My very own Research Scientist!!!
By ronita34
@ronita34 (3922)
Canada
January 29, 2007 3:01am CST
I met this amazing guy about 3 months ago now and we rarely talk anymore! I just assumed that perhaps he forgot about me as we have not spoken to each other since a little before Christmas! I recieved an email from him the other day and wow did my heart ever race and my stomach had all of those love butterflies once again!!! He always seems to have this affect on me though each and every time that we talk!! When we are chatting our conversations can last for up to 10 hours no joke! I know that this part is going to be hard to believe for you but this man has morals! He is a virgin and has yet to even experience his first kiss!! He believes in waiting for marriage and besides that he never really had time in his life for a woman! He graduated High School and was accepted with a scholorship into Harvard at the age of 14!! He is very intelligent and charming and i love the conversations that we have! Unfortunately his work will take him far away to another country again and we lose contact for a while! I know that he isn't lying though because the email that i just recently recieved from him was under the militaries surveylance!!!! I think i am falling in love and i mean head over heels! This go in all ways , shape and form is for me!! How will i ever know if he will ever have feelings for me as deep as mine are for him?
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@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
29 Jan 07
But he can receive your email? He can receive a phone call?
What a feeling! Great is'nt it.
And a virgin to boot! Who says only old Chinese or Moslem men can prize virginity. You have every right to do so too. Make the most of any contact you can have, be it email or phone.
And when he comes home, and you still feel the same way - don't let him go lass! Chances are he will not come out and declare his love or feelings and such.
I suppose shyness is the basis for his virginity, but it could be being single minded with his career or any number of other things. Gently explore and most of all be sensitive and do not scare him off.
As the Good Book says, Seek and Thou Shall Find, Ask and Thou shall receive.
All the very best!
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Well i sent him two replys so far and i have yet to recieve anything back from him though :(!! Wow , you have really gave such a positively warm response and such a true meaningful one as well and i thank you for this!! He is a great guy and i have been very patient with him so far and i will continue to be! I know that the job that he has is very demanding and he can be whisked anywhere at anytime! He says that when he gets back though and he will be getting 6 months off and that he plans on spending all that time with me!! I am so excited and he always leaves me with that feeling!!!
@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
30 Jan 07
Well - a guy who made Harvard at 14 is no dimwit. And is obviously in demand, and not just for his good looks.
Softly, softly catch mongkee.. says the Chinese philosopher... So have fun.
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
LOL...You are great and he is great looking abnd super intelligent. I believe that this is way he mesmerizes me soo much because he stimulates my brain and makes me want to be a better person. He encourages and believes in me and i am fallin bad. Here is a photo of him i think he is gorgeous!!!
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
29 Jan 07
First off I heard nothing about your children! Also someone so dedicated to his studies may make for a bad partner. Exampe: Albert Einstein.
If this is meant to be then it will do so in its own time. How did you two meet? Until you are in the same area you will not know really how he feels, internet makes anything easy to say. Again what about the kids?
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Still concerned that you don't really know him not being in the same city and associating for a few months. Talk is easy online and that does not mean your investment of emotions warrant this level. Take care and believe me I hope that it all works out. Caution is imperative when it comes to you and your children. You deserve the best and not the first fine looking guy that comes along. Having said that, please don't miss a chance for happiness.
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
In his email this is what he wrote about the kids!!
But besides that, I've missed America. I've missed Keebler, and
I so miss the walks along the beach. But somehow, most importantly,
I've missed talking to you. And yes, it's very strange to say it,
but I missed our midnight chats about whatever. To me, it really
made me feel like there was some hope after all.
But things change, and before you know it, your job seems to manage
to control you. And that feeling I really don't like. But I've been
given a chance now to have a six-month break after I'm done here so
like it or not, we're going fishing, or just going on a roadtrip
around America or Canada after I get back. Just you, and your kids
and Keebler, my Chevy Tahoe, tents, fishing rods... I don't think
it would make sense if we brought my canoe. Yeah, that would just
look kind of awkward. But besides that, we'll just get away from it
all for half a year. And maybe, maybe we might find something along
the way.
I think that he is very charning and somewhat timid but he has so much potential!!!
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
29 Jan 07
First, to answer your question of how will you know if he has deep feelings for you as you do him...just tell him how you feel and ask him the same.
OK...my my precaution kicks in.
How do you know that he is under military surveillance?
How do you know he is who he says he is?
Do you know his first and last name to look him up or do a search on him?
As much as we want to believe who a person online, it is too easy for those people to lie and be convincing. I would hate for you to fall victim of a person with a vivid imagination or a person that gets off on leading women to believe their lies.
I mean no disrespect when I say this...I just want to be sure to let you know that as much as you want to believe, this person may not he who he says he is.
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
I know because the email that he sent me had to be scanned to make sure there was nothing to due with his work! They apologized and said that the email was personally requested to be sent to me by him and they apologized for any inconveniences and such at the end! Yes i do know his first middle and last name and i do thank you for your concern here! I will be very careful and if we meet he will be coming here!
