Emotional Black Mailing!

That's really a tough question to answer without knowing more details about what happened during your argument but I understand if you'd rather not post the details. Try to take a step back and replay the argument in your head. What, exactly did she say and what was your response to what she said? If you just can't figure it out, I would sit her down and tell her how upset you are and ask her to tell you exactly what it was that you said that she considered emotional blackmail. It could be that she is not sure of the real meaning of the term and just threw it out there in the heat of the moment. I hope you two get this worked out. You seem like a very sweet man who loves his wife very much.