Self Esteem in Girls

how old is she? My daughter has a tendancy to be a follower but not so easily influenced luckily...my one neice however is HIGHLY influenced and the older she gets the more trouble she gets into and in scary ways....Both girls (my niece and my daughter) love to write and draw..unfortunately the damage done to my neice is pretty intense so even that doesnt help anymore (which is a shame because she is a beautiful writer and artist)...my daughter though seems to really enjoy it mind you I'm an artist myself as is my son, their cousins, their aunt and their father was as well which probably is a big factor... ANYWAY...point being..ART...whether its painting, drawing, writing, sculpting etc etc etc...it can be very low cost, its a solitary thing so there is no competition AND its a great way for her to express herself! Which IMO is something kids today really need to be able to do...OR something outdoors maybe like gardening...she could have her own little garden and tend to it, watch it grow and enjoy her hard work and patience when things are ready to be picked (like flowers for her room or the dining room table OR veggies to share at dinner in a salad).... Dance is another great activity IMO and even better would be martial arts which would help her with her esteem issues, that can get pricey though...

My daughter has very low self esteem and a follower and because of this she has got herself into some very bad situations. I at first try to push God, but the more I did that the further she went away from me. So, I stopped she has to figure God out on her own now. I am not saying I don't talk about him or bring him up I just don't push it. She is in to paint by numbers so I try to make sure she has them at hand, it is her escape from the real world which we all need. I agree with everybody saying she needs to volunteer but if I told my daughter that she would laugh in my face. The best thing that I have found and seems to be working a little is when I see my daughter make a decision on her own I brag I cut back bragging on other things because my main thing is I want her to be able to make decisions on her own and feel good about them.

These are good hobbies to get into. She might also trying volunteer work from animal shelters to nursing homes for the elderly. Helping with the activities for the elderly does wonders for your self esteem and and you feel that you have something worth giving.

When I was a young teenager I had self esteem issues too. My mom got me into ceramics. I still do them to this day. You can find ready to paint ceramics in wal mart.. and you can even find good deals on some on ebay.. I spend about twenty to thirty dollars per month doing ceramics. The first time would be the most expensive. you can buy the paints at wal mart or off of ebay.. the paints cost about 2 bucks a color... but they last for a long long time... too bad wal mart did away with the lay away deal... it would grow her collection without alot of money right away.. she can paint knick-knacks for her family and friends as gifts and decorate her room, she can also take one or two to school and show them off to people by setting them on her desk, etc.. and even sell some to buy more paints or ceramics to do.. as her painting gets really good she can make a little pocket money.. This is what I did and It helped me alot.. I still get much joy and satisfaction out of doing ceramics...

If she is a youngster then why not Girl Scouts, Girl Guides, or something similar. Those civic based peer groups do wonders for kids. Their self esteem is boosted and they get a lot of confidence. I hope she finds a niche. There are good programs to get involved in with religion as long as they are positve.

Involve her in every activity. Even when small small decisions that are to be taken , involve her, take her view. Like which dish needs to be made, which day we should go out??

Image is everything in the type of world we live in. It’s all about who’s the thinnest, the prettiest, and who has the best style. More and more girls are faced with a society that doesn’t accept the many beautiful shapes and forms we come in. One reason girls hate their bodies is because we constantly have the media tell us that we're suppose to be a size 2 or 4 and we're suppose to look like Kate Moss or Paris Hilton to be beautiful. Girls are always judged by how they look. In our society we equate thinness with beauty. And since most women aren't a size 2 or 4 they feel that they're not beautiful

I think that part of the problem is our society. We have totally unrealistic ideas about how people - Women in particular - are supposed to look. It becomes difficult to be okay with who you are when you don't measure up to the models. (even the guys who are losing their hair have these issues.) It seems like we are becoming more and more superficial. I have even heard someone remark to someone else that they didn't think somebody else could have any problems because they were so pretty. Imagine that - all my problems could be solved - if only I were pretty enough .... .... usually is not a case. Recommend her Montignac lifestyle. it will change all her world

I saw a few people mentioned charities. I agree charities are a wonderful idea for an interest, as well as building a sense of self-worth. I agree that it could be really beneficial to volunteer for the elderly, or perhaps an animal charity - being around animals is incredibly uplifting! In addition small local charities are always looking for people to help with the fundraising / administration / management side of things - even young people. I was the secretary of my local SPCA for a few years, and it was a wonderful way to meet new people and to develop a sense of self-worth. A lot of these tiny charities are always desperately looking for people to be on their committees!

My neice sort of falls into the same category as the girl you mentioned. My sister is a Wicca, dating a so-called Christian ( I am a Christian and WOW is all I can say about him), making the girls(she has 2) go to his church. My brother got my neices a crochet kit that we will work on later(too much up in the air right now). The neice I am mentioning is a wonderful artist. I am encouraging her to pursue that. She acts like your killing her if she can't draw. Sorry, I went down a bunny trail. Crochet, knitting, baking, cooking, these are all good things. You would be surprised how many people don't know how to cook! Blessings to you for looking out for this girl!!

How lucky this child is, to have someone looking out for her. I have found art to be extremely helpful to both my children. Age 15 and 16, they both took art as freshmen as an elective-now, they are in AP classes, winning competitions, and actively doing it at home and school. It is a great form of self-expression, and there is no right or wrong. Some of my daughter's work I see as morbid or disturbing-but it is still art. One of them also does photograpy. Takes long walks, photographs people, nature, buildings, interesting stuff-and it makes her feel like she is producing something. I think these two hobbies have greatly enhanced thier teen-age years, thier self-esteem, and helps them to look into themselves and the world around them.

self esteem in girls! this is good topic for discussion .Here i got an oppurtunity to talk about girls.this esteems mainly starts with beauty.If some say's u are so beauty?.then she looking all the girls like a dogs! that what is happening in day to day life..........

I know exactly how this is! I was just like this as a girl. What really helped me was when my mother put me in girl scouts. I was praised for my individual talents, but I was still able to work with other girls together. It was such a positive and uplifting experience for me, so much so that I stayed there until I was a teenager. Maybe this will be a good route for her

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The reasons for your low self-esteem could be many things how you were raised, events in your life where you got harshly treated, not being happy with your appearence too fat too skinny etc. Only she know what your issues are and where you need to improve.

get her into computers,web surfing, mylot even. Websurfing will let her find her own level. Her own interests in a non combative no competitive atmosphere. I think that it may be good for her. How old is she?

Yes, yes, yes!!!! By all means get her online and at the Dove.com sight. They are doing wonders for young women and Goddess bless them for that. In addition, I would suggest you going to the local library and asking the librarian for her/his input. I would also go to the YWCA and see what kind of programs they offer. Another way of boosting self-esteem is to volunteer somewhere and nursing homes are always in need of someone. Having her learn that treating the elderly like "real people" is a true lesson. There is nothing much more horrid to watch than at Christmas, Easter, and other like holidays when people come into these elder care facilities dressed like the Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, and other fictitious characters and treat them as though they are children. They deserve the respect that their years have earned them. I am on a roll. It's time for Desperate Housewives but if you haven't gotten enough responses by tomorrow, private message me and I'll give you another ear full ~Donna

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yeah, a hobby should work

the best way of getting a girl to increase her self esteem is getting her to take up a new hobby? or maybe shopping trips? they usually work...or even a pampering day? they can help