Kids and sports
By Debs_place
@Debs_place (10520)
United States
January 27, 2007 7:21pm CST
What sports did your kids play?
How did you feel about them and why?
Do you think they were good for your kids?
My son-
Swimming - started at age 3, was great for him, he took life guard test at age 10. Give him confidence.
Skating and hockey - started at age 3. Played until he was 19. Hockey was the most exciting sport, but so cold. Was very demanding on my time. Several practices a week and 2 or more games a weekend sometimes in several states. Very costly. Again gave him confidence.
T-ball - played for about 2 years at 4 or 5 or 6. Was way too boring for him and me.
Soccer - started at age 4. Was fall and spring. One practice a week, one game a week. Not too bad, got to meet a lot of nice people. He enjoyed it.
Lacrosse replaced soccer in middle school. Almost as exciting as hockey, not as expensive, or cold but I think almost as dangerous, very physical. He loved it.
Other sports he played- I did not see or get involved in - tennis, golf, racquetball, paint ball, roller hockey.
Did I mention- I do not like sports.
What are your opinion on parents coaching? How many parents that coach favor their kids unfairly?
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@raghavkumar12006 (104)
• India
29 Jan 07
My Kid is very much interested in Swimming and cycling. He is 8 years old. he also likes running race. he always comes first in running race.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It is nice when your kids win, not a happier smile then when they accomplish something.
@jmcafam (2890)
• United States
29 Jan 07
My kids played soccer and t-ball. I and they liked it. It gave them the oppertunity to play with other children and as a team. I have to say that there were some parents that were a little to competitive for my taste. They would yell and scream and just show all around bad sportsmanship.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Yes, living vicariously. We should be glad that these parents are not coaches.
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
28 Jan 07
My two boys played baseball football,and basketball. They played untill they were 18. My daughter played softball, and she was in dance. Tap, pointe, ballet and jazz.She started dance when she was 3 years old, and danced untill she was 19.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Wow, you spent a fortune on dancing lessons and costumes, I'll bet this cost more the hockey.
I forgot my son did something at a dancing school for a year it was more of a gymnastic class. That was costly. His hockey friend was into it. The kid stayed in, my son did not.
16 years of dance, that is the number of years we did hockey. It was so relaxing when it ended. Does your daughter teach now?
@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
since the age of 6 both of my children have always been active in sports. My son has always played soccer in the winter and during summer it's either tennis or indoor cricket. He also has done little athletics a couple of years. He is now 12 and loves his sport as much as ever. My daughter played basketball at district level until she was 12. Since then it has been all tennis, she plays tennis all year.
She has also been involved in volleyball and athletics at school. She is now 16 and loves her tennis, she would play it every day if she could. I think sports are fantastic for children and have many benefits, both for health and social reasons.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Yes, and your kids are too tired to get into trouble. I found that driving time to sporting events was also good talking time.
With some subjects it is easier to talk when it there is a bit of a distraction.
@AmberNormandin (883)
• United States
29 Jan 07
well right now my oldest daughter is 2 and since she was very small she loved to play with a ball. Im pretty sure she's going to play sports, im just not sure what yet, or when. Im thinking about starting her in swimming lessons this year (she'll be 2 and half) because she loves water SO much now. If i start her in sports around 3-4, ill just do one at a time and see which one she likes the best. i think its great that your son was able to play everything he wanted to and wasnt held back at all!
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I agree swimming is a must. It was the first thing I had my son do. My cousin drowned when I was 7. I think that was always in the back of my mind.
@kennisha4eva (84)
• United States
28 Jan 07
my kids play soccer baseball fastpitch and karate. I think that it is okay for parents to coach as long as they trat their kid the same and nt worse or better
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It sounds like you are kept busy too. What we do for our kids. Did your parents do that for you?
