IVF- Are you in favour of sperm/ova donation?
By ronaldinu
@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
January 30, 2007 9:29am CST
I had a heated discussion with a friend of mine. We were dicussing the subject of IVF (test tube babies). I am only against IVF by donor, where there is an ova or sperm donation by a third party. My friend said that she was ready to go all the way until she achieved what she wanted, that is having a baby.
Let's say a couple who resort to IVF by sperm donation, and a few years later end up separated/divorced. Can the mother claim that her husband is not the father of the child and neglect his rights of fatherhood?
I don't feel myself comfortable, knowing that my wife would be pregnant with a child by another man. What is your opinion about this subject? Would you do it just the same?
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36 responses
@mdzafaruddin (879)
• India
31 Jan 07
yes i am in favour of doindg do, atleast inthis way people who dont have baby,can get their own baby.
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@doc_sid9 (316)
• India
31 Jan 07
well theres nothing wrong in donating ones eggs/sperms..provided its done in good faith and no monetary or any privledges r involved in that..
its just when u do it to treat some ones infertility ..it becomes a good cause...
if this becomes an habitual procedure the it will loose its significance and it will become total commercial...
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@shi_2000_21 (2680)
• India
31 Jan 07
I am in favour of sperm donation fully. There is no harm in going for test tube fertility. But the one basic condition is that both the partners should understand each other fully. Here mutual understanding is the key to success.
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@valmiki9 (1171)
• India
31 Jan 07
Only foolish people will go in for donation by an unknown owner. All the tendencies of a human being are embossed in a sperm. The resultant product may not be suitable for the environment for which it is created.Heriditary tendencies cannot be changed by cultivation. they remain subdued till the person attains adult hood. It will shiow once the person becomes independant.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
31 Jan 07
Jake1978 as I said to an earlier guy this is not a light subject, so please do refrain to make stupid comments such as you have done.
@toyboxer04 (353)
• Malta
31 Jan 07
Just for you to know what we are talking about...you have to do it in a container or a small bottle!! That is very far away from what you understood!
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@tw99384 (259)
• Jodhpur, India
31 Jan 07
I too feel the same like you. I would not go in to carry another man's child when your husband is there. If your partner is ready then why ask another man to come into your marriage.(even if you don't know him, you know you are carrying another man's child).
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@artisweety (411)
• India
31 Jan 07
im favor of it.because nobody want to be widout childrenin the world and moreover as a medico i know we keep ighly secret information of donor and recepient.
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
I think there are people who really love to have children at all cost because there are some emptiness inside of you if cannot have a baby. IVF I think is a substitute for adopting a baby, atleast half of the baby is from one of the partners. At least there is still a blood relation between the mother and the child than none at all.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
31 Jan 07
Isn't adoption an altruistic decision to make? Giving a chance to a child who has no parents?
@arwenrey (315)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
No i don't want to have a baby from a stranger's sperm. I would rather get pregnant within a relationship of a man i love, and if by chance my husband is not capable of having a baby i would choose to adopt.
Having a baby is a symnbol of love, it is made out of love making. It is inhuman to have a baby from a stanger. We are humans not animals who would just make babies to any male.
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@toyboxer04 (353)
• Malta
30 Jan 07
Though I have a different opinion, I can understand your friend perfectly. As a childless woman, I sometimes think of IVF as a possibility of having a baby but definitely would not do it if it is not with my husband's sperm. And I tell you also why. It has nothing to do with the husband's rights of fatherhood. When you decide to do such thing it's obvious that you are in love and not thinking of separating.
My husband's count is a good one but let us say it was not. I don't have a right to hurt him for life by "borrowing" sperm from someone else. If that was the case I prefer adoption so the baby would neither be mine nor his, I mean biologically.
Using donor sperm for me is like telling my husband "I can but you cannot" without actually speaking. What will his feeling be everytime he looks at the child? I hate thinking of what his thoughts will be.
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@paulnet (748)
• India
31 Jan 07
i agree with you ADOPTION is the better option and in this way you really shows your effection, love and concern for your partner and don't hurt anyones feelings in the process. The benefitting child also gets new home and new life. So i would say every one gets benefit out of it.
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I don't mind it as long as there is no way of it ever complicating the lives of those involved later on. It's good that they have this technology now especially for people who can't conceive on their own.
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@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
I disagree with test tube pregnancy or sperm donation, etc. I believe that a person should be created normally. Much better if a person is created with love.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
31 Jan 07
I do agree with you but I can't blame a childless couple who resort to IVF as a last resort.
@ampee2000 (18)
• India
31 Jan 07
This is really a difficult situaton. It is very difficult to understand the despirate feelings of a woman wanting a baby. On the other hand it is not easy to be a father of a child born from some other person's sperms.
Adoption could be a simple way out. So that the baby be, biologically, neither his nor her. But in this case too the child is not born with his sperms, then why not prefer a donor and let her experience child birth which is at the moment her biggest desire. And if he truly loves her, he can appreciate that the baby is, biologically, half their. The pain is at least half relieved and love is at least doubled.
Now consider the reverse situation where she is not able to produce ovam and they decide to get a third party ova. Would either of them object?
As far as legal right about parenting is considered, they both have equal right as both sperm or ova are provided to a couple not any individual.
@sureshmoe (974)
• India
31 Jan 07
My general views is if someone got the children of one or two and they(husband and wife) feel this is enough to get the more children. Then the they gave the sperm/ova. Its the right and correct way without affect the body and their health. If i'm this palce, i should give my sperm to produce the test-tube babies....
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@wildecoyote (975)
• Australia
31 Jan 07
I think if people can't have children by themselves then they should be allowed to use donor whatever. I think both parents would retain rights if they split.
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@samraf (725)
• India
31 Jan 07
i am not in this favour, i am also not comfortable with that , but i am ready for the donation on my own sperm but not ready to get for my one, because i am able to produce child so whats the problem.
ill do my wife and make her pregnant. so whats the problem why should i get one. but i am ready to donate my sperm.
Regards
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@fedge098 (1330)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
in the first place, are you talking about your friend as your future wife? lol! secondly, are you sterile? if not, i think you won't be needing sperm donations to have a child.
personally it is okay if you undergo this procedure, provided both the man and the woman agreed to do such. there is nothing wrong with it. both will still spend 9 months of preparation, there a sense of responsibility and love for the baby is created. not hate, i believe. this power of science just gave chance for couples who cannot bear their fruits to have at least one. this gave them hope, a hope for a happy and fruitful life that many couples do not have at the moment. ^_^
@akhilvats (48)
• India
31 Jan 07
hi actually INFERTILITY can be due to any partner. Just take it like this if there is some problem in you and your wife wants to get pregnant then what you will do??? sometimes females want to get pregnant like crazy so at that time you have to go for IVF for her happiness. So i think nothing is wrong in that. Bye
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