can we disobey our parents and still respect them at the same time?

You ask "can WE ..." so I presume you are talking about adults, not children. (If we are talking about children, then children must obey their parents, but parents have a responsibility, not to just command, but to guide. There needs to be communication. The children need to be able to - quietly and politely - put their point of view, but listen to their parents). I believe your question was actually asking if adults should obey their parents. Once again, there are factors to be considered. Is one still living at home with the parents or receiving financial support from the parents? Has the person set up his own home, with a wife and family? Is the parent "interfering" in something outside the rights of a parent? - with the new home life? Once a person has set up his own home, he is no longer under the discipline of his parents, and a wise parent would not try to interfere. While the person is still under his parent's roof, then the parent has the right to set down the rules of the house. Respect and obedience. Respect is to hold in esteem, to defer to, to hold in very high regard, to honour. We should always respect our parents, and when we respect them, we will listen politely to their advice and take it into consideration. If we do not take their advice, we should always, out of respect, tell them, but it is not disobedience. We should show gross disrespect if we did not listen to their advice.

If parents dictate instead of guide then it is difficult to obey them. I lost respect for my father because he was very narrow minded and never ever opened to my viewpoint. I obeyed him out of fear in my youth as he had a bad tempered demeanor. Unfortunately I lost respect. Wish it had been different.

I think it can do. I know sometimes people can respect other but don't agree with his opinion, it is the same with parent. If you get a diffrent opinion you can express it to your parent, and explan what you think aout, I think they wil nderstand you. Communication is mportant in this case.

nope, disobedience is different with disrespect. Sometimes i disobey my parents because we have different point of viewm but still i respect him. God Himself gave me free will, i can choose my own path, but still, sometimes i gave up and obey my parents, vice versa. i do think live is an enrollment game, so ussually i try to see from my parents point of view, vice versa, then if there's still no side that willing to give up, ussually we take our own path. Parents can give advice, showing their point of view, etc, but they can't force anyone, including their own son.

The whole thing depends on how you define these terms. If the parents can respect their kids as citizens of a newer world and won't judge them, the question of disobedience may never surface. Because, in such cases, there won't be any demands or advices, but just suggestions, which can be or acnnot be followed. From the side of the new generation also, some willingness to accept elders muct be there, especially to gauge everything carefully before taking a decision.

No, disobedience differs from disrespect. You may disobey your parents but still showing some respect to them.. We sometimes disobey our parents when we think differently from them. It doesn't mean that when you disobeyed them, you are disrespecting them.

In this day and age to measure respect from obedience is I think wrong on behalf of the parents too. The kids, small or grown up are too independent and have numerous sources of information and are really quick at analysing and judging things. They all have their own opinions. BNow is the time when parents have to understand their kids. If they disobey you it never means they disrespect you. Thats how a societyy changes and how a culture develops. If all children had obeyed their parents then may be we would still be living on the trees or open. Someone somewhere always disobeys rules and forms her own thing. May be back then some parents would have objected to their kids wearing clothes made of leaves as it would have been inappropriate from their cultural point of view. As men lived like animals, then. so I think for society to grow as a whole people have to disobey the present norms taught by the parents, and parents have to give in to the flow. I will cite an example of my mopther, My mother's father wanted her to marry soon after high school as in those days girls going to college was not normal only few went there. She cried whole night and fasted a whole day to make himagree to sendd him to do graduation, in whioch she bagged the gold medal and which led him to do post graduation too and then get work too. If she had not done so and obeyed her father I don't know what would have happened to us after my father was no more and she had to raise us all alone. So sometimes its a good thiong to disobey your parents.

Our parents earn our respect through their care, affection, love and understanding. In addition to respect, we give them love and when required care. Filial obedience is quite the key at certain stages of life, and in certain circumstances. While young, certainly. Circumstances such as interactions or disputes with other relatives, siblings etc where the parental view invites and invokes obedience. However, in other matters, which are generally outside of the domain of the extended family - such as the kind of car you want to buy with your own money when you re 35 and been independent for 15 years etc., obedience may be a bit of an onerous expectation. Love and respect, consideration for each other's views is certainly the most desirable aspect of the parent and child relationship. If the relationship, as children turn into adults evolves and matures, disobedience may well be an agreed upon position - without any loss of love or respect.

i am agree. u r right that we and our parents r of different generation product but they r ultimately our parents so we have respect them in any situation. this is my thinking. but i also face some situation when i disrespect them bcoz at that time i cant control myself but after that i feel my guilty. i continiously trying to control my self in such situations and i know that i will succeed.

Why not. I augured with my mother often for some different ideas, for example, she thought i should work with my boyfriend,who is working far away from me. But i insisted that i have my own work and way of live, i'd like to lead my own life. But i still respect her, as she bored all the unhappniess in my family, and she wasted her whole life to bring my sister and me up.