Do You Know Someone Who Is Lonely?

United States
January 29, 2007 3:03pm CST
Being the oldest of eight children forced Angie to grow up too soon. She married right out of high school to her best friend. She gave birth to their first daughter 13 months later. She became pregnant soon after that birth but it was not in the plan to give birth to this child. She lost it 6 months after conception. A few months later she became pregnant again. This time she carried it to term and gave birth to their second daughter. She later miscarried 3 more times. She lost a part of herself with each miscarriage. She kept it all inside. In those days, one didn’t talk it out. Her health slowly began to fail. She had surgery after surgery for various problems. With each surgery she became weaker. She was a fighter, she never gave up. Even when the Doctor told her she would never walk normally again. Another battle was before her. She came out on top. She did walk normally again. She was now ready for the next battle. Years later, her daughters grown with husbands of their own, she had another battle to fight. This time she is not as strong as before. The disease takes it toll and she is exhausted all the time. She tries to fight but it is difficult. Normal every day stress is harder and harder to handle. She is weak and only her knowledge of God gives her hope. She longs to be with her Father in heaven for all eternity. Yet she longs to be with her family here on earth. This once, strong, outgoing lady is now staying in her home more and more. Nobody comes to visit her. They have forgotten her. The lady whom they used to visit for help and companionship is now lonely. She is tired. Is it time to leave this world? Is it time to move on to the next phase of the plan? What the future holds for her is unknown. What is known is that she is ready for whatever change Heavenly Father has in store for her. She has prepared and put oil in her lamp, one drop at a time. She has tried to do what is right and by doing this her lamp slowly filled. It is truly amazing how people flock to others when they can help them in some way. When they are no longer able to help them, they tend to not visit. The doorbell nor the phone rings. It is not just the elderly who get lonely. It is the sick, the forgotten, the families who are struggling to make ends meat. We all need a gentle touch of human kindness. We all need a friend to call or stop by and say “I have been thinking of you.”
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36 responses
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
30 Jan 07
You are so, so right. What a lovely, thoughful post. If this is a real story, I feel so badly for this woman, and I hope that some wonderful people will come into her life _soon_. I know exactly how bad it feels to feel lonely, mainly because I am so shy. There are times in my life where I have barely been able to stand the lonliness, and have wondered if it was worth being alive, yet there is no way that I could ever imagine myself taking my life. I know too that there is always something to live for. But lonliness is the worst feeling in the world, for me. As shy as I am, I am a complete people person, who needs others' affection around me very dearly or I just do not feel 'right' or 'complete'. I love making others happy, and also don't feel as good about life if I don't have someone around whom I can make feel good. *laugh* So yes, I know what it is like to feel lonely. I wish that no one ever had to go through that feeling. It is one of the worst things ever.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
It is a real life situation. There are so many lonely people all over the world. I just think we would all feel better if we took the time to let them know we care. It would help them and us too. I think we all know what it is like to feel lonely at some time in our lives
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• United States
29 Jan 07
Villageanne, I have been thinking of you and I have been lighting my candle daily with you in my prayers. ~Donna
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• United States
31 Jan 07
Donna, It is good to see you on mylot. Thanks for your support. There are so many lonely people out there and we still seem to ignore them.
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@GardenGerty (160491)
• United States
30 Jan 07
As an approach rto creating more community in our rather large church, we developed a program of parish nursing. Under this committee we took volunteers this year to visit those who are older from our congregation on a regular monthly basis. My husband and I signed up together, and we were rewarded with one of his favorite older couples, and an older gentleman I have visited with in the past, like twenty years ago. It is stimulating, and rewarding and fullfilling. They still have much to give.
• United States
31 Jan 07
that is great. The elderly do have so much to give. They have learned the true meaning of life and how important love and sharing is. It breaks my heart to see so many lonely when we could do somehting to ease it for them.
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@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
30 Jan 07
how sad but so true... May I send her a card or would you feel uncomfortable about that ??? You can send me her address in PM it you feel its ok ..if not I understand ..I will send her some prayers...
• United States
31 Jan 07
That is so very nice of you but I am really not comfortable giving out the address. Prayers would be super. thanks so much for your compassion. Someone came to my home and mowed my lawn once when my husband and I was very ill. It was one of my seminary students. I offered to pay him but he said somehting that I still think of today. He said "Just help someone else who needs you sometime". This came from a 17 year old boy. So I ask of you "help someone in your community who is alone and needs your gentle touch on her hand".
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@howiedy (236)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I am so touched by the story. I agree that it is the sick, the forgotten the families who are struggling to make ends meet that are forgotten. If God chooses to make her stay on Earth then God wants her to be an inspiration, a living example to the living. If God takes her life away, then it is His plan for her to rest and not prolong the agony. I do not want to be forgotten when I grow old and weak. May we be able to realize each one's worth and find "real" friends who will be with us no matter what, even in times of dire need.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
I think we learn from these kinds of experiences. I think Heavenly Father needs us to be more compassionate and loving than we are so he has to hit us with a club, so to speak, sometimes to get us to understand. I am a firm believer that this lonliness will be use to make us stronger and more compassionat. Look how much just writing the discussion has done. I can not believe all the wonderful comments and the hearts that are opening up with love and compassion
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• United States
30 Jan 07
I can just feel the loneliness as I read this post. Just hang on in there...God is with us always. I know people here on Earth comes and goes but we are always assured of God's presence in our lives. He will never abandon us. I am thinking of you right now, hope your ok and I be praying for you. God bless.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
Your comment is touching. I am amazed at all the wonderful comments that this discussion is recieving. So many wonderful people with love to share. I know God is always there but sometimes it seems he is trying to use us to get others to feel more compassion. He knows we are truly stronger than we think we are.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
I hope this brings to people's minds how important it is to remember those that we may have long forgotten about. The people that we once had good friendships with that have put on a shelf because we are busy with our own lives. Huggers to you.
