what sould i do? im in love with a girl and she has a boyfriend
By morocz66
@morocz66 (121)
Romania
January 29, 2007 1:48pm CST
i know i shouldn't interfeer but the thing is we like each other, we talk laugh a lot tohether. now we agreed to go on a non official date.. we agreed to meet but i dont know what to do. should i push on? or just talk to her? i really like her, and i dont know what to do, i dont know if she knows what sshe wants either..
so what should i do?
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6 responses
@cplpacesgirl (754)
• United States
30 Jan 07
My fiance and I were best friends for 4 years before we finallly told each other how we feel. We saw each other through many relationships. But we always loved each other secretly. We never cheated on any of our girlfriends/boyfriends, even though sometimes we wanted to. Finally, he told me how he really felt, even though he was with someone else at the time. He told me that it had always been me. He broke up with her a few weeks later and we've been together ever since. But we needed that time apart to learn about each other and build that foundation.
So my advice to you:
I'm not saying to keep your mouth shut. I'm not saying to tell her right now. But you do need to tell her. She could be the one. Don't let that pass you by just because she has a boyfriend.
I know my advice isn't great, but it's all I have.
@cplpacesgirl (754)
• United States
30 Jan 07
A little harmless flirting I don't think is too bad. But nothing over the top. Act like a friend for the most part. But if you throw in a few flirtations... I don't see anything really bad about that.
@morocz66 (121)
• Romania
30 Jan 07
the thing is im not so in love with her, i dont know her that well and if i told her how i feel she would think that .. i dont know, he barely knows me and he's in love..
so you're probably right i shouldnt tell her right now, and i dont intend to either. but if wwe go on a date should i flirt with her or just behave like a friend
@anex84 (465)
• Bulgaria
30 Jan 07
It is unlikely that this is going to turn out well. It sure got off to a bad start. She has to do some damage control before you get further involved with her. Look at it this way: if she is dating this other guy and make out with you, what's going to keep her from "getting caught up" in another moment?
@myfriendz (1226)
• India
15 Feb 07
i ahve advice for
if u think ur disturbing them then ur wrong prove her that u love her more than that guy
and finally u will be sucessful dont just give up and feel great that u sacrificed ur love
@UmmBinyamin (419)
• United States
29 Jan 07
tell her how u feel but u dont wanna mess up her and her guys relationship and ask her wat does she wanna do u kno
@Fallen_Gurl (480)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
hmmm you dont wanna try to hard to get her, when she has a boyfriend, i think maybe you should just be yourself, and make her laugh and just have fun, in tyme hopefully she'll realize she wanst to be with you, but dont try to break them up, she might hate you for that if she really loves him, and you dotn wanna loose her as a friend too.
@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I'd say try to feel her out. See how serious she is with this guy before you try to see about you and her going out in the future.