Which is worse - cheating or leaving?

Cheating is the grave extinct how people do such things....

Definately cheating!!Leaving hurts.....but I can move on from that.I can't do that with cheating.

I would agree that Cheating is worse. At Least leaving has some closure to that relationship

Yes, I agree with this in principal, but it really depends on the level of cheating, the underlying reason for it and whether it's a recurring problem. Sometimes, it means nothing to the partner to have a one-night stand with somebody and they realise their mistake, in which case, I think it should be talked over and maybe they be given a second chance, but, having said that, it would make me a bit dubious as to what they were doing if they arrived home late or something. You're right, really. Cheating shatters trust, promises and ultimately your love for that person, I guess. It really all depends on the depth of your love for them and the circumstances surrounding the cheat. I'm sorry to be a bit vague. It's happened to me, or I heard rumours it had, but I love him so much, I can't let go, on the proviso it's a one-off, meant nothing and doesn't happen ever again, either with the same person or any other. Thank you for this discussion. It came at a time when I'm trying to sort my own head out, and made me see some reason. Brightest Blessings.

i agree cheating is worse but i found that the only way to get my partner back for all the pain he has caused me... i tried to leave and he sat outside ma parents house until they opened the door... he wouldnt let me leave when i finally agreed to take him back cheating on him so i knew he would eventually find out was the only way to show him how much he had hurt me.. we are only just together now as our relationship is a train wreck not just because of my cheating but cuz of what he has done too... although i do love him... cheating felt right to get my revenge i tried so many things to get back at him and none of them not even leaving worked cuz as soon as we was back together he was hurting me again (not in a violent way but in a heartrenching way). so leaving had no impact on him so yes cheating is worse as it hits people little a big double decker bus and it does get peoples attention

Cheating is of course worse. Being betrayed behind your back in the WORST way is just horrendous. AT least if someone leaves, they are mature enough to be honest, and it allows you to get on with your life and find someone who truly loves you.

i agree if you want someone else you should leave.. it wrong to keep a relationship going and hurting the other person by cheating. and plus id rather them leave than bring home a disease or something home. and there is no justifcation for cheating

I feel the same way. If you are so unhappy with the person you are with, then LEAVE them and find someone else. Don't find someone else before you leave them, that's just wrong!

Absolutely correct! If someone leaves me maybe i might be really hurt and i might always look for that person and also look for an answer as to why she had to leave me But if someone cheats me i think i would be hurt even more ....It would be like someone slaps u on the face is better then being betrayed in a love relationship Cheating takes people away from possibly loving someone else and also if that person comes back to u again u cant trust them so i guess its better being left alone rather then being cheated

I agree with you. When you see that the relationship is not working, and you no longer want to be with the person, the best thing to do is leave. Cheating gives you a bad name.

definitely, cheating. when a person leaves you , you know where you stand, you know it's the end of your relationship. it hurts but just for a while. but with cheating, it's agonizing to know that you're being cheated. you don't know where you really stand, don't know what you should do. there is no closure. it's not just hurtung it's going to make you mad. so, if you don't want to be with me, just leave and live own life.

i agree that cheating is worse but it could be difficult to leave your loved one behind which is why some people would rather cheat without intentionally wanting to hurt his/her partner's feelings. If a person is brave enough to stand for his beliefs, then he might as well leave instead of cheat.

Cheating is worse. Cheating on a signifigant other can NEVER leave a positive impact on their life, especially if the person is unstable in the first place. It makes one question their worth, a question that no human being should be able to make one think of. Leaving is much less harmful, because that person will be forced to find the strength within themselves to move on and will have to see the good in other aspects of life as they mend.

its CHEATING! because sometimes, it breaks some part of you, your well-being. you're being hurt! altho, leaving can hurt you too, at least, there's a goodbye, and a hope that you can start all over again, that it's time to move on. but if its cheating, altho you have moved on, you can never forget at its a burden that once in you're life, you've been cheated and that hurts!

I think cheating is so much worse. I would rather have a man be honest and leave me. That shows that he respects me. Cheating is the worst.

I definitely think cheating is worse. Cheating leaves deeper scares than leaving someone does. When they leave, you're sad, but you recover quicker when they leave. You have nothing to think back about the relationship that was really bad because they said that things really weren't working out, so they left. Otherwise, when someone cheats, it's like a literal slap in the face. It hurts a lot more, and a lot deeper than someone ending the relationship and leaving.

The question arises, "Worse for whom?" Surely, cheating is bad. It makes one party suffer which in the end makes the other party suffer too. No one can get away with cheating easily. It may become a habit and bring disgrace to the cheater. Also, if cheating becomes a principle then it will be wide spread and will come back to the one who started cheating in the first place. These are only thoughts. I would never like to cheat any one. Love or leave the person is a good attitude.....