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
28 Jan 07
My kids were both swimmers. We spent many years taking them back and forth to lessons, swim team practices, and sitting through meets. Both did very well even though they were never major champions. My son played a little golf when younger. They both took several years of gymnastics and soccer at the local Y. My daughter was on the high school swim team for 3 years and lettered. My son went onto other pursuits such as band, chorus, and academic team. I never coached, because I didn't feel I was qualified. However, I watched other parents "sidelines" coach, and it was disgusting. Nothing like sitting there screaming and screaming at your child to "Push it, Sara" and then tell them off after each race in front of everyone for every little thing they did wrong. My kids were in it for skills, fun, and exercise.
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@Raissa1967 (801)
• Netherlands
28 Jan 07
My son (12) is playing soccer and my daughter (7) is dancing with a lunetics group. But before that they had to get their swimming diploma's. Becaurse we have a lot off water near the house that was the most important thing. After that the could choise for themselfs. They enjoy it a lot and that should be. I drive them and go look at them but dón't coach them. I would be unfair becaurse you always want your childeren to win. I hate unfairness so the best way is to support your kid and let the coaching to somone else.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I agree with you swimming is important and leave the coaching to the coach.
And you are right, the kids should choose for themselves. The way I see it, my job as a parent is to give my kid enough information to make their own choices.
I forgot - my son also skiied and had a blue or purple belt in tae kwan do.
I taught him to ski. After hockey it was easy - 3 hours out and he was blowing down intermediate slopes.
@vekyengineer (1079)
• India
28 Jan 07
In this world the kids mostly like playing Cricket but i will allow my childrens to play Basket ball or Foot Ball and also i will teach them Swimming
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
28 Jan 07
All 3 of my kids play ice hockey. While it can be an expensive sport, if it's your passion you will find a way. The type of people it attracts seem to be hard to explain, other than "you're a hockey family"... we're kinda strange, passionate about the game and know we can trust each other above and beyond any other families. There's just a bond there that forms, especially through the years. Of course there's always "bad" that come in.. but they usually weed out quickly. I guess it comes from generally, if you're willing to put out that kind of money for a sport and ice time, etc., get up early mornings when no human being is even aware of the world around you, sit in a cold rink and scream and yell to enjoy times with your kid... you're going to be a caring parent! LOL I've rarely if ever seen another sport that breeds such close relationships between teammates and families.
My son, high school, this year has expressed interest in joining team sports such as baseball and football. I'm not sure whether he will do it or not. He's signing up for baseball I believe. Football runs sort of in line with hockey, so not sure what he will do.
As for parent coaches... I personally understand it, as it's a great way for a parent to bond with their kid and take an interest but I do think that most, not all, tend to get to into their kids' actions and can either abuse the power by not giving all kids on the team a fair chance or abuse their power by belittling their own child, expecting perfection. I've seen both. There are some though that deal with it well.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Of course hockey parents have to be close, they do that to keep warm. Plus if you do a lot of tournaments, you travel together, often have holiday dinners together - Thanksgiving at Denny's, exchange Christmas gifts and celebrate births together. There are also the hard time, deaths and illness. But you are right, hockey parents are a special breed, they stick together and take care of each other.
My son thought about football one year, but he was only like 130 pounds, figured he was too small, so never physicalled for it. Through the summer he grew some 7 inches and gained 60 pounds, but that was ok, I don't like a sport where they have to have an ambulance on the sidelines. And the first few months conflict with hockey.
The closest we came to you was Niagara Falls - the festival of light tournament - then states at Geneseo.
You ever get to any of those? What about Hershey Park. We went there one year for a Christmas tournament, it was so warm many of the park attractions were open.
@marriedman111399 (1207)
• United States
28 Jan 07
My kids play baseball and t-ball. Baseball for my older kids and t-ball for my daughter who is 5. I think that it is very important that kids play sports because it keeps them active and helps them meet new friends. They get alot of exercise which is good because they dont play too much sports if any during the winter. My sons also play football.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
MY son thought T-ball was boring, one time I asked him - what do you like better -Mom, hockey, I skate, I shoot, I score. T-ball, I stand and hope someone can hit the ball.
I think he did 2 years maybe of whatever was next, but he was the catcher, less boring, less time on the bench.
