Neglecting a child and getting another
By Marie2473
@Marie2473 (8512)
Sweden
January 29, 2007 1:44pm CST
I have a friend who is just as old as I am (26) and she has a 4 year old son. she is one of those that never should have gotten a child in the first place. she has NO responsibility. she is usually hireing temporary babysitters to take care of her son (several nights a week) so that she can go out and party and do what she wants. While she is at home - she usually puts him infront of the tv and basically giving him no attention at all.
I know that he is not a safe child and he has seen millions of men coming and going and he is therefor a confused little guy..
she is drinking alot and if she can´t get a babysitter she will invite a bunch of friends over and have the party at home instead. all people will be drunk while her baby is trying to sleep in another room...
Sometimes I have heard that they have even woken him up and let him be "in" the party!
Ok, to the other thing. i just recently found out that she is pregnant again and that she is planning to keep the child since she is against abortion. I for once think abortion would be better in this case since she hasn´t even stopped partying and the child is most likely to be born with brain-damage.
I just don´t know what to do - i have tried to talk to her and I have talked to her family who is as worried as I am. The mom is going to try and fight for custody, but my friend says she will never let that happen.
My friendship with her is more or less over since i can not stand and watch her do this - and also she doesn´t wanna talk to me since I disagree with her lifestyle..
Any advice?
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4 responses
@sunshinecup (7871)
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29 Jan 07
Her mother can call or you a child protection agency and make a complaint. The parties if frequent enough, the neglect and her drinking will be enough for them to investigate. This should get the ball rolling for the mother to seek custody. Hope this helps.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
29 Jan 07
Thanx alot. I will again havea talk with her mother.
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@mnksmommy (301)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I completely agree with your take on this Marie2473. This girl's mother probably could get custody of the little boy, I pray she does! If I were you I would call the local Department of Human Services or the Health Department and see if they can give you any advice on what to do to help this child in the mean time. The court system may take a while. Or if you know anyone who is a social worker as them for some input. I wish you luck and it is nice to see someone stand up for a child that really needs them.
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@mnksmommy (301)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I just thought of something else--if you know any of her neighbors ask them to keep an eye on the child and if there is ever the slightest reason for them to call the police ask them to please do it--this can br brought up against the boy's mom in court for the custody case.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
29 Jan 07
I agree - my heart really goes out to that child, and the child to be!
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@nibory (177)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It sounds like she is not married and so there isn't a father present to help with the children either.
The mom may have a very good chance of getting custody. Or maybe just that threat might help your friend realize she needs to grow up and be a good parent.
You are wise to let your friend know you disagree with her. If she doesn't grow up soon, she may risk losing her children. Hopefully before they get hurt by her lifestyle.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
29 Jan 07
Unfortunately, no matter how mean it sound i think the children would be better off somewhere else =(
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