Love old people or send them to old house??
By saadkhalid_
@saadkhalid_ (51)
Pakistan
January 28, 2007 11:05am CST
I've heard that in most of the western countries people just send their parents to old houses and feel that their parents are a burden on them... I feel this is really strange because when they were small children they also were a burden on their parents but they never deserted them, they never quit... so why do their children do??? what will you people do to your folks when they get old?? love them or desert them??
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4 responses
@pooksywooksy (1006)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
Sometimes, the old people is the one who choose not to stay with the family. They want to have their own place, their own space, as well. So, it's not always the case that the parents who are old being neglected or deserted by their children.
Sometimes also, due to some illness, the parents can not stay with their kids.
As per my parents, I will give them the choice to choose, whether they want to stay with me or they want to be by themselves.
One thing for sure, I would try my best to live a bit closer to them just for a piece of mind.
@saadkhalid_ (51)
• Pakistan
28 Jan 07
hmmm... may b you are right. actually i don belong to a country where this happens.. this is why i don have any idea that what happens.. anyways thankx for increasin my info.. :)
@marjonelle (798)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
But of course I will care for them as long as they and I live. But with regards to the Westerners that you mentioned. In fairness to them, it doesn't mean that they are deserting their parents when they were sent to the care homes. They are just busy with their works and stuff that noone will take care of them. And they grew up in that culture. And it is really different with Asians that the priority is family. We are very family oriented, I can say.
@MrNiceGuy (4141)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I don't think its a decision between loving and forgetting. If you put your grandparents in a home, which is a strange term because you can't make them go in most cases, that doesn't mean you don't love them. A lot of times those homes are a good place for older folks that need medical attention because they are cheaper than staying in a hospital long term. My great aunt is in a home because she has Alzheimers and her brother cannot take care of her, where trained nurses and other personnel can. Its easier when things are handled for them, instead of trying to keep a home themselves.
There is a cultural difference as well, individuality against communal families. We leave our parents and become distanced when we grow up and get a different job and move away so it makes it harder.
