a boyfriend online confess he has a bipolar disorder

When someone is bipolar they have mood swingsthat go from extreme highs to extreme lows. During the manic/extreme high phase they feel pretty invincible, will start projects, quit jobs, and other things that are impulse based and not carefully planned. When they are in their drepressed/extrem low phase, they might cry for hours at a time, feel worthless and hopeless, stop eating,any number of things. I think a marriage with a bi polar person could be extremely difficult that the illness should have been disclosed before any talk of marriage took place. There may be a hereditary factor associated withthe condition so the information is critical in making decisions about having children. Your friend would be totally justified in breaking off the relationship, not just because of the bi polar problem, but also because the information was kept from here. A relationship that has that kind of secret cannot last. Someone who would withhold such critical information cannot be trusted.

I am also bipolar. First of all there should be no reason to worry about forgetting his medication. Just get all prescriptions filled ahead of time. We went a away for 3 weeks this summer, though the time difference was only 1.5 hours I did fine. It was good for me to get a change. I know bipolar can be a worry to this girl but she can read books about it, research the internet, and even see a counsellor if possible. I am a firm believer that bipolar people do not hurt someone any more than a non bipolar person. If they got married the girl has to realize even though he is medicated he still will experience some highs and lows. And for your final question, genetics can play a factor in getting bipolar. The way the doctor explained it to me is it has to have more than one factor for bipolar to take place.

My 17 year old daughter has Bi-polar and is on medication. I just informed someone on this site that she is Bi-polar and if he still wants to meet with her I gave him her email. I suppose I'll see what happens and let you know. Its always is a good idea to tell people ahead of time that you have some sort of a disorder instead of beating around the bush cause eventually in the end the truth always comes out and makes matters worse.

Well, I don't really know about this, but I think your friend shouldn't left her boyfriend because of this. Leaving him, is only make him more depressed. I think she is the one who can help this guy get through his depressed. And since she already love him, then ask her to accompany him, as long as she can, so when they get married later, the bipolar disorder is no longer with that guy anymore. Hope this can help you.

She has every right to fear his disorder. My niece is married to a man who is bipolar. Bipolar people have mood swings. It is almost like they become someone else at times and they do not realize they are not themselves. He also is on medication for it. bipolar people tend to be more depressed than the normal person. It truly is a mental illness, but I do not see where it would absolutely affect their relationship as far as marriage unless he does not take his medication properly. However, it would be a constant fear to me because bipolar people change their moods at the drop of a hat sometimes and they cannot control their actions some of the times. My niece and her husband do not seem to have any problems in their marriage that the bipolar illness affects. Not all people respond to biploar alike and your frineds marriage may turn out to be a wanderful thing for the both of them.

the best advise i can give you to give to your friend is this. she should go to the doctors with him and ask the Doctor these questions each case of being bipolar is different.most doctors of the mental disorders encourage this so i don't think it would be a problem for her to schedule and appointment with him to be there. no one person has the same exact symptoms as another.the doctor should know what his individual's is. there is two type's of bi polar disorder. type 1 and type 2. the Doctor would know and could warn of what to be aware of in his case.and tell you if he has his symptoms under control. once she has talked to his Doctor then she can make a decision if she wants to be with him or not. she can make the choice knowing all the facts in his case. this will no doubt be a hard choice for her to make. but many bi polar people function very well, ever hear of Elton John, the famous singer, he is bipolar many famous people are. if she don't want to go to the doctors with him at least do a search of some educational material online about Bipolar. as they say ignorance is a bliss but knowledge is power. do some home work :)

i guess there's nothing to be afraid about it, unless the guy has annoying attitude or distructing habits (you know what i mean). bipolar disorder is not that harmful but having relationship with some one has this kind of illness has to be very patient... a lot of patient. bipolar disorder is kinda extreme mood problem like being so happy in a day, maybe in an hour, and after that being so depressed for no reason day (or hour) after. please go to bipolar.com for more detailed information about this illness. have a nice day!!

Lots of people have bipolar and function just fine. It doesn't mean he's crazy. I might consider whether or not to have children with him, because there is a genetic component, but there is nothing that says he can't be a wonderful partner.