Yes, it is good exercise and them meet new kids, always a good experience.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Hello. I have a 14 year old daughter. I too used to play some sports in school. My daughter always wanted to do what other kids were doing in school, so we got her into basketball, and softball. she only played 1 season of each. She didn't like it. When my daughter played softball, another girls dad was the coach. Well when that little girl would strike out or be out from being tagged her dad would throw a fit, the little girl would go back to the bench crying. They made that girl get in every school event there was to get in. I'm not sure if that little girl even had enough time to sleep. That girl still made the A&B honor roll. How, I have no clue. They put that kid in so many things. I'm surprised that kid could even remember her name. The worst thing of all, is that her parents expected her to be the best player in whatever they put her in also.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It sounds like they were trying to live vicariously through their daughter. That is a lot of pressure on a little kid.
I had dreams of my son playing piano. That lasted about 7 weeks. The piano teacher asked if he knew what it meant to crossover. He gave a very good description and demonstrated - how he would do that while skating both forward and backward. That was his last piano lesson - his body was by the piano - his head was at the rink.
@ankur_123_jaiswal (124)
• India
28 Jan 07
let the children play becas this is the time for them to play, once the age is passed there is boone to play them, moreover its there bron right to play it keeps them healthy and make them grow well in a good manner. But always keep a watch that they dont play that games which can hurt them thats it.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Oh we had many sports injury - none major. Unfortunately no sport cvan guarantee no injuries.
@cockadoodledoo (337)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
Like yourself, I am not a sport lover, thats for sure. Both of my kids are fortunately both very athletic. Whilst they are in primary school I allow them to play for the school teams, although the teams are almost extinct now. Oldest sons plays soccer and softball for the school and they love it. It helps them prepare for life in someways. They work with a team and learn rules and how to play fair. The youngest is in year 2 and his school dont allow school sports until they are in year 3. It can be expensive as you have said. My sons soccer team had one of the mothers as coach. If her son wandered off the field she didnt care. It was a different story though if one of the other team members did it. If her son had a dummy spit, she ignored him but once again, the other kids got sent off. All of the schools soccer teams are coached by the mothers as there seems to be very, very, little father interest although they like to stand there and watch.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
You have seen some of the same things. You know one unfair coach like that is too many.
You are right, does help them prepare for life.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
28 Jan 07
My daughter plays basketball, softball, soccer, and dance.
She is currently playing basketball- It runs from November to April.. I know its a long season-- This is her first year (most kids on the team started last year). Practices are monday and wednesdays and Games every saturday- So yes it is very time consuming. My daughter loves it- Its great exercise-- Keeping active in the cold winter months is great for kids. She has learned to play better as a team, hand/eye coordination, self-confidence- and how to lose like a winner.
Soccer- Boy this was alot of running... For her- She liked it. Practices were tues/thurs and so were games. Practiced for 1 month and games for 2 months. Soccer gave her more coordination, alot of exercise, and made new friends.
Softball-- Same 2 nights a week, games on 2 nights and an occasional Saturday. She loves this sport- Played for 4 years now. She is getting better with each year. Softball gave her coordination, being a team player, helped her to encourage younger kids.
I coached softball for the last 3 years- No I do not treat her better- actually I was harder on her than the other kids. I knew when she wasn't given her all and let her know. I expected her to do better- I went and coached the all-star team as well. Last year was my last year coaching.. I realized that she does much better with alot less attitude if I'm not a coach! Plus she is moving up to the next league.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It is good to hear of a Mom coaching. I never got into sports that much so I would not even consider it.
I think sports are important to girls - it teaches them how to compete which is very important when they go out to work in a man's world (and though I hate to say it...it still is one).
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@shah_1448 (156)
• India
29 Jan 07
I do not have kids if i have one i would like him to play snookers.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I hope it is more then a few, it sounds like you may have had some bad experiences with the coaches.
@candygurl093 (201)
• United States
29 Jan 07
they play soccer baseballand karate and they like it and the parent coaching is ok but they have to treat their children right