Should Love always be unconditional?? Is it really possible??

Hmmm interesting topic..... n very challenging to put forth the exact thoughts :D..... Well as per me, both the dreamer and the realist are right.... Because both of them are saying the same thing... though in different ways... Love is unconditional, commitment creates expentancies..... When painting for ones sake, someone puts his heart and soul in it and doesnt expect any benefit out of it, just wants the paiting to be beautiful, tats unconditional love..... If you love someone, you love him/her whole heartedly.... without expecting any benefit out of that person.... But yet want that person to be happy and his/her life to be beautiful always....... Expectations are not conditions necessarily.... Expecting your soulmate to listen to your view on a topic for which you both have different visions is not a condition unless u want him/her to change their vision forcefully and agree to you..... Its also true that u only expect from a person who is close to you and loves you.... Be it any relationship.... You cannot put a condition that a person whom you love should also love you... But if the other person does love you, you will expect him/her to express it..... Thats human nature.... So if you love someone... Love them without any conditions, no ifs and buts..... If they love you too, they will return your love back with the same intensity... and If they dont.... u be content by the feeling that once in the lifetime god has given u this opportunity to experience what true love is....

trust me.. everything bout love is intriguing.. as far as i feel love should be unconditional..the feelin of being in love is amazing.. u get into a trance.. it does hurt a lot when u dont get the same respose.. but doin sumthing for yr love makes u complete.. but in case yr committed.. then you have few expectations.. u always want some respose for everything u've done for yr beloved.. its not wrong in any way.. its just being more practical.. so i think the dreamer n the realist both hold a good stand

Yes, it is really possible if you really want it. Lucky me,I found my true love.

well i say that i would expect the same love from my partner n thats the fact that every one wants that his or her love respond the same...but if it don't happen it would hurt....

When we love then we expect it to return to us 101% then we fail to feel it,im sure,we will get hurt...If we love, we should always prepare things which are unexpected. Like prepare to let go, prepare to be alone, prepare to get hurt...Thats why, i guess we better love unconditionally to all the people we want to love.To have a life that full of happiness!!!

the definition of love always comes without conditions... you love somebody you don't know why, how and when it started !! we often get ourself into confusion when we relate relationship with love. Both are totally different from each other but still a integral part of each other. With relationship comes conditions like faithfulness etc... but with love never comes any condition... when you love somebody it don't means that you move forward for a relationship... thats a feeling that sometimes you keep it with yourself... then where is the place for conditions in this ??

I think that we don't love the people, but what tha people do or represent for us.

yeh its a mix of both. You wont love all the ones you meet , love comes only to those whom you are attracted as said my dreamer and you always wish to get your love reflected back to you even if you know that they have lots of other priorities as said by realist . so both are true.

love should be from both the sides .... otherwise?.';.;.' both of them will be unhappy.....

i think you need to reconsider your statement that love without expectation is not possible.true love doesn't expects anything from your beloved.and it is possible for us to love without expections because if there is any expectation then that is not love that is a kind of deal which you are doing to get your profit. you believe me it is not ideal concept ,if you take the example of parents they love their children and they doesn't expects anythinh from them,when example of true love without any expectation is present in each and every where there is family even then how can you say that love without expectation is not possible in real life. believe if you love truly anyone then the only thing you will want is the happiness of that person and nothing else.also let me tell you that beloved may be your family member or any other person.

Love can be unconditional. Unrequited love is unconditional. I have loved someone unconditionally but I was not loved the same way unfortunately.

it seems quiet a nice response coming down at this thread !!

This is not possible..

man i am mad now. I wrote a really long great post and it got deleted =\ i cant write it again

Yes i think love can be unconditional at times.... I have seen one sided love affairs where one person just goes on loving the person knowing that the other person isn't interested but still that person goes on loving the other person this is unconditional it is going on without any conditions....this for me is unconditional love The love that mother gives a child is unconditional she doesn't expect anything from the child but she gives the child everything she scab without any conditions But if u r talking bout a husband wife or girlfriend boyfriend relationship i think i am into one but still looking for what exactly is unconditional love...haven't experienced something of this sort as yet

Hmmmm.... I think it is a combination of the two. Giving without recieving...as long as it is appreciated. no one wants to give all the time unless they are getting something back....and would that be a love worth persuing? Never really thought about that before!