Is it always going to be this way...

Canada
January 29, 2007 11:45pm CST
Okay, before anyone makes this comment "well he's just being a typical teenager"...please read this BEFORE you make that comment. He's not a typical teenager by any means, shape or form. He's ADHD, also has Oppesitional Defiant Conduct Disorder, non verbal learning disability, and possibly autism spectrum (they haven't finished the testing yet) ... so please, save those comments... Anyways... With a child having all of these various problems, how do you figure what is normal and which is not normal? My oldest son has just turned 13. He is going through puberty (has had certain things happening which we know come from going into puberty) and he is on two types of medication for his problems... (Concerta and Risperidone) ... He is the sweetest, loving, caring boy a mother could have. I am so grateful that he didn't pick up his fathers sucky attitude (trust me, it is.) but oh my god this past couple of days has been like riding on a rollercoaster of emotions through hell. I am trying not to break down but it is SO hard not to. He has been quite mean to me verbally, quite mean to his sister (he tossed an empty icecream bucket at her head this morning and gave her a mark, and now I have CPS after me....groovy!) ...the first thing I did this morning is call in his counselor, who gave me some suggestions as to how to manage his behaviour. But holy smoke. How do you feel when a child does this to you? I mean he is up and down like a teeter totter. He's so darn lucky he doesn't have MY mom as his mother, or he would've been belted by now. Oi. I usually do what I do, is laugh it off, but deep down it does hurt when he does this. This little boy has gone through so much in his life, I am honestly surprised he still has the energy to be a smarty... So how would you feel?
3 responses
kuberselvam
@kuberselvam (46)
• India
30 Jan 07
It is quite possible that some children behave that way . You have done the right thing by consulting the Counselor.They act very mean , don't listen to our words,treat us as their enemy etc., etc.,But I thing lovable words can make things better. Better still will be to channelize their energy to learning some skills.Yoga will surely help.
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patgalca
@patgalca (18391)
• Orangeville, Ontario
30 Jan 07
I have felt this way. My daughter is thirteen. A couple of years ago I was dealing with outbursts of "You should never have been a mother!", "I don't want you as my mother!", "Why did you have to have her?" (little sister) and even "I don't want to live." It was very disheartening and I too had CPS after me because she was having stomach aches and someone felt I wasn't doing anything about it. I was doing something about it: making phone calls and being put on long waiting lists. The call to family services did, I think, get her moved up on the waiting list. She got put on a very low dose of Prozac. She is doing well. She no longer has these angry outbursts, stomach aches or panic attacks. For thirteen, she is actually a sweetheart. She still gets mad but then, don't we all?
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sylvrrain
@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I am sorry you are having to go through this, but you are doing the right thing, laugh it off. I know it hurts, but you know in your heart he would not do these things if he could help it. It could be the meds, or hormones, or a combination of both. You did the right things by talking to his counselor. It may be a good idea to explain to his sister that sometimes he does things he just can't help, and everyone needs to stick together and show him love and understanding. I know it is hard, and may be near impossible, but have faith. With any luck, they can regulate the meds, and his hormones will level out, so he can become the son that you know and love again. I wish your family the best, and remember, have faith.
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