how do you fight when you are depressed or stressed out?
By abhisree
@abhisree (520)
India
January 28, 2007 2:18am CST
With stress mounting in people's lives, everyone seems to be getting finicky, tensed, irritable, short-tempered, having sleepless nights - all the initial signs of mismanaging oneself which eventually leads to depression,if remains uncontrolled. We all go through such phases in our lives sometime or the other when everything seems to be wrong, when we feel there is nothing left in our lives, and sometimes when we feel that life is not worth living. People not necessarily always realize that they are falling into depression and thus most of us do not find what is wrong, forget finding a cure for it.
The reason i want to discuss the techniques people use to fight back is to see how we can tackle depression or stress. I intend to benefit myself along with others with your unique ideas and suggestions. If anyone wants to discuss a problem he/she is welcome to do so. Thanks to all of you for reading and responding to my discussion. Have a "depression-free" day and keep smiling!!:)
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6 responses
@elisata (568)
• Netherlands
30 Jan 07
I don't FIGHT my depression, that's what I've been doing for decades without knowing it... Nowadays I CANALIZE it. Avoid seeing people, don't pick up the phone unless I know it's my husband (he has his own ringtone), don't eat much and certainly don't start stuffing myself with food, 'cause I know I will have to bring down my weight again afterwards and that alone is depressing... LOL. In short, I sleep a lot, watch some silly tv, surf the internet a bit... just waiting for the depression to pass. My husband tries to get me out of the house (Shall we go for a stroll?) but only in my last days of depression I am to be talked into that...
I just lay low... Fighting just makes it last longer, and who wants that?
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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28 Jan 07
Well I am very familiar with the signs. My mother, when I was 12 years old, fell into a depression that lasted for I know 14 years. I took care of her until I was 19, then I ran away and left my brother to tend to her for 7 years. Finally when I was 26, I had my first child and moved next door. By having her feel needed, with me being a new Mother and all, she came out of it.
I do believe tragic occurrences can bring depression on, more so than a chemical imbalance. However, either way having one's self-surrounded by a support system of friends greatly increases ones chance of over coming it. Therefore, that is one way I battle stress and depression. I have a great support system available to me night and/or day. My friends hear me out and are great at telling me NOT what I want to hear, but what I need to hear. It's amazing how much of a diffrence this can make.
@abhisree (520)
• India
30 Jan 07
its great that you share such a good rapport with your friends. people who are close to us are vital in fighting against depression. my mum has been in depression for the past 20 years and yet she is not out of it. she had a traumatic experience after which she tends to see our concern for her as our complaints with her. though she is getting better but yet i find her quite depressed. the basic problem is that she would not want to hear anyone out. anyways thanks for your response:)
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
29 Jan 07
It's great you have friends that will support you and at the same time reflect things to you. As you said sometimes they tell you things you need to hear - that's what a true friend is and it helps more than someone pandering to your moods.
And I agree with the problem being trauma, emotional issues. These can be sorted out. Sounds like you had a tough time there with your mum. It's great she came out of it.
A bottle of champagne and a toast to your support people.
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@inflamation (866)
• Pakistan
28 Jan 07
Well basically my first prioroty is that I don't talk to anyone because when I am depressed I am not just only sad but also have feeling of anger running in my body and if someone says something wrong to me or tries to disturb me I just raise up my hand over that person wether he or she is nearer to me or what ever.
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
I can relate to this. Anger is only a mask for other emotions. Underneath my anger was hate, then lots and lots of sadness. But when I was in my depressions I didn't want help from anyone and even though I never would have, I wanted to kill something, anything! Not good, but that's how I felt.
It's hard to help someone when they are like this as well. When I was in this I didn't want any help because it was everyone else's fault.
And I hated talking.
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@abhisree (520)
• India
30 Jan 07
thats quite true for most of us. we all feel angry when depresses and try to stay alone.thats what even i did until i came to know that it increases depression and loneliness rather than reducing it!!thanks for your comment but you have not suggested a way of fighting it:)
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
23 Oct 10
i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.
