SHOULD MY BOYFRIEND HIT MY SON
By fatpixie
@fatpixie (100)
South Africa
October 9, 2006 7:49am CST
I have a 3 year old son whose father left me when I was 7 months pregnant. His father has not been in his life and now I have a boyfriend whom I have been with for the last 13 months. He hit my son and I don't know how to feel
10 responses
@Philip24 (50)
• Ghana
28 Oct 06
YES but only when he's taking the wrong path. A a mark of correction not on the mere fact that he is not his son
@Sheila_Abram (1908)
• United States
19 Oct 06
I wouldn't be comfortable with it. Maybe you need to sit down and talk with him own how you discipline your son. Do you plan on marrying this person? God Bless
@thisisme (263)
• United States
19 Oct 06
wow! thats bad.. i actually found out my husband yelled at my daughter when i was gone. i felt like leaving him... but we went to a theripst... and she said it was not worth leaving him for... so... i dont know.. but if he hot her! oh my god, i probably would have choked him!
@snakelady91 (463)
• United States
19 Oct 06
Do not let anyone hit your child. Punishment is fine if you are okay with it, but you need to establish what form the punishment will take. Your son is only 3 and can't speak up for himself, so you need to be in control. If the boyfriend doesn't respect your rules, then he doesn't respect you or your child and needs to be out of your life.
@erielle (1280)
• United States
19 Oct 06
You dont know how to feel? What is wrong with you? Feel mad, feel hurt for your child. BUT do not feel sympathy for this man. Leave him. If he hit your son, he will do it again. Do not be stupid and stay. That would be the worst thing you could ever do to your son, and I doubt he will ever forgive you for it.
@coloryourainbows (37)
• United States
19 Oct 06
This is not good behavior, he should NOT be allowed to hit your son, you should find a better boyfriend.
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
19 Oct 06
You should feel sad for your baby, angry at your boyfriend and violated as a parent... or at least, I would.
It's your place, as a parent, to decide what type of discipline is necessary and to enforce it. If there is one thing I've learned as a Mom, it's that you must speak up about your feelings where your children are concerned. It's our job to protect them... anything less is unacceptable.
@luckygyrl1005 (5)
• United States
19 Oct 06
That is totally unexceptable! YOU should be the one disciplining your son. Tell your boyfriend it's not his place and to tell you when your son has done something wrong. If he's a decent guy, he'll understand, if he doesn't, then you've got to get him out of yours and your sons life. Your son should be your #1 concern now. remember, you want a positive male role model in your sons life, not a negative one. I wish you the best of luck.
@aureliaz (1177)
• Singapore
19 Oct 06
DO NOT LET YOUR BOYFRIEND HIT YOUR SON. I can't emphasize this enough. My father had anger management issues when I was growing up. Physically, he was the cruellest to my brother and I think it affected him. He's now violent and has a few issues himself. I can honestly say that mentally I didn't escape unscathed as well. So PLEASE, if you don't want your son to be screwed up, don't let him be abused.
