Why is saying I Love You so hard for some people?

Saying "I Love You" isn't hard for some people, it's just in their nature not to, maybe some people are more brighter than others, you being able to say "I love you" to your kids rather than your parents saying it to you is normal because I'm sure you actually grew up in a better environment than maybe your parents did and their generation was probably more strict than yours. Otherwise I think more people should say I love you. I LOVE YOU! That wasn't too hard ~ was it?

They afraid because they think that whether their ture love will fail and he could hear those words from his beloved ones directly. So they have this type of problem to get it

becoz if we showed to you and told you that it`s hard then you will think that is too harder than you think right now so people tell you that its ok you will get over it oon and you will 4 get....it`s true but it needs time .... we will be hurt coz it`s normal to be like that but you will not feel hurt to the rest of your life ...so try to forget and think about so thing els ...do things make you 4 get...that`s what I can tell you ...so Good luck with it....

some are just not expressive, like in our family, we dont say i love you to each other, but we hug, and say sweet jokes to each other. this is how we show love.

I LOVE YOU is universally accepted line and it means a lot. Sometimes it's for family members but most of the time it is used for lovers. Because of lovers use it becomes difficult for one to say I LOVE YOU.

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for me, saying I Love You really doesnt mean much at all....I do say it to my husband and naturally to my children and I mean it and they know it BUT more than that I SHOW THEM I love them and they do the same with me....i think its far too easy for ppl to just toss out the "I Love You" when it has no truth or meanign to it ya know...I think that saying it is fine but SHOWING it speaks volumes

Oh boy you touched a nerve with me. I am very free about telling those I care about "I love you", gett ing the response " I LOVE YOU TOO" with absolutely no feeling or sincerity just sits my mood to Cranky!!. Why is it so hard to marry someone and tell them once a day "Hey I Love You"? Well apparently it is, in fact with him it seems almost impossibly painful??? I cna't figure it out.... it hurts me and it sure could have been a deal breaker if it would have dawned on me 4 years ago. He knows how I feel about it and still he just can't bring himmself to say it. He's so good about everything else,, but those words just don't exist in his world I guess. His Mother and he had a terrible relationship, so I am sure that has something to do with it. Still unnerving to me. Haaaa- and I thought I could change all that!!::::: Sigh guess not. We are all here for such a short time, wouldn't it be easier to just make sure that we convery our true feelings while we are here.? Makes sense to me but apparently not to everyone. SO.... still looking for the answers but I know I hace to tell people how I feel. You may not get the chance tomorrow. Better to say it than regret not saying it later?

for me too, it's really awkward to say those 3 words. i can show that i mean it, i am very affectionate, but in our family, we were taught not to use words like 'i love you' or 'please', 'thank you'...bizarre, no? i never undertsood why, because coming in contact with people outside my family posed problems for me while growing up. i remember once, someone gave me a gift and i didn't say thank you, because well, i'd always been taught to keep those words to myself. but then, i was scolded and forced to say it because if not, this outsider would think i was ungrateful and rude! such a contradiction! likewise when i once asked my dad 'please' for something or other, he got really angry, saying 'please' makes me look like i'm pathetically begging for something, therefore he would not grant me the courtesy after i used this word :( as for the l-word, it just was never ever ever used in the family. my grandma used to tell me "secretly", like away from other family members, and though it made me feel good, i felt really squirmy too, because it had become such a 'banned word' in my household, that to hear it, made me awkward. i have had trouble with boyfriends because they were the type to throw the word around very loosely (which i also don't agree with since it cheapens it). for me, the only time it comes out verbally or in written form is when i feel EXTREMELY strongly, and towards someone like a lover, not so much family. oh, i'm thinking and feeling it, i just seem to choke up if i need to say it. i hate this about me, and i do blame my upbringing :(

I grew up in a broken family and my grandma and dad had favorites among us kids so no one said I love you or even Happy birthday... Now that I have my own kids, I tell them so many times in one day that I love them very much and I think they appreciate me as well because they love to hug me and kiss me.

For some of us who are used to hear I love you's from our parents, saying I love you to them in return comes out just naturally. Kisses and hugs just come about everytime we get close enough to each other. I feel sad when I hear some kids say they long to hear their parents will say I love you to them. I really do not get it. If you love somebody very much, can you ever stop yourself from showing and telling him how much you value him and love him? For me everyone deserves to be loved as we all came to this world because of love.

Nowaday the people think about themselves, tell I love you is difficult

for me is hard to say "i love you" i dont say that to anyone on my family, and i never had did, i only say "i love you" to my gf's, but i find it so hard telling it to my family, i think about me saying that, and i dont feel good.

everyone is different, i agree...i always find it hard to tell someone i love them, unless i really do love them. like with my partner, william, i couldn't tell him i loved him until i really knew i mean it. i think this is becuase i didnt want to say it unless i really did love him...thankfully he is the one for me, and we have been together for 20 months now :P which is great

I think that some people may have trouble saying I love you because maybe they have never been in love before and have never said this to anyone before. It could also be they are insecure about themselves and are worried about being rejected. Or they may be worried that the other person or people do not love them.

Well i guess it is human nature which is shy yea ... when people have such thick skin to say out i love you within a day of relationship , i wonder it is true love or physical love yea .... Love is so complicated

Love is hard to express in words when there are feeling inside that make it hard. When people have been hurt, and they have harbored those hurts inside with bitterness, then it is hard to express love to anyone.

Saying I LOve You is easy when the one your telling it to is really the one you truly love. why would you say I Love You in the first place to a person you don't really love. I mean do you just tell it to please her/him.

look for family members there is no need to say i love you,as this is self understood by every family member that his/her bro,sis,father,mother,grand parents always love him/her.

the story seems to me is the outcome of the upcoming science birth. the air that prevailed around and the atmosphere that we live in makes our habit comes like that only. not able to show your affection among our own family when we all want to judt points towards the gap in the emotion sharing that prevails . i also think is might be the only problem we face among our family, but outside that we are free with our friends,esp wife or girlfriend. it is all about the perception our mind has created. it has demarcate a virtual line or boundary that stops us to express ourself. but it just need a tip off. i mean just a step by you and every one will follow that. time is just waiting for a one break through. then it will become a culture of expressing with love.