Why do they judge?

It sounds like that Pastor doesn't really know the Lord very well. The Lord loves us right where we're at in life. We don't have to get perfect to be saved. He changes our lives once we let him into our life. From what you've shared that Pastor is quite hypocritical. He definitely formed his OWN opinion about the situation. His phrase, "God won't accept you into their church" is a key thing for you. God sent Jesus to Love you right now no matter how many sins in your past! That Pastor is out of line and needs to really get to know Jesus. The Pastor better be careful, because he's leaving God out of the picture and doing things on his own. I'm sorry you faced such a thing. Thing is.....He's human too, just like any of us. You need to forgive that Pastor for what he's done and leave it in the Lord's hands. God doesn't play favorites. We're all sinners to him. Don't let his sins affect you from continuing to practice doing whats right in God's eyes. I'm really surprised that he wouldn't marry you to allow you to go forward in your Christian life.

It sounds like that Pastor doesn't really know the Lord very well. The Lord loves us right where we're at in life. We don't have to get perfect to be saved. He changes our lives once we let him into our life. From what you've shared that Pastor is quite hypocritical. He definitely formed his OWN opinion about the situation. His phrase, "God won't accept you into their church" is a key thing for you. God sent Jesus to Love you right now no matter how many sins in your past! That Pastor is out of line and needs to really get to know Jesus. The Pastor better be careful, because he's leaving God out of the picture and doing things on his own. I'm sorry you faced such a thing. Thing is.....He's human too, just like any of us. You need to forgive that Pastor for what he's done and leave it in the Lord's hands. God doesn't play favorites. We're all sinners to him. Don't let his sins affect you from continuing to practice doing whats right in God's eyes. I'm really surprised that he wouldn't marry you to allow you to go forward in your Christian life.

Well ok I get what you are saying, but lets take me for example. I use to go to church every Sunday. Then I stopped and did some very wild things. I had two kids before I was married and was pregnant with my 3rd before I was married. Then my husband's family wanted me to go to church with them. But their Pastor wanted to talk to me. He at first was polite then started asking me why I commited so many sins against his God. I told him I cannot change my past and would not even try to change my past cause therefore I would not have the kids I have. He then told me that God would not accept me into their chruch. Forgiveness is a famous word in the Bible. This same Pastor is the same one that refused to marry my husband and I cause I had two kids that were not my husband's actual blood kids. BUT he married my husband and his ex-wife whom also has two kids and has never been married before, because her parents go to that church. You tell me that someone like the Pastor did not judge me and my kids.

You make a great point. I've come to find that most of the time people pointing out other people being judgemental are usually extremely judgemental themselves. That's why I cringe when someone even uses the word judge/judging as a negative.

I hear you there. I feel my sister misjudges me all the time. During my teenage years...I basically lived out the prodigal son story...I'm a daughter though.:) My older sister always obeyed our parents, followed the rules, and never questioned my parents guidance...perfect kid. Well, when I left home and the Lord humbled me and I returned home, my parents celebrated my return, just like in the bible story itself. My sister told me a few years after that she's like the the older brother that got jealous and didn't understand the mercy placed on the prodigal son (me). The Lord changed my life around and gave me my 1st car from an older woman that saw that I needed a vehicle. My sister shared with me that she questioned God about why I receive special things after living such a sinful life (in her eyes). She always tried to Save my husband's soul with books, in a kind way of course. My husband was saved and baptized already...maybe not living as a perfect Christian, but he felt condemned all the time from her and her husband. My husband and I went through a lot of hard times early on in our marriage, but the Lord kept us together. My sister's marriage ended after 16 yrs. of marriage, her husband left her for another woman. When my husband and I reached our 17th year of marriage, she told me....And I thought my marriage would last forever and not yours. That was hurtful to know she felt like that. We remained friends through all this, until my son and I both witnessed my nephew(minor) being kissed on the lips by a 35 yr. old man (friend to my sister) as you would a lover. I brought the information to her and she instantly told me I didn't see that and it didn't happen (denial). We talked to her Pastor, etc.. The man doing this denied it happened, my nephew admitted it at first and later changed his story. My sister doesn't believe it happened and refuses to do anything to protect her son from this man. Worst thing......she tells me she feels I'm judging her because I brought this forward. (I don't get it......Maybe she's judging me too deeply that she can't see the truth) I've turned it over to authorities and left it in God's hands. The judging bit......is too much for me! It's only by God's Grace that I know Jesus myself.

I do everything in my power not to judge other people, and when people judge me I tend to just let it go and try not to think about it. (i tend to get judged alot by one friend). It not only hurts the other person, but it also hurts the way you look to God (or at least I think) because he told us not to judge.

It depends what you mean by judging....are you condemning someone because you feel you're better than them. Then no shouldn't do that. If you're just determining what's good and bad about a person, but still caring about them...it's okay to make a judgement like that.

It's the biggest downfall to deal with, PRIDE! Pride causes you to have judgement that isn't what God intends for us. Pride is thinking you're better than others and that's not how God looks at any of us. We're all the same in his eyes. The only difference is some people have accepted Jesus and God now sees them through Jesus' eyes.

its a fake

He is the almighty and he can do whatever he wants. He is the great judge of us all.