To forgive is to approve?
By ready2earn
@ready2earn (435)
Italy
January 28, 2007 5:41am CST
To forgive is to approve?
If you forgive a person for something they did, does this mean that you approve of what they did?
Is the other person, if they are forgiven, to think that if they are forgiven something, then this is also approved?
If you think that to forgive is to approve -- Why do you think so, what are your arguments for thinking this way?
If you think that to forgive and to approve are two different things -- Why do you think so, what difference do you make between forgiveness and approval, what are your arguments for thinking this way?
6 responses
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
29 Jan 07
you asked if forgiving and approval are the same things?
no,no,no,to me they don"t.
i try to forgive my brother for what he did.
but i will never approve what he did to me.
forgive him is good,so i can move on with my life.
but approve it is not possible.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
28 Jan 07
on my own point of view, when i forgive someone, it does not mean that i totally forget what that person has done to me. forgiving means going on with life. i don't forget because i keep the memories in me not to feel bad about it over and over again but to bring the learnings i've learned through such a bad experience. so, when i forgive someone, it does not mean that i approve that what she's/he's done to me was okey. totally not. i just want to move on in life. that's why.
@ready2earn (435)
• Italy
28 Jan 07
Good point of view, thanks for sharing it.
Do you usually forgive people?
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
29 Jan 07
you asked if forgiving and approval are the same things?
no,no,no,to me they don"t.
i try to forgive my brother for what he did.
but i will never approve what he did to me.
forgive him is good,so i can move on with my life.
but approve it is not possible.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
In my book forgiveness is akin to acceptance, but not approving.
It's such a foggy line this one. I think forgiveness is to accept that the other person is as you are, means has the same human failings. It's a humbling admission of our humanness.
Approval is like saying "yes, it's okay that you did those things to me". When clearly it was not okay.
I have found it very difficult to forgive some people, their role in my life was abhorant. I can accept that things happened and move on. And I can only take forgiveness in it's highest form which is that of our human shortcommings. A bit like "Forgive them, they know not what they do".
@ladyjava (1184)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 07
never heard this one before... but to me.. when i forgive someone does not mean i approve of what they do... before forgiving someone.. i normally would talk to the person and explain why i was mad etc.. how and what can be done about it, if any, and then forgive and move on.. i would definitely explain to the person that what he/she did is not something i approve and asked him/her not to do it again...
