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well...it yours decision really...!!! yours and your bf'z...!! you dont have to get married because some1 said so...!! moreover frankly speaking....i have noticed that the spark in some relationship vanishes after marriage....so until you guys are totally sure...dont get married..!! you yourself said that you guys are happy...and have a wonderful relationship!! i think its fine.... ^_^

u r living together 11 years -this tells ur strong love.at the same time marriage doesn't break ur love it helps to get respect from others. so get married.

I agree with you. If you love each other enough, you don't need marriage to prove it. You've already proven it.

If you've been together this long and have children together, and are as comfortable with each other as you sound - then why change anything. As the saying goes, "Don't fix what ain't broke!" If your mother-in-law can't let it go, it's her own damn problem! Don't do it to please her or you'll regret. Only do it if you WANT to do it!

Honeyangel you two seem like stuck on glue to each other why shouldnt you. You dont have to go and have a wedding go down to the courthouse. I think you all should do this you are already a family you have 2 kids to think about. You should have life insurance and you can go on his health insurance or the other way around. You to love each other getting married is a symbol of your love and if you love hime like you seem to go ahead with it. SisterLove

My sister and her partner are in the same position, been living together for 8 years with 3 kids, Their happy as can be, but his mother keeps mentioning marriage. My advice to my sister was as long as you have all the insurance coverage, house deeds, guardianship etc sorted then there no pressure to tie the knot. Maybe some time in the future you both will be sitting on a beach somewhere all romantic and decide ok lets get married.

as you know I am of the older generation but my grand kids say I am "cool" because I keep up to date , Does your mother in law not see that you love each other , she needs to keep up with the times , If you got married now we she expect "a big white wedding" and with the money it cost you could have a lovely holiday for your family , When I got married 45 years ago , that was the done thing " she probably did the same . My 2 eldest are married but when my youngest meets someone I would say " whatever you do you do with my blessing " be happy that's what counts xx

That is just a piece of paper that your mother-in-law wants and it is not her you have to satisfy. Eleven years is a long time to be together. That shows that you two are connected. Deeply. People don't stay together that long and not have deep feelings for each other. Did you realize that since you have been married as long as you have that you are what is known as common law married. After I think the time period is 7 years than you are legally married anyway. Next time your mother-in-law mentions that to you just tell her you are married by the law. Give her the fact that after so many years you are legally married.