mom, swears at her, throws things at her and she's 25. Still though my mom is always so worried about her. I had been to jail when I was younger and I don't think it worried her like something does when it happens to my sister. I know my mom loves me very much so I never questioned that but still to this day I can do everything in the world and she still would be more worried about my sister. Its weird when you think about it though because being the first born you'd think you would be the favourite because you where the first but I guess thats not how it works.

its quite normal that the parents have their favorites amonst their children, and its quite like we as kids also have our favorites like some love thier mom more than dad. so i guess this is very natural and very human. but if its getting on your nerves take a break and move out for some time, cos it wont have a positive effect on your kids too so let your mother have the real urge to meet your kids, before you get back home..

yes it is obvious that a parent may have a favourite child when they have more than just a single child.

I know exactly how you feel. I have a younger brother that has always gotten what he wanted for as long as I can remember. My dad favors him over all my brothers my sister and me. He's rude to my dad and disrespects him but my dad still does whatever he wants. My brother is now 17, he works but my dad still gives him money for anything he wants. I dont get the same treatment. Everyone in our family knows my dad favors him, but we don't know why! Especially after the way he treats our dad. It's a weired bond we will never understand.

i thaught sometimes we think it's not fair between us and our sister or brother, but sometime that only our feeling.

dear frend it happens......i think u r the elder sis.... well i m youngest at my house....and often given the status ur bro is given....reason being ....as we say......parents often think that younger should not be hurted since elder one can understand....but a younger one is always younger for them....thts is wht hurts when elder one is blamed....

it's very obvious to me who my parents favorite child is. Sure people will always say that your parents love all of the kids equally, that's just a lie the majority of the time.

My parents favored my brother over me. He was the first born and the all important son. I paled in comparison. I used to get into trouble just to get them to notice me. It never lasted very long though. I always got the hand me downs.

Yes. I was the favourite. Probably because my parents never talk, and only want a quiet life. My brother always felt it necessary to verbalise his feelings, and felt unloved when they didn't talk back. I, however, quickly realised that talikng to them was a waste of time because i never got a reply, so i didn't bother, and soon became a social retard, unable to talk to anyone. But i was the favourite because i didn't talk to them about my teenage problems, and gave them the quiet life they crave. I feel really sorry for my brother because now all he does is shout and scream at them in a desperate attempt to get them to talk, when all he ever wants is to communicate with them, but at least he is trying. I have to say in my parents defence, i can talk to them, but conversation is VERY difficult and it has een a long hard struggle for the past 10 years or so. BAM- Sounds like your parents aren't being very understanding of you, but please remember that the favourite can sometimes have more understanding than they feel they can talk to you about. That's the moral of my story. Don't let them get you down!

I not have favorite, but mi last children, my dear daugther is the best,jejejeje

My parents clearly had a favorite child. There were four of us, and my parents clearly favored the second eldest. I was very resentful growing up, and I still somewhat resent it. I had to move out once I started college, but she got to stay at home. I graduated college and had to go out on my own into the world. My second eldest sister failed out of two colleges and does not have a job, yet she still is able to live at home. She's 24 now, and still lives with my parents. I think they hold onto her because they feel like she NEEDS them more than the rest of us did. I don't know, but it is still unfair. I have only one child, but I do plan on having more. I will treat all my children equally, because I know how painful it can be when one child is placed above the others.

well i think parents cant do like that because all children are equal in their eyes.but still in this world their are some parents who do like that so i request them not to do like that