one of my online frnd loves me like a mad, bt i havent meet him,wt should i do??

@saunty (604)
India
January 29, 2007 4:57am CST
It has gone 9 months i have been in contact wid him..now i want to meet him in real and express all my feelings towards him...would u guys pls help me out from this dilemma??
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11 responses
• India
29 Jan 07
first u have to decide whether u love him or not !! If not then let him know that u dont have any feelings abt him and not to bother you... if he dont understand the soft words then take some hard steps... like delete him from your friends list etc. and by the way... u are such a sweet girl... many will be there with their hearts on their hand !! enjoy !!
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• India
29 Jan 07
oops... one mistake... i haven't told you the other option... before confessing your feelings do meet him at least once !! You may have some other opinion after that !! may be your feelings remain the same... I can only suggest you go and meet him!!
• India
29 Jan 07
yup thats my own experience !! because once u come face to face and interact you will find that this guy's behavior has changed a lot what it used to me while chatting and so does yours !! then its a whole new ball game !!
@saunty (604)
• India
29 Jan 07
U mean to say that after meeting .. i may fund him somewhat diff then what he is at present??
@guesswhomsa (1168)
• India
30 Jan 07
i can understand why that person loves you like mad after seeing your photo coming to the topic firstly you have to make up yor mind that do you wanna have a relationship with him or not if yes then you will have to meet him atleast once so let one of friend who is a boy to go up there and meet up with him and get to know the nature of the person and then you can meet up with him hope i have helped
@saunty (604)
• India
30 Jan 07
I do appreciate ur views dear friend...but myself being in sucha situation, not able to decide wt to do next..i cant simply take help of any other guy..if i could then i can take someof my close friends with me while meeting him...well!! lets see wts goin to happen next...
@9676276 (264)
• Pakistan
29 Jan 07
1st u,ve 2 decide whether u love him or not.if u don,t love him then ask him 2 don,t bother u again & if he understands then it,s ok but if not then take seroius steps & del him 4rm ur contacts list.& by da way u r 4rm same location.if yes then u sould meet him.i personally think dat u should meet him 2 knoe dat howz his feelings 4 u...i think he loves u...
@saunty (604)
• India
29 Jan 07
He definitely loves me ...otherwise i wouldnt have made my mind to meet him...bt this is wt i feel...donno wts the reality is...
@IMHO_Dan (174)
• India
29 Jan 07
well online friends, the biggest problem is that u havent seen him and its very easy to act over the phone n easier over the internet coz 70% of ur communication is tru body language n as u cant see him there is a big chance that wat u have heard is not correct.... n if u see him its perfetly ok but make sure u meet in a public place n u let a couple of friends know abt where u going,for ur own safety.
@saunty (604)
• India
30 Jan 07
Hey!! your suggestion is the best i think!! really i must act the way u have suggested , this should be the best way out to this problem ...well!! i m gonna rate positive + for this precious suggestion to u..
@Lushous (60)
29 Jan 07
Hi, i'm in a similar situation. I've been talking to this girl for 2 weeks now and for some reason, we seem to connect and like talking to each other. We havent seen each yet and i plucked up the courage to meet up with her over the weekend. I plan to talk to her the way i've been talking to her over the phone and online to see if it feels the same. And if it does, i plan to ask her if she feels the same way and if she does, i'll let it develop to something serious. The truth is, you need to be sure and there's no other way other than to look the person in the eye. My 2 cents...
@saunty (604)
• India
30 Jan 07
Hmmmm !! u r quite right...but even to look in to the person`s eye , atleast once i will have to meet him na...??
@aksagi (413)
• India
29 Jan 07
Do u love her i think its a distant case of infactuation to whom u never met how love can b there... but surely meeting will clear more picture.... Take ur step timely.
@mikokre (132)
• Nigeria
29 Jan 07
1st thing i want to say .......Are u guys in thesame location? If both of you are in different countries the chance of meeting each other depends on how serious both of you are. Do you have a home base boyfriend or a lover? If you have plz dont try to cheat on him because you are too beautifull to cheat on him. But if you dont have any, u'll simply make an arrangement to meet your online lover. Once again you are very beautiful.
@saunty (604)
• India
29 Jan 07
we both are from the same country...but some of my frnds always warn me about all these...thats y i m bit afraid of all these...well !! thanx for ur concern..
• India
30 Jan 07
hey i realized one thing from this thread... you are getting more and more confused as you are getting more and more responses !! Leave everything... go and meet that guy and then u decide whatever you want !!
• United States
30 Jan 07
I'd say please be very careful if you're going to meet him in real life. Meet in public and bring a friend. Plus keep in mind that how you two are in real life may not be the same as you are online. It may be better or it may be worse. Good luck!
@romirima (34)
• India
29 Jan 07
there you go with ur own solution for ur problem,jus meet him/her up and express waht u want to.
@saunty (604)
• India
29 Jan 07
Its really so simple to say ...bt not so simple from my side..though i know him very well and i had a talk wid him so many times bt still he is stranger to me...it needs lot of precaution to take any such steps...dont u thin so??