@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I hate to be an Agony Aunty, but do be careful about internet love affairs. There are a lot more frogs on the network than Princes. Anyone can say they are anything about themselves, and though your dialogs with him sound intriguing, it also sounds like he's in prison and only can have set times on the computer. His up to 10 hour chats might be because he had extra privileges to keep a laptop. Research Scientists do not waste time on the computer chatting for up to 10 hours. The reason I am skeptical is because its sounds like a scam a friend of mine fell for who paid a lot of money to meet her "fiance" in an airport in a foreign country where he was supposedly working, only to be stood up. Please be careful if he asks you for money from the "country" he's supposedly working in and making excuses he cant get to his own because of the "military survelliance" on him. Its sounds definately a red flag and a scam. Dont be fished in!
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
You are right and i will be sure to stay as smart about this as i possibly can! I do hope and pray though that we can be real and for each other! It was only on his days off like weekends or anytime that he had off we do not talk like this always! Oh no it is nothing like that and he has never asked me for money and never will! He is a research scientist and that is alot!!
@nw1911guy (1131)
• United States
29 Jan 07
How did you know it was under the Military's surveillance?
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@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
29 Jan 07
In the days of snail mail, they had a rubber stamp which used to be affixed on the envelope.
Now they just attach a bot to emails, which are then archived.
@cuteblanc (24)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
This is a very interesting story. Can you update us from time to time? ^_^ So what are you planning to do now? But just a reminder. Don't trust him too much coz you never know him very well.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
30 Jan 07
you're lucky to know him. the fact that he keeps on communicating with you means that you should not lose hope. everything starts with a simple conversation and usually blossoms into something more especially when there's attraction between you and him.
just keep on making him feel that you're there for him to be someone he can lean onto. someone he can rely and can trust.
it's always good for a relationship to start as friends first. i don't generalize but most of the time, it works better.
just be there and keep your fingers crossed. who knows!
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
I thank you for your wonderful opinion and i think that buliding a strong friendship also helps in building a stronger relationship! I always let him know that i will be here and that i will always be patient when it comes to him ... LOL! He knows that i am head over heels for him ... LOL!!!
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Yes and i have sort of brought it up and he openly admits that i am the only woman that he has interest in talking too!! This i believe because we can talk for hours and i always have his full attention while we are chatting! He also wrote in his email that before he left that things were in fact changing with us. When he gets home he gets a 6 month break and he tells me that he is coming here and we are going to camping and fishing! Just him and i , my daughters, his dog and tents fishing poles and his suv ... LOL! He always seems like a wonderful dream to me!!
@hellboi (661)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
you can never be too sure, even with your own feelings. i am under the impression that you haven't met this guy yet in person, am i right? although from the conversations that you have much compatibility can be observed since you can go on chatting for hours, it is really different when you talk in person. when you can see how the person reacts to your responses, how he shows interest to what you say, believe me it is totally different. unless you do really take time to see each other and try to channel what virtual relationship you have into the real world then don't expect too much, you'll just be frustrated in the end when what you've imagined of him is way different from what he is.
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
YOu are right we have yet to meet in person but he did say that he will be getting time off and he will be coming to visit me here! I agree that it would be totally different and we have yet to talk on the phone because he does not want to hold me back if i find some one closer to me that i may be compatible with! I thank you for your care and great advice and i will keep it all in mind!!!
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Well that's great. You don't hear of a man that is still a virgin to much these days.
I don't know how to tell if he has the same feelings for you, but you can always try and bring it up by writing an e-mail to him about relationships. Get his views on things than afterwards try seeing if he has ever thought of relationship with you that was more than just friends or come straight out and just express how you feel about him, but don't be to straight forward you may scare him if you come on to strong.
I wish you the best of luck and hope things work for you. :)
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
I think that your advice is great and i have opened up somewhat but it is a bit harder to open him up then it is to open me up. He is shy and quite timid at times but i like that part of him. Inly when i try to get into a more personal conversation he freezes up a bit and usual will reply to me in an email afterwards!!
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Have you ever tried asking him how he feels about your relationship ? Have you ever told him how you feel about him ? Some men are shy and since he has never had any real relationships he may not know how he should respond or let you know how he feels . I have always felt that talking is the best way to find out answers .
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
Well i guess i can say that i know that he is attracted to me! He sais on his mates 1 profile which is where i met him that he just wants to find someone that makes him feel like home! Which is what my biggest attraction was to him!! I think that is also why we good along so well because whether we agree or disagree with each other we always have good communication with each other!!
@LadyMooreSabb (335)
• United States
30 Jan 07
well you do have a bit of a situation on your hands but my advice to you is to see what he looks for in a woman and see if you measure up before you put your heart on your sleeve. If there are certain things that he just will not tolerate and if all seems well then maybe you two can make dates for phone calls and plan for when he is in your area or make plans to meet him someplace. But whatever you do don't try to take him where he has never been. Let him know what it is you like about him and tell him about the similarities you have in values. In other words endear yourself to him. Let him see who you are. Keep the moments light so that he knows when things aren't going so well he can share them with you and feel better and when they are going well he can share that too and you both can celebrate.
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