what do u say to ppl who cut in line?
By Khyatii
@Khyatii (237)
United States
January 28, 2007 11:19pm CST
we went to temple today. in the food line..all the ladies were cutting in. we were standing in line and there was just cround instead of a line..we finaaly found some end at least it apeared to an end. so as we kinda moved ahead. this lady about my mom's age around 50. she just comes and stands next to us. it wasnt even subtle ..she didnt even find someone she knew..she just stood there..so as the line moved frwd we did as and she did too..that went on and slowly from next to us she got ahead of us ..so i just told my mom to let her get in ..when i did that she looked at us and smiled..my question is what kind of ppl do that she knew she was cutting in ..she knew she was doing something wronge..y did she do it??
i guess my question is what should we say to those kinds of ppl?
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@patabu74 (167)
• United States
30 Jan 07
What i would say to someone if they were to cut me in a line would be, "Excuse me wtf are u doing i am in line here cant you see, and point them in the direction of the back of the line." that might sound mean but hey if in in line and i ahd to wait, then soo do you. But if like its one or two people that are just meetin up with their friends i wouldnt care but their are always certain circumstances.
@14missy (3183)
• Australia
30 Jan 07
I agree maybe she was hungry haha. I have been grocery shopping and people (especially older people who should have more manners) push in front of you at the checkout. It is hard to teach your children good manners etc when people around them are not using theirs. My five year old said to me "she's rude isn't she?" when this older lady cut in on us.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
29 Jan 07
How funny the situation is ? Cutting in the line that too at a temple. Thats the reason I never visit any religious places because you get to vitness double standards of people visiting these palces. The lady about whom you mentioned must have taken the 'Darshan' of God and prayed him and might have asked the God to forgive her of the sins which she thinks might have been commited by her and further she must have promised him that she won't do any thing which is wrong in future. This she must have done some few minutes back and , now having forgotten that she is cutting the line inspite of knowing the fact this is not properthing and she is causing trouble to other persons standing in the line.
Well tghis thing is very commonly seen in India, especially at the rural areas, where the people are not aware of the descipline and they feel nothing bad to cutting in the line.However in the Urban places like in big Metropolitan cities I feel there is sense of maintainig the line and people they strictly follow the rules.
I think the people who are doing so are either ignorant about it or they are too cunning and crooked who donot have any concern and consideration for others. Their interest is always revolving around themselves only. Such people can't be of any help to society and they on the contrary presenting oe setting a wrong example to the young people to follow! I normally oppose this act, whenever possible and I expalin them that why it is importantto be in queue !
@Khyatii (237)
• United States
29 Jan 07
u know u said that these kind of thing happen in rural areas ..its funny i live in los angeles..i went to the indian temple in whittier..and indian ppl here still have not learnt rules..shouldnt these things come with civilization?
thank u for ur response
@hikarushidou (843)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I feel the same way you do too dear. I was in china for a whole week and people there are sooo used to cutting in! I mean dont get me wrong, I have chinese blood but I dont have a habit of cutting in lines coz it makes me mad too. They're so used to doing it they dont even feel ashamed not one bit.
@fake_you (391)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
i guess you should make that woman realize that she has to fall in line like other people do. everybody wants to get served or get in the line first, but we should all remember that we're all the same. even if she's old, she still has to wait for her turn. she's all enough not to know about it. someone should at least tell her to wait for her turn.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I think it is rude for a person to cut in line without asking if they can go ahead of you. If they ask me if they can go ahead because they are in a hurry, I would not have a problem letting them go ahead of me. But when a person just gradually goes up and cuts in front, I consider that to be very rude and would have to say something like, "Excuse me, I was here before you. You need to go to the back of the line and wait your turn. " I would try not to be rude about it but would make my point.
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@pendragon (3349)
• United States
30 Jan 07
The last time that happened, i got banned from the establishment I was cut in,lol, so yeah, it wasn't pretty.
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@JMPILAPIL (503)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
People who cut lines on a queue are rude and uncivilized. It can only valid if that person is a government official who has the priority for things like that. After all it they're unfair to others.
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@infobyaj36 (907)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It is an age thing for some women. They hit 50 and they don't think the rules apply to them anymore. Don't ask me why it is they just feel this way some anyhow. The next time something like this happens just smile at them and say "can I help you?" They will look at you stunned without a response at first then you can say "I think the back of the line is there" and point to the end. This will solve the problem..
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@UmmZahid (324)
• United States
30 Jan 07
lol wow that kind of funny but wow people can be so rude huh? n e way i would of been like umm excuess me we are in front of you there is a line here even though it dosent look like one,, excuesse me and i would have got back i front of her see people will just try and walk over you and they will if you let them thats why you have to open your mouth and speak up for what you want or your rights! dont just let people do what they want thats if it involves you! which in this case it did! so there ya go
@wolfpackfan (77)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I usually let it slide, unless they do it very obviously, then I'll just stare at them or say something (kind of loud) to a friend if i have one with me.
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@militarywife (36)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I have found that people in "non-western" countries (Asia, Africa, the Middle East, Latin America...) tend to have less patience for orderly lines. Even after acknowledging cultural differences I still get kind of ticked off when this happens. But I don't say anything. I just glare.
Okay, maybe once or twice I have made a rude comment under my breath too. :)
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@morenita (331)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Usually when someone is rude in this way in any public setting I make it a point of apologizing to them. This causes them to think about what they have just done, most of they are embarrassed by their actions, and almost always apologize and correct the situation.
In this case to the people who were cutting I would have said something like, "Oh, I am sorry I didnt realize the line ended here, please, get in front of me." and give them a big smile. Or you can try a " I'm sorry did you loose your place in this crowd, you're right you must've been in line right in front of me then". In your case since everyone was in a huge crowd and people were enterring the line everywhere I would say it a little more loudly so that more people got the hint.
Always works;)
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@suzyangel08 (616)
• United States
29 Jan 07
i don't get upset but i do let them know that i was there first and if that person admits his or her fault then that is great... if not, wow... someone has a major problem... lol.
@Peaches1122 (470)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I speak up everytime I see this. It is rude behavior. Even if people do not know they are cutting in line, I make sure they know they are and I tell them where the end of the line is.
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@babydolphin (536)
• Australia
29 Jan 07
I say nothing .. what else can I say to people that have no manner?? Or sometimes I usually sort of block them from going in front of me.. or going past me.. hehhehehe I mean it is not fair.. every one is queueing up and waiting while some people just push in and got served first..
But sometimes, rarely, when I feel quite mad.. I would point them politely that the queue start from behind.. and I found that usually people are embarassed enough so that they instantly moved..
However, in terms of why people do it? I guess their upbringing could be in the country where there really isnt line up.. or everyone do it.. I know in my country.. many people push in as well especially in common places..