Why do men always seem to want more?
By allshookup
@allshookup (598)
United States
January 28, 2007 7:44pm CST
Maybe not in all cases, but it seems that sometimes one woman can be enough physically, but why not mentally? Why do some men like to look at other women, total strangers who they've never came in contact with, in discreet manners that should really only be shared between the two in the relationship (If you don't get my drift... then this discussion is not for you.)? Is it something his partner is doing wrong? Please open my eyes ()_() !!!
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@chuckt9881 (469)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I have been happily married for four years to an extremely beautiful woman. I am madly in love with her. But I do like to look at other women. Could be someone I see on the bus, at a restaurant or supermarket. It doesn't matter. I just appreciate good looking women and like to look at them. I try not to leer or be creepy about it. There's no harm in a look.
My wife is a very secure person and doesn't mind my roving eye. Its not like I ignore her to stare at someone else. We even comment on some women that she notices me looking at, asking me what it is that I find attractive about her, etc. We have a good laugh about it and carry on with whatever we were doing.
And its not only men who look at other women. Women do it to (look at other men). My wife will point out men that she thinks are hot. I'm not offended by it, nor do I feel inadequate or jealous. Though I do get a little upset about the drool sometimes if we watch a movie with Vigo Mortenson or Hugh Jackman in it ;-D
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@joyderful1 (94)
• Singapore
29 Jan 07
Chuckt has said it all! My bf, by the way, his name is also Chuck, betw the both of us, we look too. I tell him when another man looks at me, or talks to me with flirting eyes. He has indicated to me that he will look too. And we both 'know' we will not cross the line of no return. It takes a maturity to do that, as chuckt says, being secure about ourselves. Appreciating beautiful things or people is not a crime. The knowledge betw good and evil, that's the 'line' that God was referring to in Genesis. We cannot deny that 'line'. Acknowledging it to ourselves and even towards our partner makes us aware and mindful of it happening before we are into it.
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@joyderful1 (94)
• Singapore
30 Jan 07
I forgot to mention this. I've been 'burnt' too. But I realise that returning to my faith in a real way has everything to do with my current relationship, who by the way is also Christian. I'm not saying that Christians don't make mistakes or fail. I'm saying the knowledge that there is Someone greater than me or my partner is always giving us mercy, or grace when any one of us 'stray'. Hopefully, due to our love for God, we are quickly brought back to a secure place before things begin to break apart. But, it's still not guaranteed. One important thing is to desire to keep working at changing ourselves, in the little things, so that your partner sees your sacrifice/trust. And by that, you just might change him. If not, it still depends on how strong your faith is to forgive. Forgiveness doesn't mean denying the affair though. Anyway, I've digressed. I'm glad my experiences with other non-Christian men didn't work out.
@danbumpy (203)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I work with 85% women and you should see it when a new "good looking" guy comes walking through they are lack a pack of wild animals. All of them are married but you should see how they flirt and carry on it's unbelieveable. So I don't think it's just men. Women are the same way they just don't do it in front of their spouses.
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@allshookup (598)
• United States
1 Feb 07
ok, i see some evidence of the other way around. thanks :-P
@wildecoyote (975)
• Australia
29 Jan 07
I think it's how we are wired. But I know some women who want it more than their partners.
@allshookup (598)
• United States
30 Jan 07
yes, it's not in guys only, but in my experience, i've been burned so i may be partial to stereotyping. heheheh. did i? i forgot...
@suren2k6cse (2621)
• India
1 Feb 07
i think its nature. but men has to control it. but women also have that feel but they execute way they wont cought
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@allshookup (598)
• United States
1 Feb 07
i agree. men can't use the "nature" excuse forever. at some point, they have to learn to control it. or we women will take over and use them only for penal colonies!! MWAHAHAH!!! ;-)
@zimmie (41)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
If the guy loves you he doesn't do that, often. I can tell you this, though. If he does this in the first few months of being with him, DUMP HIM! My ex-fiance did & he turned oput to be a total sleezeball
@momokoseiya (453)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I guess some men just lack self-control. When I'm single, I admit that I do like to look at guys. I'll "check them out" so-to-speak. But when I'm a taken woman, I don't do that out of respect for my boyfriend. I would hope that he respects me and does the same for me. That isn't the case with all people. I guess men think it's OK because they separate love from lust. To me, it still isn't ok.
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@lazuras236 (16)
• United States
1 Feb 07
The answer is biological and emotional we are program
to seek a procreate or we would have a as race never survived this long however higher exist comes from understand what would happen if the roles were reversed.How many soldiers get the dreaded ,Dear John letter yet use the excuse other see to cheat by saying
I could die tommorrow. We all can die tomorrow it is the messure of committment that we give to the things we value in life that counts.Trust in Jesus and thus don't fEAR DYING TOMOORROW AND YOU WONN'T NEED MORE
