my bf frend is htting on me
By wyldechylde
@wyldechylde (139)
Canada
January 28, 2007 1:00am CST
So I have a problem my boyfriend has a friend at school who lives in the same town as me and he asked him to start drving me up on weekends so I can visit him and he dosnt hav to pay for the bus all the time. Mainly I go up for parties and stuff. And his friend said yes and at first I thought he was really nice.
But the last couple of times Ive ridden with him in his car hes been hitting on me and telling me Im pretty and this morning on the ride up he put his hand on my leg and told me he liked me a lot. And I dont like him at all hes kind of greasy and besides I have a boyfriend who is supposed to be his friend.
So I just keep saying no thank you and I dont think Mark would like it and stuff like that but he wont stop. And I dont want to make him mad because if I do he wont drive me any more and Ill have to stop going up for parties and I dont want to do taht but I really dont like him hitting on me. I dont know what to do. What do you think? If I tell my bf it will cause lots of trouble so I dont know.
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24 responses
@Goranimal (315)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Well considering your 22 years old and a grown woman i'd think you would be able to handle a situation like that. What do you love more, your bf or going to parties? be an adult and tell your boyfriend what happened
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@jess1874 (1021)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I think its better that you tell your boyfriend and let him know whats going on before his friend tries to do something else to you. And i would not ride in a car if someone keeps putting their hands on me and hitting on me. That's just my opinion though.
@nanands (122)
• India
28 Jan 07
I think you are getting your priorities mixed up here. What is more important: keeping away from a creep or getting to parties at any cost. Tell your boyfriend what is happening. It is possible that this creep may boast off to someone that he is hitting on you and you dont protest too much. The word will get around to your boyfriend who is likely to think that you are two-timing. Are there no parties in your town? Why cant your boyfriend travel from school with your 'driver'. Then you can attend parties in your town. That way you will be safe!
@wyldechylde (139)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
My bf lives in town and his friend lives here and drives up on weekends. My bf dsnt have a car to get down here so he cant come and pick me up. I never thot of him thinking I was messing around with him thats really bad! But I told him this morning so now he knows and it was ok.
@Cherry_Eve (285)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
Well, I think you should talk to your boyfriend, since he was the one who ask you to go with his friend. And also, your boyfriend supposed to know that his friend is doing something bad to you behind his back. Try to discuss this when you meet you boyfriend, and tell him that you don't like his friend. I think your boyfriend is the one who must fix this, not you, since that guy is his friend.
@wyldechylde (139)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
You are probably right. Im glad I posted about here everybdy gives me very good advice when I dont know what to do.
@Himanshu007 (388)
• India
28 Jan 07
Ignore that person. Dont allow him even talk to you.It will be OK after sometimes. Don't make mess.
@wyldechylde (139)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
Thank you for your advice. Im just worried that this will mean I wont get to visit my bf any more because I wont have a ride.
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 07
well...thats not a very good reason to use him for driving you to the party.your save is suppose to be no.1 you know. if he hitting on you again next time tell him to stop it otherwise you will tell ur bf about this.and if he didnt stop then you got tell your bf about this.but i think its better if you tell ur bf u dont want his friend to drive u anymore because of he's hitting you.otherwise that guy could go to ur bf b4 u do and tell ur bf the opposite story.
@shamilton712 (99)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I would tell him if I were you. Eventually it will come out and you don't want your boyfriend's friend to try and accuse you of being the aggressor. Besides your boyfriend has the right to know who his true friends are and obviouslly this guy is not true. Tell your boyfriend!!!
@mindz_me (179)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Its better to tell your boyfriend about what his friend doing to you. I think he will more believe you than his friend. You can take a ride in a bus or taxi if your worried about the ride going to your school or to party. What is a free ride if it makes you uneasy? and you can ask your boyfriend to visit you. There's still other ways aside from taking a free ride from a guy who is so unpolite. Hope everything's gonna be ok
@Bangalorean (1282)
• India
29 Jan 07
Its hard to understand how could one person continue with a guy, who has be abusing you and yet call him your boyfriend. Please comeout of it and treat him as any stranger and then you would be able to handle the situation more better.once u attach some strings to a problem, you will never see a solution.
@monikavash (20)
• Nepal
29 Jan 07
hey,,,,, its nice that you are driven to your bf by his friend......
and he takes u to some party...
but where is your dignity???
how can you do that to yourself ???
soon or later your bf wil know it and when he does its gonna be bad...
so better tell your self...
some other way might rise by which you might meet your bf...
@Kackie3 (345)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I think you should tell your boyfriend that you can't go visit him anymore, and when he asks why, tell him the truth. Let him know that it is getting to be more and more uncomfortable for you to ride with his friend when he puts pressures on you like that. It could lead to something seriously dangerous for you to continue to ride with him alone. Maybe you could take a girlfriend with you so you wouldnt have to be alone with him during the ride. That's just my opinion though.
@hellboi (661)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
seriously talk to the guy that you are committed and in love with his friend. if that won't make him stop then do not take his offer for a ride, go take the bus or ride with some of your other friends. if you keep on riding with him even if he's already making his way into you, he might get the impression you are just playing hard-to-get. so avoid him as much as you can and if your boyfriend asks, tell him the truth. your should stay honest with your boyfriend so that trust won't be an issue with your relationship
@chumm525 (169)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
i think you should stop seeing and talking to this kind of guy. you should avoid him, get rid of him in to your life, because he can ruin your relationship w/ your boyfriend.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I think you should tell your boyfriend as this guy is no friend if this is how he treats his friends . And he shounds sly , I think I would be a little nervous of someone like this . What if he gets tired of you saying no one day and tries more then what he has been tring . You have already informed him you are not interested and he is not accepting you no as a no .
@niggard_tere (214)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
dont ever talked to him again. If your really love your bf dont mind his friend and better to stay away from him. He is not really a friend if he tries to take you from your bf. You should know what to do since you dont like him better to take a bus rather than to be with him? what do you think?
