What's your opinion of women who prey on married men?

The only problem here is, how comfortable are you with a man who was cheating to begin with? I would have a problem with a woman who was married and promising to be faithful to her side dish. I like the lyrics from an old Bailey & the boys song, "...if she wants a man, who will take the ring off his hand, and promise always to be true---- then she deserves you."

I do not fault women who have been trapped into a relationship with a married man. If she didn't know, then I wouldn't put her in the same catagory as these other women. I do think, however, that once a woman finds out - she should end the relationship until he gets divorced. If she has any respect for herself, that is what she would do. Thank you for your post - I also agree with you. I'm sorry you were in that kind of situation.

I do not think that is the problem in this case. When I said "wait until he is divorced" I just meant if you want him bad enough, then let him prove that he is just as serious and has gotten a divorce. Speaking for myself, I would not ever be in that position. If a man is having an affair with me while he is married, and then leaves his wife for me - I do not believe I could trust him. I like those lyrics, by the way.

I don't understand just because of the simple problems or misunderstanding at home, why does a man will always get tempted to another female !!!! In every home there are some disagreements but it doesn't mean to find a substitute than to sort out a problem. In my opinion ... if a man is sensible & strong enough than he wud never go for these kind of women, and the women who has a habit of stealing another's husband, has no character and has a cheap mentality, so u can't change them for sure .. so its better to limitize yrself guys. U just can't have a position .. even if it's served in a golden plate .... Poison will always remain poison .. we should find a way to save ourselves than to blame anyone !!!!

You are right but there are so many other factors to consider. A couple could be having some simple problems at home that need to be worked through. A woman who preys on men will notice the weakness and jump at the chance to listen to his problems and lure him into her web. He is weak. I am not making excuses for the man - I'm just saying that women like this do not help. Yes, some men will cheat if they are having problems at home regardless but it doesn't help if another woman is standing in the shadows tempting him with candy when he's at his lowest. Instead the man could be at home, talking to his wife about their problems.

Thank YOU for an excellent comment!

I agree. Thank you!

Thank you, I agree with you as well. I feel sorry for men who are being subjected to it as well, the men who do not want to be preyed upon but are. You took the words out of my mouth - CHEAP TRASH, so very true.

Thank you, I also agree with you.

I agree also. I also think that a lot of women that prey on married men have been married several times before and have not been able to keep that relationship going. So i think they go into it knowing the man is married, will probably not leave his wife, and don't really have to worry about loosing, they have already lost. I also blame the man for not choosing to say no, but sometimes these women make it so easy for them. Saying and doing everything that they know the man wants, makes them feel so good about themselves, it puts the man on a high. If the man actually did leave his wife he would probably realize really soon the the "grass IS NOT greener on the other side", because this woman is usually not as she has portrayed herself to be. And it is probably not the first married man she has gone after...so a looser.

I think you did the right thing and I thank you for stepping away when you found out he was married. I also think you did the right thing by telling her - if it was me, I'd want to know so I could either walk away from my marriage or figure out what was wrong and try to fix it. You are a good person and shouldn't feel guilty. You are nothing like the women I am talking about.

Thank you.. I agree!

Crazy!

It is strange and you're right, they rarely leave their wives for the mistress. I also have a HUGE problem with married men who cheat. Hey we have alot in common! :] I like your name too!

Why would I side with a woman who knows a man is married and continues to carry on a relationship with him. It's simple - he's TAKEN, step away and respect that he has a wife and should work on his marriage with her or get a divorce. I do not wish to step into their shoes. I would never have to walk in their shoes because I would not form a relationship with a man that is married. I would not allow it to go that far. I would not get close enough to know that we share the same interests. Please understand - I am only speaking about women who ADMIT to going after ONLY married men. They seek out married men. They strive to lure them in and take them away from their families. They are selfish, period.

Very well said! Thank you!

Yes.. what goes around - comes around. So very true!

Good for you! I'm also totally against such behavior. Thank you for sharing!

I completely agree with you! Thank you.

So very true! I guess I just expect more from women towards other women. If you know someone is married, why would you ever try to see if he's interested in you, right? I would think there would be a level of respect for the other women and understanding that they would not want someone doing that to them if they were the wife. Apparently these women just do not care and so they will test the waters and tempt the man. Some will decline and turn away but some men may be going through some issues at home - issues that CAN be worked out if women like this leave them alone but when they have a woman sitting there willing to hear their problems and be a shoulder to cry on - someone who doesn't live with this man and have to wash his clothes and do his cooking and cleaning - then it can be easy for the man to think she is so "perfect" when really she isn't - she's just using him for her own satisfaction without regard to his homelife.

Yes, it is horrible. Thank you for posting your feelings!