Is it too much to ask for your spouse to get up one day a week with the kids?

I think that you should definately ask him to get up. That is the least that he can do. Out of curiosity, why can't he bring the kids to daycare later in the day for you?

no you are not asking too much. it will be nice if you share chores together. one day on the weekend is not too much to ask for.

that is his responsibility also as a father. you should not need to tell him about that. he should voluntarily do because that is one of his responsibility as a father. How can he become close to his children if he will not have time for the day care

Have you sat down and rationally discussed this with him? Maybe you can each pick a day on the weekend and call it 'reward day', where you each take a turn sleeping in? This way you both get to be rewarded for working hard all week. I've never had this problem. My husband and I have always approached our marriage and family as equals, and appreciate what each contributes to our family, and our home. We've been married for almost 18 years and together a total of 20, and I truly believe we have succeeded to this point because we appreciate each other, and do not take each other for granted. I'm also a wife to a military man, so with that comes a whole other set of demands--I've been a single mom for long periods of time and have worked, taken care of our children, our home, and have become Super Woman on many occasions. I think maybe because my husband knows that I am not dependent on him, and that he compliments my life, that he doesn't take me for granted--and so the little things like letting me sleep in when I need to, is no big deal. Plus he loves spending that quality time with our kids, especially now that they are getting older (one is in college, another is soon to be 16, and another is soon to be 7).

It depends on how much sleep you both get. What time do both of you finish work? What time do you get to bed? If he works a long day for example and weekends is the only time he can catch up on sleep, then I think it might be unfair.

no, you are not asking to much. daycare is a hard job to start with. i know my husband gets up for work at 430 during the week, and is usually asleep by 9. i get up at 530 to start getting kids ready. he works saturdays too, but sundays, he gets up with the kids. he lets me sleep till atleast 8 and then its time to get ready for whatever sports we are in at the time. so no, i dont think you are asking to much!!

No, you are not asking too much. My husband works outside the home and I stay home with our son. If the baby wakes up during the night on a week night, I get up with him. When he wakes up in the morning duing the week, I get him. On the weekends,my husband gets upwith him. It's only fair. He laid down and helped create this baby, so he needs to stand up help raise this baby, good and bad! My husband dos it, sometimes, not happily, but it get done. And he doesn't take it out on the baby. I am not looking to slee in until 1100 or anything, just passed 600. I sometimes even get up with my son and my husband on the weekends so we can have some family time. Fair is fair.

No I do not think you are asking too much but as I also work outside so on weekends it is even tougher to get up earlier. Anyway try your luck, all the best.

I don't think you are asking too much at all. I think you and your partner need to share the work. When children are born they have two parents, not just one. Both parents need to share in the work.

I don't think you'd be asking too much if you asked him to get up on alternate days. I don't think men realise how difficult a job it can be doing daycare. Certainly, one day a week is more than a reasonable ask. Go for it! He might surprise you!

I really don't think it's too much. He gets to sleep in late practically every day of the week while you have to continously wake up early to do work in the home. I really don't think it's fair. He should allow you at least one day a week, you deserve it.

He should want to take care of the kids. Not just once a week but whenever he can. My husband is a very busy guy and he comes home and does what he can with the kids and on weekends that is when it is really their time with him. I stay at home with them 24/7 all week so they are tired of me.

not to me but I don't live with you.If it's too much for him I'd curse his butt out since these kids belong to him as well as me.I wouldn't whine about it I'd tell him what I need and expect him to care.You can do bad by yourself.

i dont think so its too much to getup for your own kids, afterall they are kids of him also not you alone, infact he should say that he will get up early for the kids and wanna giveu a small break, but there are very few people who do so

Not too much to ask at all. Wow you get up early. I rarely get to sleep in either. Sometimes I (especially around that time of the month) I have to just tell him that I need to sleep in and that he needs to feed the kids. But do you think he will send a breakfast upstairs to me? Nope.

I don't think you'll be asking too much with that. I think that's just fine.