Death, not at all what I expected

Please accept my condolances for your loss. I'm glad you were with your grandmother when she passed. I believe that the one who is passing can feel the love of family and friends who are honoring her by standing with her when her moment comes. I have lost my father, my grandmother, and my dear mother-in-law within the past few years. I really think of their passing and the time following it as an occasion to celebrate a life lived well. Of course we grieve, but I believe that remembering the beauty and richness of your grandmother's life will give you comfort.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my grandmother in 1978, she had ovarian cancer too. I was only 13 at the time and even though I was really close to my grandmother, I couldn't bear to visit her in the hospital any more. I couldn't enter her room without crying. I was just so sad and I couldn't bear to see her in so much pain. My Mom understood. She told me not to worry, Grandma knows you love her.

im so sorry for your loss.what do you mean it wasnt what you expected?was it peaceful?what did you expect it to be like?i hope it was peaceful for her sake and yours,im sure you will miss her alot.

i am sorry to hear that and i know what it means. i could relate to you for i lost mt grandma last year in decembe. even she had cancer (uterine), she was staying home as per her wish, she declined to take chemo and we decided not to let her go through all those. my sisters live abroad and they just happened to visit calcutta by then and on 9th the whole family was beside her. the daybefore she was not feeling wll and started to have breathing problem, the next day she could not get up from bed. doctor was summoned and she passed away with one of her hands on my hands and the other on my sisters'. it was unbelievable how it all happened and i can still sense the presence of my grandma all around me, in every step i take i feel she is very much there with me. i never feel i have lost her, she is there with me forever.

First of all I want to condole with you for the loss of your grandmother. To me you have done very well, thank to you your grandmother could pass her last days at home. You needed to stay with her while she was passing over because you are a very sensitive person. I like you.

It is good to experience such.,cos it is a challenge for every human ,every one will die when it time comes,some will die old,some will die yong,and some will die at the mid age. But we all pray to die yong,no one likes to die yong.

I am sorry for your loss. I have experienced the same thing a few years ago with my dad. I knew he was dying and it was only a matter of time. I just happened to be the one in the room when it happened. My relationship with my dad was not all that great. He had left my mom when I was young and I really didn't know him as well as I should. Well. I walked into the room and I knew by the way he was breathing that his time was near. He was in a coma but I went to his bedside and held his hand. I told him that I loved him and I was sorry for not trying to see him more. I told him that it was okay to go. With that, a tear fell from his eye. I knew he heard me. Then he took his final breath. I must have held his hand for 15 more minutes after that. I'm glad that I had the chance to say goodbye to him.

Sorry you've lost your grandmother. I have never been fortunate enough to be with any of my relatives when they have passed. I was however with my best friends mother when she passed. I didn't know what to expect. Actually in her case it was kind of horrible. I had been there all day with her. She had kidney and liver failure and her lungs were failing and they couldn't get her off the ventilator. She was bleeding from every opening. They were filling her stomach with ice water trying to stop the bleeding. It was horrible. My friend and her siblings didn't know about all the blood, the nurse and I had put towels around because it was so bad it was going on the floor. As fast as they could get more blood in, it came out. Oh it was just awful. By the time the family arrived she only lived about 10 more minutes. I like to think that since she was in a coma, she felt no pain. I will never forget that day as long as I live.

I am so sorry for your loss. I went through something so similar about 3 1/2 years ago. My dad had been diagnosed with lung cancer and was on a ventilator in the hospital. They said he would now make it through the night. Well, he did, then came home with me and my husband. He lived another 7 weeks with us. I was with him on the morning he passed away and actually felt his last heart beat and saw his last breath. It has taken me a long time to deal with this. I am so glad that I was there. It was nothing like I expected either. I felt (sounds weird) privileged to be able to be there with him during his last moments here. Cherish your memories, even the very last one.

Yes, I have experienced it with someone. I found it spiritual. Even though it was sad, it was miraculous. Then later on, heartbreaking.

Sorry for yor lose , hope you will be al right , think of the happier days you all together ,

it doesnt matter if it was expected or not it still hurts the same,at least you got to say goodby to her, honey lots of hugs for you

Last thursday night, I almost did. I was so depresssed and scared because I couldn't do anything. I know she still doesn't want to die but she wouln't wake up. I didn't know what to do I just held her calling her name. It was fortunte that she regained consciousness but I was so so scared we'd lose her.

dmillman, I just popped in to see if you were around. Hope you're doing okay. I know it's a difficult time for you. You've been on my mind because I remember how painful the losses of my loved ones were in the first few days. It WILL get better. Time really does heal.

just crazy man want to die because we get life not free we must do the best we can do thank you

Please accept my prayers! God bless you and your family