Long distance relationship, i need help

Love doesn't happen every day. And just because its long distance doesn't mean that it won't work out. I am engaged to a US Marine and he's stationed 1400 miles away from me on the East coast. We've survived 2 deployments. And we only see each other two or three times a year right now. It's hard but so worth it. You just have to decide if its worth it to you. Is the love worth it? All relationships require sacrifice and you have to be strong.

well sis in your situation just keep your communication open...i know its too hard for a woman to wait for so long, but if you really love him, you will wait him until he finish his studies...maybe his doing that, because he wants to give you a better future or he wants to secure his family's future...but if you can't wait him talk to him sincerely what are his plan after school and tell him also that you can't wait for two more years and for that, he makes some action :)

i am in a long distance relationship for 9 months now. i am from the philippines while my boyfriend lives and works in sweden. we met on the net, started out as friends from months and just developed into love. he already came over to meet my family and i. we had so much fun together when he was here. and now that he's back in his country, i miss him more everyday. it's really so difficult at the beginning. i want to be with him everyday of my life. but truth is, i can't (yet). however, at the moment, love, trust, honesty and loyalty keep our love alive. as for you, it's better to wait for 2 years. after all, you all are doing this for your future. a little sacrifice won't hurt that much. just think that you both will benefit from it in the future. plus you both know you love each other so much. just keep the love alive by making him feel you are always there for him. chat with him, email him, text him, call him. better yet, send him handwritten mails. believe me, handwritten mails are the best. might take longer before it will reach him, but it's the greatest way to keep the relationship alive.

I understand you because I have a long distance relationship from two years. Can't he study in your country for live toghether? Maybe it's the only way for not wait other time.

I know that you're not going to want to hear this but.............if it were meant to be, it will be. I had a similar situation, instead he had to wait for me. He got out into the "real world" and decided to end it. I was mortified. He got out of joining the navy to be with me, so I thought we were really in love. I thought that my life was going to end. It didn't. I'm still here. It may have been devestating at the time, but I realized that the best thing that he did was to dump me. God only knows how long it would have been before I woke up and dumped him. So remember, if it's meant to be, it will be.

is a difficult situation... because is very hard when you can't be with your love! i don;t know what to say... you can;t go at him for a while after you graduate? try to see how it works... you was very brave to wait so much time... i think i couldn't do this... is too much since you haven't seen him... you are sure that he is still loving you?

sometimes love is coupled with sacrifice and patience. It is through it that we are able to wait for something to wait for. I am so proud of your plans of going in school actively. This is not only your chance of brighter future but your kids (someday) as well. In your stage, you are now planning for your future... so you guys gotta have this teamwork effort in order to realize your plans. That's good idea in anyway.. but only that.... take a little more patience and sacrifice.

since u guys have no problem during the 4yrs relationship, then why dun u wait for another 2 years. Its ok for long distance rlationship if both of u really love each other. Am i rite. dun let go

if you really love each other, you had wait 4 long years and your relationship is still long why can u wait for only 2 years more?you two both to be financially, emotionally secure and other aspects in life before you get into something more deeper which is marriage. you have to be ready individually so that you two wont have what if's in the future. he is still in school you too is in school, just be patience and faith.

If you wait for for him for 4 years then whats be the reason that you can't wait for another 2 years.If oyu really loove him you can wait anyway its for your future. If he graduated and got a job then you can settle down.

i read your message...its is true, its kinda difficult to be in a long distance relationship. but still, the key is...communication, the two of you should keep in touch, whatever means possible. if you two love each other so much...then the both of you must do your best to stay in this relationship. times are different now...but when it comes to commitment and staying in it...it is a decision between the two of you whether you want to stay or to move on and live separate lives. i hope you'll make the right decision. i wish you well.

I completely understand your situation.Its real hard but sometimes,we need to have patience on everything.Love can always wait.And at the same time,you are preparing for your future since both of you are still schooling and finding job soon.Just keep communicate with each other and teeling each other how you love both in the same way!have faith and keep hoping that someday you and him will be together hand in hand with a brighter future!Goodluck!

THat is the answer, you have already wait for four long years, surely you can still wait for another years. Don't worry, if you really love him, and vice versa, you can both wait. It is not the distance, but the feelings that you felt to both is the most important.

it's early for you to say that your than with your waiting... life and love can't be develop nor be seen clearly in just as clear as the ice... but remember that love is a decision... when you love you must decide and not solely depends on presence and feelings... 4 years is not that long-to guaranty your done... wait and let love bring you together through the passing of the time...

Putting your life on hold for a man at the age of 17 is just not logical or healthy for you hon. IF he is the one... he will be there when you can be together. Don't waste years of your life standing there in the wait for a guy you can't be sure isn't going to find someone else anyways. I'm not dismissing your love or feelings, I know it's very real no matter what age. But I don't think it's a good thing at such a young age to put so much of yourself in one person and put your entire life on hold.

i think u can go after completing ur studies n better to get engeged... n u can stay near him while he completes his schooling n find job..

im engaged with a long distance relationship too. I could say its really hard being far away with the one u love but guess what its only temporary. Would u believe that Its been three years now and still I havent seen him.But our love for each other keeps us going. He is working in other country. If You do really love him cling on, two more years is not that long.Just the thought of being with him after a long wait is quite fulfilling.

try contacting him online and by phone. don't tell him you love him. just say that you missed him. make it really sure that you can spend the rest of your life with this guy before you decide to extent your relation.

Well 3Temptation, I can understand your regret, but - after all - you are still so young.... I know that it's very hard to wait for other two long terrible years, but it seems to be the only solution.... I think that this regret will strenghten the love you feel towards him. Sorry, but life is often hard and you are starting to face your first sufferings.... I wish you good luck

If you truly love him you would wait as long as you are sure that this relationship is worth waiting for..you have waited for four years girl,whats 2 more years compared to a life long happiness with the one you love..