@citygirl (1080)
• Canada
30 Jan 07
Anne , I am thinking of you. Don't you dare give up. I can relate to how you feel, as I was there once my self. I fought the battle with cancer and the docs. said there was nothing more they can do. I refused to give up. there were days when all I wanted to do was die. But each day as I lay in bed a ray of sunshine managed to find me. It irritated the living life out of me as I was so sick even the sun touching me hurt me. I think that was my sign Anne . Well that was 9 years ago, I got so bad they gave me my last rights and boy did that make me made , I thought not to likely and I started to fight back. We as you know I am still hear and feel well now and work full time, and I am taking a course two nights a week and all day saturday. You keep on fighting girl. Do none of your children live near you. why don't you or your hubby call some of those people who came to you for help. call them and say I need help the help of your friendship , often people don't know what to do, they don't want to bother you . An people are afraid of sickness or desease. you keep your chin up girl, my prayer and thoughts are with you.Debbie
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• United States
31 Jan 07
I agee that people seem to be afriad of sickness. They often think that they will come at a bad time and bother you but if they only realized how important a touch or a kind word can be.
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• India
30 Jan 07
helping - Helping hands are more important for those people who are disabled
Helping hands are more important for those who are disabled. The people must come forward to help them. Surely according to your discussion it is true that when they cant help them they will not attempt to meet them. I like to give a advice to those peoples i.e Please dont think that money is the only way to help you can also help by making dispenasary, cleaning their body and so on.
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
30 Jan 07
An awesome story that happens all too often. Good of you to bring it here. Hope you share it at all the sites you go to where you can. I appreciate your thoughts and agree. The human touch of caring can be so valuable. The gesture does not even have to be a large one. A subtle one can do wonders. I am fortunate that I call you friend.
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@avs189 (1030)
• India
30 Jan 07
Really touching story...really lit up the emotions and makes one think abt his real exsistence ....truly i began to clock the time and realize what my life would be like when i grow old...shall i face the same consequences...nevr know what can happen with u .....life is mystery to live...!!!
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• Canada
30 Jan 07
Wow that is so true and very sad . That is one of the big problems with society even today , is that when there is a problem you are told not to discuss it when in truth a lot of the times talking and someone listening is the best medicine you could give to someone . Taking the time to listen to someone who is sad or lonely . I know I went through a period of depression and when I would try to talk about it , friends and family would be at a loss of what to say to help or just uncomfortable about the whole situation so they would tend not to call or visit as much . I have also been the one to listen to someone who was depressed and have always tried to picture how I would feel in their shoes and try to be as sympathetic as I can be even if I don't fully agree , as we all see things in a different way . What might bother me , may not bother you and vice versa . Very well written but sad .
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• United States
30 Jan 07
I thought I was lonely being a single mother of 3 and having to stop school because of finances. No boyfriend, no family around but my kids... but after reading this, it made me think that I'm still doing a lot better than a lot of people out there. I hope that all the people who read this will think and remember someone they know that may be needing them right now. May they be enlightened and try to do something special for that lonely person. God bless your heart for making us remember!
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@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
30 Jan 07
may god bless her, help her, give her hope. i dont know this person, i wish i can help but i doubet i could, i just going to send my best wish to her. whatever her decision is going to be hope it is the best.
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@ash6666 (819)
• India
30 Jan 07
what the opinion you has expressed on lonlyness is very real and heartfeeling.I dont know anybody who is loney,infact i am myself lonely.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 07
This is so lovely,sad and so right I am lucky I still have my Friends and Family to back me and care for me and I know I always will have but I know this sort of thing happens and it is very sad that it does
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• Nigeria
30 Jan 07
I am sorry to hear that u feel this way. U really need to talk to someone, becuz u sound as if ur on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I don't think that there is anything wrong with u just that right now u r not happy with ur life. It is not going to change if u just sit around and continue to be depressed. U have to learn to love urself and feel good about urself before anyone else will. Take some time and just do things for urself. When u were born, were u born with friends? No! So what if u don't have any or that many, start opening up to people. Just like u opened up on answers. Lift ur head high, u do have a lot to be thankful. For instance, u woke up to see another day. What about those that weren't fortunate enough to see their next day? When u think ur situation is bad there is always others that r worst than u r. Make the best of ur life and start making changes, this is 2007 which means this is ur year
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@maru_047in (1007)
• India
30 Jan 07
It is one sad story it looks like fiction after hearing to this i think she is great i think she has struggled a lot and she is fighting for her life now and i think becoming a mother in such a small age was her fault and i think atleast she ll be happier after she lives this world.
• India
30 Jan 07
Wow . That was an amazing story .. Yes . I'm pretty lonely myself and I know what you mean exactly ..
30 Jan 07
I could say myself. (at times i do) My wife feels lonely because he school + college friends now aren't interested and most just use her. when they need something they go to her because they she'll listen + care, yet they aren't there for her when she needs it. I try to be there and i am but we both need friends. which is why she's the only one i know who's lonely. (on the plus side we're both making new friends now) poor me lol.. =)