How does it make you feel when your parents talk about dying?

sorry to hear that but why do not u accept the ground realty that day will come when u have to live without them

of course i feel sad and also feel regret.aybe i'm not give the goods thing for their life.. .........

I really hate them at that time...i asked to them to stop talking about this and i encourage them to live long...

you are right! though we knew that eventually, everyone will die..including our parents...but we always chose to believe that our own parents will live forever. i cant bear to think of them leaving me and not coming back anymore....actually it's good for us to be conscious of such thought....to appreciate the person by our side now.

My widowed (since three years ago this February 2) mom will be 85 this April, God willing, and I hope that, before she leaves, she'll have three digits in her age. She has told me that the time will be coming when she'll be doing something she's never done before. That's a nice way to think of it--however, I hope that her flight is delayed for many more years. It's hard to believe that my dad has been gone for as long as he has. While missing him in a lot of ways, I can still feel him with me. I'm going to post links to some beautiful places that might be of comfort to you or anyone else thinking about the time when they will lose a loved one or are already going through this. Because MyLot only allows so much pasting without a 500 rating, I'm going to go post the links elsewhere and put a link back here to this... http://www.judysbook.com/members/AJ1952Chats/2007/1/512355/

I can never imagine facing that situation or even thinking about my parent dying. As an only child, it will just be up to me to decide things like that and I just can't take the thought of it. In my mind, my mother will always be there for me and still thinks she is young and am the one growing old.

It is a very difficult thing to think and talk about. We just put it in the back of our minds. When the time comes, it will be hard enough to bear. I lost both my parents, and it hurt very much, and still does, as it will always. So talking about it brings fear of loosing someone you love. It is quite natural to feel that way.

It hurts me to even think about the possibility of my parents not being around. I really don't think they understand how it effects us when they say things like that. We know that all of us will leave this earth at some point but if I had one wish my parents would live forever. No one wants to lose anyone that they love and care about.

I get a bit tiffed also. I generally laugh at them and tell them they both know they're going to be around for 100 more years just to make sure the family behaves. We all know it is inevitable but why keep bringing up something that causes pain. Perhaps your mother is saying it because it scares her.

It means they are angry and taking differently. Do not make them angry.

very sad i think i cant lose them

I don't like it..Especially being an only child, I will be responsible for everything. Not that having siblins will make it easier when their parents die. But having someone to share the grief and responsibilities with is helpful

i hurts if your parents is not around to look for you..just like me i lost my mom and it really break my heart.. at first i cant do anything but to lock myself on my room..i dont even eat for almost 3 weeks because of losing my mom hurts me so bad..until one night i dream of my mom telling me that i should move on. she also told me that she will always look for me no matter where she was..and then when i woke up i cried and tell myself i have to move on for myself and my mother also..

My mother is 70 and lately she is talking about insurance policies and wills. She tells she has everything taken care of as far as if she gets ill. It's like she is now waiting to die. I just hate that attitude. She is only 70 and still has lots of time left. She is in very good health. So it makes me feel so bad when she talks that way.

It makes me feel devastated. My parents are both in there seventies and are starting to talk about this topic in front of me.

It was hard listening to my dad years ago. But we knew it would happen soon because his health was failing quickly. I just bit down and talked to him about what he wanted done and how he wanted things handled. We talked about things he wanted for me and his other kids and his well wishes. He asked me favors to do and secrets to keep. Even though it was very hard, it was something we both did to help accept that it would happen. Let each other know how much you love each other and reassure that everything happens in its own time. I may be sad...but it can be very therapeutic. My grandmother was holding on for a few days...my aunts could not see her to say goodbye. But they finally came in her room and told her how much they loved her and then left because they couldn't handle it. My mother stayed and then told her that it was ok to let go then. I am sure that it was really hard for my mother to say that to her mother...but there comes a point that it is helpful. They had already talked about what she wanted. So, I think that is what enabled my mother to be so strong and let her know it was okay to let go. When you and your parents are ready, you will talk about it. But...don't avoid it when they are ready. You will find, it really does help.

Yes I try to ignore the notion and pretend that it will never happen .. sometimes when someone talks about it ; it scares me to imagine how things will change when my parents or one of them will die .. What bothers me the most when my mother say remarks about herself will not live long when she is upset .. she use it as a kind of emotional blackmail sometimes but not in a mean way .. it just hurt me and disturb me much more than she thinks ..

They should never talk like that ,because it will hurt all those who loves them. Even though we are all die one day our loved ones will never like to imagine. It is the bond of love !

Life is impermanent, baby. Your mom and dad probably lived long enough to know that. Its paradoxial, really. The more you know that you're gonna die someday, the more you cherish the life that you have. Makes you think of all the better things you can do besides posting your $0.01 US worth of mylot posts.

This is same with me. I feel uneasy to continue talking to them for a while. I will either stop the conversation of try to divert it to something. Everybody is going to dye, but talking about is like facing a ghost :)