Child support payments?

Wish I could help more. I do not have that problem. But it seems like if you really want to FORCE the issue, I'd go your ex's employer and tell him your issue and that you may have to turn him in to the labor board, the local social welfare board and the IRS. I would tell your ex the same thing -- of course you'll have to stick with that "threat" and turn him in if he won't give you more funds. You are doing this for your child. You need the money for have a good life for you and your child -- don't think of it as a bad thing to try and get him to do his fair share. He is shirking his duty and while that may be part of the reason you split up, it should not be a reason why you and your child have to suffer.

My ex worked as a bouncer at a bar for many years and always got paid under the table. I never saw a penny until my best friend told him that I could have him thrown in jail. Then he came storming in at my job with a money order and threw it at me and said "here's your F***n money. So I tore up his measly little contribution and threw it in the floor and told him if that is how he is going to contribute, by being threatened, and not giving it willingly, he could shove it. I had no money myself, but I sure as hec didn't want his, and told him to take a ride, and not to expect to have any part of MY daughter's life because he didn't deserve to. I heard from him a couple of times after that, but for entire 12 years of her life, I haven't had to deal with him, and the struggle was worth it. I did happen to find someone that has helped me, but I did it all by myself for 4 years before he came along. I am hard headed, but lucky I guess. I don't have good advice because I haven't seen the system work in our favor ever, so I didn't even bother wih the headache. I just never expected the money to be there and budgeted without it and made my own money. I had to work 2 jobs and I had a great babysitter that was the blessing of my life or I would have never made it through the day worrying about my daughter. My stubborness and hardwork and very good luck is how I took care of her for the three long years I did it alone. Now I have been with an entreprenuer for 9 years and it hasn't been a walk in the park either, but I don't have to deal with my ex, and that is just fine by me.

Here is what you need to do.. go apply for welfare.. they will go after him for payment and it will resolve this situation. If he doesn't start paying he'll go to jail.. AND he will have to pay you back child support too. In the meantime, maybe they can help you as well.

Not my parents cause i help my parent a lot and i m planning to do it in the future too cause they have struggled for me in the older days it is my turn to keep them happy now.

personaly, i never come aross that, if i ever do i would pay people money that i owe, i am too soft hearted, even just a begger ask me for money i would give it to him, i think the best way to do is call a lawyer, some of them can give you adivce for free, try that and go from there. apply for child support and food stamps or whatever they call it now. that is all i can tell you i am sorry.

Can of worms! I don't mind paying it if my ex would use it for ther child, instead she lives off of it. Got a tummy tuck, and wants a boob job, so basically I work for her... Fair?

I am struggling same as you. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and only recieve 50 dollars a month in support, and every once in a while an entire month goes by and I don't receive anything. My ex too, workds a lot under the table. He has 2 side jobs, one working along side a friend with his business and then as a "jack of all trades," working to help maintain people's properties, working on cars, etc. His actual job he only works maybe 3 or 4 days out of the week. He knows that his under the table work is untouchable because there isn't proof of it anywhere. It is hard to know that he is more concerned with lying about what he does, or what he makes, versus just sucking it up to help us out. At the time of our divorce, he had made (in wage) 22,000 more a year than I did. And they still only granted me 50 a month! The system is screwy in this country, and there is very little I can do about it. I have no choice but to work a full load (at one point I even worked 2 jobs), to help support my kids. I don't know that it will ever benefit me to try to take him back to court, as with all the under the table work, I will get no where.

I see my sister go through it all the time, and I dont think its fair. There has got to be something or somebody you can talk to about solving this problem. Or the only the other thing is to report him for getting paid under the table.

My ex hasn't kept the same job for more than a couple of months for the last two years, so I haven't managed to get a dime. It's sad how little is done about it, that there are good laws to seize tax returns and suspend driver's licenses for deadbeat parents, but they're rarely implemented so they're useless. I hope things get better for you, it's really hard being a single parent.

My ex was doing wonderfully paying his support on time and catching up immediately when he did get a little behind, then he lost his job and more or less refuses to look for employment. It was been almost 2 years now and I haven't seen a red cent other than the tax check that they took the first year. Now he is more than 6,000 behind and there is no way he can catch that up. I just wish that he would get a job and pay me my weekly check so I can provide for my children in a better way. My children are well taken care of but it is their right to have the money that he owes.

