No divorce, please, we’re Catholic
By ronaldinu
@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
January 28, 2007 10:55am CST
Malta seems to be the only country in Europe were divorce is not allowed. The debate whether divorce should be introduced or not has been going on for years. Let's say you are against divorce and there is a referendum about this subject, would you vote in favour of it to be introduced in your country, or against? What are your reasons behind your actions?
7 responses
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I would have to say divorce should be allowed under specific circumstances like: adultery, abuse...mental and emotional. Even in Bible days divorce was allowed for specific reasons. Adultery was one of the main reasons. Some people can handle it and work through it, but most people can't. Marriage is a very serious commitment that needs not to be taken too lightly. Your hearts and life together with children all rotate around your marriage being successful, but it takes two people to make it work.
@Tellknow1 (604)
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29 Jan 07
This is a tricky one if you are a catholic, which I am. Fundamentaly I do not agree with divorce, I think it is way to easy for people to get divorced these days, a lot of people, and I am not saying all, take marriage to lightly and as soon as things start going wrong rather than trying to work things out they take the easy option and opt for divorce. Here in the UK I think the law now states that you have to have been married for 2 years before you can apply for a divorce (but I wouldn't swear to that so please don't jump on me if I have got that wrong)
On the other hand I don't believe a couple should stay together if it is a clear as day that the relationship is not working, is never going to work and is doing more harm than good. So there I would have to agree to divorce.
I think in Malta, what they are trying to achieve is to get people to think very carfully before they commit themselves to marriage, is it something the couple concerned are ready for, have they taken all the implications into account etc.
With the worldwide divorce rate standing at 50% I think this shows peoples lack of belief in marriage and commitment. Sadly we live in a 'throw-away' society, where it is easier to throw something away rather than to fix it, and what is sadder still, this now applies to marriage as far as some people are concerned.
So, after saying all that, what would I do in a vote 'for or against' divorce. I would vote against.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Jan 07
In my opinion marriage is something sacred and should last a lifetime. Since I am a Catholic I am against divorce in theory.
I am aware that if you allow divorce for specific circumstances like adultery and abuse you are opening a small window and all requests would be channelled in that direction.
However when I see other married people suffering because of a bad decision made when they were immature, I dont think it's fair to let them suffer for their life.
I think that annullment have been used in the catholic church as a safety valve for those who are rich and can hire the best lawyers to defend their cause.
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I'm curious since they don't allow divorce do they allow anullments since I know the Church does? Figured it doesn't hurt to ask.
I think I would vote it in. I'm not neccessarily for divorce although I can see why it happens in some cases but I do believe everyone should have the right to choose for themselves. Marriage, like many other subjects, deals with something that is very personal and really only the persons involved can answer if it is really neccessary and not an outsider. I think we need to leave it up the individual and not impose our own beliefs.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Jan 07
Yes anullments are given, both by the church and the state. If you can manage to prove that manage never existed than yes you might be give an anullment.
@mirceaeliade (631)
• Italy
28 Jan 07
Your question is very fine and good. I try to get you a good anwer, therefore i've a bad english. In my opinion the divorce, where it's good, can be make. There are too religion not only christianity, but a lot too ( like Musilm, Buddhism etc ). Than your question must to see to point of wiev of all religion. Thanks very much for your care and attention!
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@toyboxer04 (353)
• Malta
29 Jan 07
I agree that Malta is introduced to divorce. Though I don't have marriage problems, I wish people who have marriage problems could get on with their life. If anything they will leave the husband/wife just the same.
Though I beleive that what God ties Man should not break, I stick to the reality many times. I imagine people can be destucted having to tolerate a not understanding husband/wife. Firstly we must always try to sort the differences there are between couples before opting for divorce. If this is impossible then divorce is the only solution.
When we have referendum about divorce, I will vote in favour, there are so many broken couples living with other partners. Divorce will regulate their position.
@kurtdon (143)
• Malta
28 Jan 07
Hey buddy! I am a Catholic, although I do not follow mass regularly. This is a very hot topic, but I am in favor of divorce. I have many reasons, and I will tell them to you. I think it is bad for a country to remain too 'old' or conservative when it comes to this issue. I think people must have a right to see and re-marry if they want to. Thats just my opinion, so if there was a referendum, I would vote YES for divorce. Ciao man ;)
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@lifeisbeautiful (479)
• India
28 Jan 07
Well, first of all thanks for that intresing info. I was not aware of it. That has improved my GK :)
Now as far as the above subject is concerned, i think relations are based on mutual understanding and it goes much beyond the scope of legal/documented formality. I have come acoss many couple who are legally partners but i dont see any 'relation' in between them as such. I mean, it looks like, even if they dont live with each other, it wont make much of the difference to either of them.
I am of belief that its better to sort out things by mutual communication rather than taking the legal way.
The law should be there, i dont deny it, its very necessary to have a law. What i am saying is that, people should not look for laws to settle issues like relations.
The relation of husband-wife should be like friends. Like you dont need any certificate for making or breaking freindship, the same way one should not take consider legal formaliy to conclude that there relation is over. He can obboiusly feel that it is not working anymore.
However, for settling down the monetory dsputes regardning distribution of weatlh and property, law is a must.
So final words, law is a must, but lets try our best, not to make delicate issues like relationship a subject of laws :)
Cheers !
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@swtlady (51)
• Malta
19 Aug 08
I think I would vote against divorce.I think if we allow divorce now that we're in the E.U. we r letting go of our beleifs.If we accept divorce then it will have to be yes for abortion and yes for euthanasia.If you think that you are mature enough to get married and you really know the person go ahead but I don't agree with those that marry very young cause you don't know the person well.I think that divorce would be accepted till a certain point;court has to deceide for certain extreme cases for the couple to be divorced.Even though here in Malta since we are a very small population corruption is expected in every case.It's really confusing and it's a huge dilemma
