A question for my female friends...

My boyfriend has mostly women friends. It's not a problem for me, because I'm not a jealous person. In fact, one of the things I love about him is the fact that he is so good with women. He is very charismatic, and I appreciate that about him. You are in a position that could cause some jealousy issues, but if you handle it right, it should all be OK. The most important thing is to not be 'secretive' about your relationships with these two women. Let your 'partner' be a part of the group, let her see first hand what kind of relationship you have with these friends. And I would suggest that you not be with someone who is so insecure that they could not handle your 'business' acquaintences. You want a woman who will support you, not continuously try to knock you down.

Have either of your best friends shown interest in you as more then just friendship? If they have never expressed any interest in you outside of mutual friendship I think that you are being paranoid. If both have expressed interest in you are you planning on pursuing one and not the other? Then you have serious problems... and all that any of us can do is wish you luck!

There is an old expression, once bitten twice shy. If you've had experience with someone who was very jealous it is easy to worry about similar happening again. If they are both very good friends then talk with them. Find out where they stand and make sure that it won't be a problem for them. Explain why you are worried, if they don't already know about your ex, and that you just don't want to cause problems or worse lose their friendship due to a misunderstanding.

You know what? Guys like you are rare... Not all guys would consider the feelings of friends especially when talking about finding a new "someone". I guess, if you do start dating, tell your best friends about it. I'm sure they would understand and would probably encourage you to pursue the person. But then I am assuming that there is no "romantic" feelings involved here. If the relationship you have with them is platonic, there shouldn't be any problem right? No jealousy or anything (well... maybe the pretend kind just to show you that they miss your company Ü) But if they feel something more than that and they're not letting on... uhhh.. you can just imagine Hell breaking loose. =P Just talk it over. Since they are your best friends, I'm pretty sure they would understand. =)

It sounds like your best friends are like sisters to you. They shouldn't be a problem for any woman in your future if you simply explain that these women are like family to you. Good luck in your search. :)

I think that it is a legitimate concern. I think that when you decide to date again, you need to be upfront with your date (NOT on the first date). The woman that you choose to date should be included with your female friends, and it should be made clear to her, by you and your female friends that there is NO love interest between you and them. If you include her, not exclude her, in your relationship with these other woman, there should not be a problem. When I met my husband, his best friend was a female. Her and I are best friends and we are always together.

This is a bad thing in the world going with a true friend for date. This means that you are only for date with her.

Well I think any 'secure' woman you date wouldn't have a problem with these two female friends being in your life. After all, you could have had the chance to date one of them while your single and you didn't, you picked her instead of one of these two.

I think you should be ok, as you are obviously a sensitive guy to have decided it could be an issue. In theory they should be over the moon for you if you develop a new relationship. Just be careful not to spend all your time telling how wonderful your new partner is and the rest of the time about your disagreements! LOL As long as you still spend quality time with your friends I'm sure things will be ok! good luck and hope you meet that special someone soon xxx

Honey didn't we talk about this already!! lol I think it would be a legit concern not jealousy! Becasue when a woman is in a relationship they want no other woman stealing their guys heart and if they already have your heart in one way then how can she have it all?? And if you decide to spend more time with your "Best friends" then your girl then she would more than likley get a little jealous! anyways ttyl!!

you should try to talking to the women involved and here what they have to say, you might be worrying about nothing but you will never know if you dont ask

Well, we are competitive by nature and I am sure there will be some jealousy issues. I just hope that both of your friends are good enough friends that they can just be happy for you. I am more concerned about the women you may decide to date. If you are up front about the friendships you have with these women, you should be able to avoid too much conflict. Make sure that each woman is aware of the others and where they stand with you. This should help avoid too much awkwardness. How do your two friends react to one another? That should give you some idea as to how they will react to any woman you decide to date.

Mature, adult relationships don't have to have jealousy. My husband has female friends, some are exes. I have many great male friends... one of them walked me down the aisle at my wedding and he was once a boyfriend of mine. We are both secure enough in our relationship to know that it's OK to have friends, male and female, and just because we have a past with someone, doesn't mean it's going to become a future. our future is with each other.

Unless you're leading these two women on I don't know why either would become jealous if you start dating. Are you jealous of their other male friends?

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It is a good one and well said.

If there is secretiveness in a husband's relationships then the wife is likely to feel not only jealousy but also something worse. if you are open right from thre begining there are less chances of anything going wrong.

You should never sacrifice your friends for a girlfriend. Be sure that you do not do that. It won't be worth it in the end, and the right woman won't make you leave your friends behind. I think that the most that you can do is show yourself to be a respectable, faithful man. So long as you don't give a reason for your girlfriend to be suspicious, she might not be. However, there are girls who are insanely jealous for no good reason. Be sure to discuss this with potential girlfriends first, that way you will know what her views on female friends are. Personally, I don't care about my boyfriend having female friends, so long as nothing inappropriate is exchanged between the two.

I guess that it could be a legitimate concern if you have ever cheated on a girlfriend before, then current girlfriend would feel threatened by you having female friends. Some women it is just because they have been cheated on and so therefore think that all men cheat. Your past actions will say alot about you on this subject. Then their are just the women that are insecure and their isn't anything that you can do about it. The best advise I could give is finding a women that is secure with herself and that will trust in you to not be hurt. Good luck!

Just try dating someone you'll get the answer then.