I think the only way to prove his under the table income would be to get a private investigator, or a court order of his bank statements to see how much that turkey is depositing. He needs a good kick in the booty.

I have struggled off and on with my ex also. It has been good for the last 6 months but it was a struggle before that. I was pregnant with my new husband's baby and due in April 2006. I was planning on working until the end of March 2006 but had problems so I only worked until mid March. I ended up being off of work for over 2 months and was counting on the child support payments and the money that I saved to pay the bills for 2 months. Well, guess what? I get a call about 2 days after I stopped working and find out he quit his job. Well, we was out of work for at least 5 months. It was quite a struggle. Now he is complaining to me that he owes me $1300 in back child support. Well, I say keep a job and you would not have that problem. We have been divorced for like 5 years and it has been a struggle the whole time. He does not like to keep a job or be involved with his daughter at all. But he can remarry a woman that has 5 boys and take care of them. Anyways, the point is keep trying and take him to court if needed. Dig up proof that he is working for cash and they can get him.

Hi, I don't have this problem but my sister in law does. My brother left her and my niece homeless. They were living in their car for awhile. They are now living with me until Feb 9th. anyway, my sister in law got a lawyer and child support is suppose to come right out of my brother's check every week. However, some how his job is working with him and not sending what the courts are telling them to. As it stands now, the job is going to be fined everytime they don't send the money and their is a warrant out for my brother's arrest. Your ex still owes child support and back child support, he can go to jail for not paying. You should go to a lawyer and take it to court. No one should get away with not taking care of their chidren. If he even gets a speeding ticket they will arrest him for failure to pay child support. He will have to come up with back child support before they let him out.

A very close friend of mine is going through exactly what you are. She has not gotten a child support payment in over a year for her two children from a 10 year marriage. He works under the table, doesn't show up for court, and it is a struggle for her to get a human being on the phone. When she does speak to someone at Support Enforcement, they tell her they will look into it and that she can't call back for 20 some odd days. Taking his license away doesn't help. Reporting him to a credit bureau is a joke. I personally feel that in these situations, when the parent won't pay (Not, can't pay, but simply won't), they should be put in jail and made to work from there with every dime paid back. No release until they have paid all arrearages.

Bongs dad gave him £5 for his 3rd birthday, other than that he has never contributed in any way except the first bit towards his son.

I'm sorry to hear about your trouble with getting your ex to pay child support. I have the same problem. I have applied for assistance, but the state only gives cash benefits for the childs first three months of life and any further payments have to be contributed by the father. The courts have ordered that he take a paternity test, but he has moved out of his parents house and keeps going between all of his friends houses so that the courts can't find him to serve him the papers. He has not had a job in the three years that I have known him. All of his employers have told him that they would pay him when they got money and then never did. I have pretty much given up on ever seeing any money from him.

It's almost the end of January and I still have not gotten all of my child support from my ex. This is pretty typical for him. Evwery few months he'll get caught back up and tell me that it shouldn't be a problem anymore, but then he'll fall behind again within a month. I got 55$ at the beginning of the month. He is supposed to pay 269$ a month. I'm so tired of it. I'm glad that he's at least not years behind like many dads, but it makes it hard for me to budget when I can't count on the money being here.

If you go to your local domestic relations office and file a new petition to increase child support they will set a new court date and at that time you can let the judge know that he has a job, but its under the table. He will then be required to send in payments to the courts to then be sent to you via check. And if he misses a payment, they will know. Many men get paid under the table, that doesnt mean they have to stop paying child support.

First I'm so very sorry for the position your in. IF he is ANYKIND of a man he would collect cans to at least give you somthing to help with HIS child. I hope you have parents that can help you and don't be afraid to ask his parents foe help also they are GRANPARENTS also and should be ashamed of their son. Get State assistance food stamps ther is help ther for you just ask and you will and should be helped. If you go to church there should be a fund they could help you out with. The main things is to takecare of your child PLEASE I so wish I could be mor of a help as I was a single father with 3 children and my wife left me and the kids BUT all is well now and you will make it. LOVE and RESPECT Jimbo

Im finding it impossible to get any money for the past few months. 7yo father has to pay only $8 a month and is $700 in arrears and 12 yo father doesnt have to pay anything. I think this sucks. He has a business and doesnt draw an income. The money I was getting previously, I gave to the kids as their fortnightly pocket money. Now I have to give it to them out of my money and pay 100% for them. I think the whole system sucks and needs some serious changes and quick.