If a friend owed you money and forgot to pay...would you ask it from her?

there's nothing wrong in asking for your money.Its your hardearned money and you dont get it just like that.she is your friend and there is nothing formal between friends.remind her that you have given her the money on what situation.surely she will remind the situation.If she refuses that she has not owed anything to you, its really hard, and make decision not to give her anything again.You are not lying, she has to realize that her friend will never lie to her.

depends how much the amount was and how close you are to this 'friend' .

You have lent the money to your friend, not donated. hence it is returnable, to you. You casually mention it while passing, if she doenst budge ask her directly. True friendship will never get harmed, when you highlight the reality. But if you are not convinced to treat your friend open heartedly, you ask her to lend you some money (preferably a dollar more than what you lended). While returning that extra dollar tell her that you deeudcted her outstandings.

I understand how you must be feeling because i was in the same situation just some time back. It felts really weird to ask for your own money from a friend. But I suggest you ask for it as soon as possible befor its too late and she really forgets about it. If she is your good friend then she would understand that she owed it to you and there is nothing wrong if you are asking for it back.

well, just casually remind her. say "oh, im on tight budget!! oh, di i still have money with you?"

I'd be asking for at least part ofitback after reminding her that she did indeed borrow money. "remember that $200 you borrowed from me 2 months agl, Well, I'm really broke right now, answas wondering if you could possible give part of it back any time soon?" then if you don't get a good response, assume it was a gift.

I would non-chalantly bring it up. And if she said "oh I've completely forgotten" I'd say, "no big deal, just get it to me whenever you can" :)

It all depends on type of friend.. how good friend he is to you.. You can wait for sometime if you dont have urgency but if you really need it thn you should go and remind him about the money... its better to make thing clear..

Let me share something that has worked for me with friends and money. I will never lend a friend money. If a friend needs to 'borrow' money, I will 'give' them whatever I care to share with them. I will tell them that this is theirs with no obligation to pay me back; if they choose to pay me back, then I will accept it, but there is no obligation. In this manner, I will not lose the friendship over the money. If they don't pay, I didn't give them any more than I was willing to give them anyway. If they do pay, then that works out fine as well. If you lend a friend money, then the repayment procedings will frequently interfere with your frinedship. Do not lend your friends money that you need to get repaid, but rather what you are comfortable giving them (if any at all). In that way, the money never comes between you, and you help your friend to the extent you wish. At this point, you have learned a difficult lesson about making loans to friends. Is your friendship more important than the money? If not, then feel free to make whatever aggressive collection efforts possible. If your friendship is important to you, tell your friend that they are free to make any repayment plan they wish, even if they never pay, and that you aren't going to ask them for the money any more. Not only are you more likely to keep your friendship, but you are also more likely to eventually get some money back than if you try a more aggressive approach.

Hey, you had said it, Money is not important when it comes to your friendship - so why bother. If this thing bothers you, then the above statement may seemed a bit confusing, don't you think? If you badly needed the money then go ask her directly. I understand your predicament about this issue, but then, why did you let it passed for 5 years! She must be thinking that you totally passed it already. So, choose - money or friendship. Money is just money! You can earned it 5 times more, but the friendship you build over 5 years or more, that is something money cannot buy. So if you can, set it free. Just think of it as a help you extend to your friend during her lowest point.. think of it as a remembrance of how good you are to her.

A friend borrowed my money but forgot to pay me,it is a difficult thing to mentioned her pay,cause we two are best friends,finally she still forgot,i stil not mentioned.

i think you can give hr some "tips" and remind her. maybe she has the thought , but she dont have the money. it its not a substantial amount and u dont really need this money now, then you can consider doing a very good charity and help your friend. u'll be blessed.

A long time ago, a friend owned my $9. He went a long time without paying and when I mentioned it we had a loud argument. He never did pay it back and we were never friends again afte that.

if the amount is big plus he/she looks afford to pay back, then i'll try to hint him/her about this.but when it come to small amount, i just let he/she remember to pay me..if not, it's okay with me..

If you still keep on thinking about it then it is better if you mention it to your friend.Yes you can mentioned it to her casually.In this way you will not be pulled by it again and again.This will also help in your friendship as you will have an honest communication.

I have been to that situation. I don't remind them before but I came to the point that I would compute the amount I lend them was really big. I can't sleep because those money were the fruit of my hard work. If you come to imagine those situation that you struggle at work for you to earn money then I think you have to remind them. Nowadays, no friends in terms of money for me. If it was borrowed, then it should be returned. If someone ask me to len her money, I often let her sign a statement for me to be sure that she is going to pay. It is very hard to trust people nowadays.

I would remind her. She may not be able to pay you back the whole thing all at once, but she should at least be able to start giving you a few dollars here and there until it's payed off.

hey if my friend is not in dire need and is financially well off i will ask her to return my money without hurting her or ruining our relationship.she trusted me to lend her monet so i need to ask her to return it coz i am her friend.

Just forget about it. Coz it happened 5 years ago. Maybe if it happened a little earlier, like few weeks ago, you can remind her... ^_^ Just consider it as a friendly gift, who knows, maybe it will give you a good luck. ^_^

Actually, I won't ask it from her. The truth is I only lend money to people who I am sure will pay me back. But when the time comes that I am really in need for money, I will remind her. So for your case, even if you are not in need, I suggest that you casually mention it to her the next time you talk about big purchases or things like that.