is he really just not into me....

Initial thoughts as I read: That is GREAT for you, that he wants to get everything together. No matter how much you love him, having a stable environment in which your relationship may flower is always better for the both of you. My present fiancee came back from North Carolina so we could work things out, but didn't have a dime to his name. Now we struggle with money, and it has caused stress on the relationship. These things work themselves out, but he just wants more control over what happens to him and his future life. With you, perhaps! That is a good thing. Now, I got to the part where you said you haven't talked since New Year's Eve... if you are close, why such a long break in communication? That IS odd, and I would be cautious if this is regular. If you can fall madly in love with him after not talking for weeks almost a month on a regular basis, don't expect it to be the same for him. Make sure you know what he wants and be considerate of that. Even if he does want to get things together, being a steady force in his life will increase your chances of getting what YOU want: the relationship. Pushing a relationship on him will probably push him out of the picture. Happened to me before, too, girl! Even if you do want only him, can think only of him, don't sit at home and scribble his name on things. Go out, enjoy life, and never turn someone down for someone else you don't have all-the-way yet. If it's meant to be, it will be. Best of luck.

(((What can I do to make him commit?))) This is a secret a lot of women would love to be in on! The thing is, you can't. Only he can choose to commit to a relationship. It sounds like he is looking out for your best interest, especially since he knows you are in love with him. Maybe he loves you as a friend, but isn't in love with you... it's very gentlemanly of him to not take advantage of that. It also sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders and his priorities are in place.... that's a good thing! Personally, I think the best relationships start with great friendships. Your friendship may blossom into more over time but I wouldn't push things faster/further than he is willing to allow, especially if you are looking for a commitment with mutual feelings. Just keep working on your friendship with him and he may see that you are exactly what he wants in a woman. If you don't get the results you were hoping for, you'll still have a good friend in him and guys come a dime a dozen so don't sweat finding Mr. Right! Keep on being Ms. Right and your man will find you, whether it be him or some other lucky man!

nothing at all.you have already given your all.It sounds to me he is kind of leading you on because he knows you care for him,but his actions say there isn't a relationship growing,so why subject your self to the frustration of yearning for someone who wants you not?going out with other guys just to test yourself isn't really testing your self for these other guys don't have a chance with you.Your mind is some where else and you may just be missing out on some thing new and better the Lord may be trying to send you.stop fatasizing and wake up before you miss your blessing girl.