Oh that is a bit strange why he cannot go to the Philippines just because he has a medical reason, I do not think this is right. Yes it is a mental disorder bipolar, no there is no need to be scared of it at all all that this man with bipolar has to do is to make sure that he does sleep properly and especially to take his medication while he is sick, and no I have never heard about them hurting anyone not bipolar, and no their marriage would not be affected by this either, but yes their children could inherit the illness.

She need not be nervous of his bi-polar disease ,generally people with this disorder are on medication and it helps them through the day but it is not something she needs to worry about . It means that things in his life are different for him then for us . For example there was a guy one time that had bi-polar and couldn't eat apple pie without putting potatoes on it . He didn't know the reason but it was his bi-polar . They tend to get agitated and not know what the reason behind it is , stuff like that . That is what the medication is for to balance things out for them . It is inherrited but it is nothing dangerous . If she loves him now he is still the same person that she fell in love with .

People who love those with bipolar have a tough time - they also go through a lot of pain.. Two of my relatives have it and it's almost a full time job for their loved ones to deal with the imbalances and crises. You have ato be a strong person and really really love them top be able to help them. It's great that the guy is honest though.

I really think any disease whether it be mental or not shouldn't affect your love for the person. If you trully love them you will be there with them no matter how ill they are and be willing to work through the harder times. There definitely would be a big adjusting period for everyone though. I myself have Bipolar Disorder, not everyone who has it fits the stereotype of what you see on television. On TV they usually only show the very extreme bipolar. I've never hurt anyone, thought of hurting anyone or myself and I've never been delusional. I do take a few medications for my symptoms and I have horrible sleep problems, and I do get a bit snappy, but like most people I have my bad days and good days. Just takes a lot more for me to get out of my moods. Not everyone with bipolar is what most people would say CRAZY. I'm not able to hold a full time job at this point. I'm only working part time now, but other than that I'm functioning well. My one friend also has it and we live far apart but always make sure we're there to talk on the phone and give each other as much support as we can. Its really all about being there to support the person I find thats what makes me feel better. If you ever want to chat or ask me any questions feel free. I'd love to chat more about it :) -Stephanie

hey cheenlly, i dont actueally know about this dissorder but i think she should talk about this thing with that gye,he should be able to tell her what is it all about.here its not a jock, when marriage is cunsern she should know every single thing about him, only love dosent work in marriage.please tell your frnd to remove as much as possible every single details about him and his dissorder.and then deside weather to get married to him or not.im telling this things because even im committed to a gye having TB but im preety sure about his dissorder n i know every single yhing about him n being practicle is much more sencible then being just emotional. i hope i have given you a fare kind of answer....

i have a friend who have a bi-polar disoder or manic-depressive, they arent scary and i can say that they are normal though they should have their medication on time. They needed much love and understanding so if your friend is willing to do all that for love then i think it shouldnt be a problem. It is inheritance if her bf have it on his genes, although there are instances that the children won't inherit it. You can try to research about bi-polar, lots of site offering many info about it.

i'm sure others have already said it, but being bi-polar isn't bad unless he stops taking medication. yes it is a mental dissese. it just means his emotions run wild for no reason. he may be smiling and laughing one minute and then throwing a chair acrossthe room the next. the medication they take prevents outbursts like that. people who are bi-polar experieance all type of emotion from happy to depression. as long as he takes his medication, things should be alright.

I think that before anybody makes decisions to marry they should spend some time together - actual time together as opposed to time on the net. So if your friend lives in Philipines, where does this guy come from? Does this mean that he will be totally inflexible with regard to where they live if they were to set up home together or get married? I knew a girl once who suffered with this illness, the medication she was on gave her a lot of side effects and I must say she would have been a difficult person to live. On the other hand, people can live normal lives if their medication is right for them. I think your friend should really live with this guy before she makes any big committment to him such as marriage!

with medication he should do alright if she is willing

Bipolar disorder can affect people lives. However, i wouldnt say that it is a good enough reason to end a relationship. I know someone with this disorder and all it does is affect some of thier moods from day to day. It does not mean they will be violent towards anyone. There are many fears attached to mental disorders that really need to be explained to people to avoid discrimination.