is it wrong to fall inlove with your bestfriend?
By clarah_cille
@clarah_cille (654)
Philippines
January 29, 2007 11:57pm CST
a lot of bestfriends tried to put border lines in their friendship because they are afraid to fall inlove and break the friendship that they have. why is that? for me, it would be best if you fall inlove to your friend or best friend because you already know her/him well. unless its only a one way feeling. but if both of you have same feelings, why hiding it? you may risk your relationship but you're also trying to let go the possiblity to be happy with that someone who is your bestfriend. i guess its really not that complicated, its we who complicate simple things.
6 responses
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
You are right. Falling inlove with your bestfriend is not wrong and it is the best because the two of you already know each other. Telling your bestfriend about your feelings is also okay so that you can express it rather than hiding it and feel the pain in your heart.
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@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
2 May 07
it may not be wrong but it may also be the reason why your friendship changed. telling how you feel to your bestfriend have consequences. it may be positive, but can be negative as well. but i guess its only the right thing to tell that someone how you really feel.
@blindedfox (3315)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Well, I see nothing wrong with it as long as you are uncommitted. Falling in love between friends is part of our well being. It only becomes bad if you already ahve someone with you yet you still look at your bestfriend as something else. =)
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@sanmiguel (38)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
No it is not wrong to fall in love with your best friend. It is actually ok to fall in love with anyone. All the more with your best friend.=)
There's just one thing you must make sure when the time comes that you think you have fallen for your best friend. Are you confusing love with companionship and belongingness? It is natural for best friends to express these two (companionship and belongingness). Usually when no one is around to give us these two, our best friends are the ones who can give it to us. Usually it is on these times that we confuse love with plain companionship. Feelings are quite complicated. =)
Thus by my statements I have somewhat contradicted what you said. But thats just my opinion. =)
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@tombiz (2036)
• Philippines
3 May 07
Having a best friedn as a wife or husband is a great thing to have. just imagine, you have a wife/husband and you have a very good friend. You know each other well and there is no need to adjust to each temperament once married. In fact, I think, we must make our partner in marriage as our best friend in life.
Of course, there are some who really avoided falling in love with their best friends and that's quite understandable. In case, the other side is not feeling the same, the friendship could be compromised. I think just be sure that the feeling is mutual. I see nothing with this type of scenario -- friends becoming lovers.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
3 May 07
I see nothing wrong with falling in love with your friend. I have a close male friend who I dated for a few months several years ago and it just didn't work out as a relationship,but we are still good friends and I know that he is always there if I need a friend and he knows that I am always here for him. He has lived with my husband and I a couple of times. I will always care about him and hope for the best for him.
@joycer (498)
• Sri Lanka
3 May 07
I do not find anything wrong with that. Love is blind. It's whoever and whenever.You are right, that they are afraid of breaking their friendship because of that feeling that they have. And if the feeling is not mutual, barriers may arise. It's either you lose him or he looses you. Others are not comfortable if they knew that their best friend is in love with him or her. But if both love each other, nothing is better than that.
