School Making Chilldren Stressed and Depressed.
By Bigdougieb
@Bigdougieb (147)
January 28, 2007 2:31pm CST
People care for their children. Love them and wrap them up in cotton wool. Make sure they don't do too much and keep their lives happy and then they send them to school.
There has been many scientists who have linked the pressure of school work and depression and mental illness. Now you may think that sending your children to private schools will help them in the long term but the pressure that they are put under is sometimes outrageous. There have been many cases in my area and around about of people committing suicide due to school stress. Is it worth it? Is it not better to give your child a bit of a life and don't put so much pressure on them? Don't put pressure on them to revise, just advise them to. Don't force them into extra lessons, unless they feel like they want to.
Remember your school years are meant to be the best of your life. Let your child know this.
Do any of you agree with my view on School Stress. (sorry about any bad grammar and annoying persuasive techniques)
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7 responses
@lotusrose2007 (106)
• India
29 Jan 07
Yes i agree with your point, i feel that in childhood days must pressure must not be mounted on children, we must leave a free hand and we must also teach good habits and disciple. We must know the interest of the children and mould them accordingly and we must not thrust education on them unnecessarily
@bethmt (419)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Yes, school can be stressful on kids and most of it has to do with peer pressure, bullying and overcrowding...at least that's what I think. Also a big stress on kids is the pressure that some parents put on their kids to be academically "perfect".
I agree that kids shouldn't be pushed so much because they need to grow and develop and their own rate and be able to experience the joys of childhood.
@Bigdougieb (147)
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12 Feb 07
Yeah. I know what you mean. The stress of being pushed by parents is phenomenally stressing.
@lena2000 (2392)
• Belgium
12 Feb 07
Enlarge ImageLet's face it, kids will be kids and they can't possibly always be happy with every single decision that is made for them. Even from a very young age a child realizes that he/she is, in fact, a REAL person, with feelings, thoughts and emotions. This often leads to them wanting to do things their own way, making their own choices, or just not wanting to do as they're told.
Here's a scenario: your child is sitting happily playing with building bricks, or maybe playing on a games console, totally engulfed in his or her own world, and it's time for dinner. You ask your child to drop what they're doing there and then, to tidy up quickly, to leave their ‘happy place' and come eat. Your child refuses to do as asked, wondering within why on earth you're being mean and spoiling their fun.
You, on the other hand may think the child is being naughty or obstinate. You remove the toys/games abruptly and the volcano erupts! Your child is throwing a full-blown tantrum!
Now, let's re-create the scenario: As before, your child is sitting happily playing and you're about to start making dinner. You give the child fair warning that playtime will be ending soon, in say 5-10 minutes, and that they will then need to put their things away so that they can help you make dinner.
Stick to your time-frame and get the things put away (help if you're needed), and involve your child in the dinner-making. Depending on your child's age this could be anything from wiping the table to boiling potatoes or even carving the meat. (Ok, so we may not have huge set meals every day, but you get the idea).
Wow! You just avoided a MAJOR tantrum! Your child is involved and happy, you are happy and non-stressed! Well Done You!
You can do this sort of thing with just about any scenario. Turn it around from something negative i.e. removing child from ‘happy place' and replacing in ‘upset place', to moving child from one happy place to another. You just have to make sure that your child knows beforehand that something other than what they are doing at the moment will soon be happening.
Let your child get involved and make sure you tell him/her how much you appreciate their help and co-operation. This way you will avoid the horrid confusion that ultimately leads to those dreadful tantrums.
@moneymaka (492)
• United States
28 Jan 07
School has many ways to stress people, such as bullies or dealing with home work.
@cersei (62)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Yeah, school definitely has the tendency to encourage depression. I don't think anyone ever feels like they really fit in at school, and not having that figurative safety net can have a drastic effect on some. Especially when you're completely ostracized by people you have to see everyday. For myself, I don't even know how I made it through school.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
23 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations
@Silverkid (279)
• Canada
28 Jan 07
Yeah, I used to feel depression a few years back when i went to a new school and just didnt seem to fit in. I actually thought of hurting myself because i thought something was wrong with me. May sound funny but many of the youth today are thinking the same way I did back then. Turns out people at this school always picked on the new kid and after a few years everything became better and i was one of the most popular kids around.