Cyberstalkers

I had an interesting one of those. I was talking to a guy online that was from my hometown, but I was going to college a couple hours away then. So we wound up not meeting until I went home for a break, at which point we had one rather disastrous date. After that, he just would not leave me alone online. According to my grandmother, he even went to visit her to see if she could talk me into going out with him again. By that point I was already talking to the guy I would later marry online, so I just wasn't interested. He wasn't threatening or dangerous or anything, just kind of sad. Bleh. There was another person on the chat room where I met my husband that was rather weird. She would be really really nice to me one day, claiming to be like my best bud, and then the next day accuse me of some major slight, including things I couldn't have done without being in the same place as her. It was a rather crazy thing. She finally wound up getting banned from that chat room because she was rude to people a lot, and I was both relieved and a little sad for the loss of entertainment.

I used to be part of a chat program and there was alot of people like that there... Very weird.. I would no sooner log on and this one person would be like.. where have you been, I've missed you... soo on.. it was crazy.. I would get like 10 emails a day from this person.. You do have to feel sorry for them becasue they must be lonely... or maybe I'm just that important..kidding..lol :)

There are so many phoney people in the world that talk about being gay and being molested and being a dancers, How could people talk about there bussiness like that, now that is weird and crazy to me! Do you agree with me? and telling the whole world. i really think they have a real problem. that's really something to think about. I feel sorry for those kind of people. do you know anyone like that?

OMG.. I had this guy that I talked to online for like a year. We finally ... well should I say I finally, felt okay to give him my phone number so we could talk on the phone too and since it's unlisted he couldn't do a reverse look up. So we talked on the phone for like a month or so and then one day I come home from a hockey trip (thank GOD) and have a zillion messages on my machine. This whacko drove 8+ hours to my town, of 150K people mind you, to search for me and call me continuously and tell me he was in town and wanted to meet! LMAO Now we're talking he had NO idea (obviously) if I would even BE here let alone if I'd meet him!!!!!!!! Needless to say... the next time he called... I answered.. and told him that my FIANCE was really upset that he did that... lol.. I am an avid fan of SINGLE HOOD ... and that he said if he ever does come up here again he will hunt him down. Thank GOD that was all it took. But wow, how freaky! Another guy I met from online, we met one time, in a little coffee shop, talked about an hour.. he was weird as heck. He called all the local banking places of my banks name, looking for me because he remembered me saying I worked there... then told me over the phone that he didn't want me seeing anyone else and that I was just a big hooker for going out on a date that same weekend when he KNEW we were meant to be! LMAO I just have this way of attracting the freaks!

Well, I didn't have anyone stalk me online, but I did have someone stalk me in real life while I was in school. I made friends with a girl that everyone used to tease. She was goth, kind of introverted, kind of odd, but she was always very nice to me and she was good company. However, about a month later things got out of hand. She messaged me a lot, even when I didn't reply, around 70-150 times per day. She would try and call twice a day, and she would follow me around at school, even coming past my classes windows 4 or 5 times during the class. She told me she was in love with me and that if I didn't go out with her, she would kill herself. She eventually started leaving notes in my letterbox, following me outside of school (at work and whn I went out) and consistently bombarding me with around 200 text messages a day. I was scared that it would escalate further, particularly when she made threats of physical violence against my boyfriend, and I filed a restraining order against her to stay 200 feet away from me, my boyfriend and my workplace. Recently it expired and she approached my boyfriend again with threats. She is a scary person.

I used to do a lot of chatting online chatrooms and messenger and had to learn quickly how to block people of that character. It is sad but also can be scary!

i honestly feel cyberstalkers have something clearly missing in their lives. It is as though they want to live a life by proxy. They dont want to get too close to someone in a real sense but want to go through the emotions of being close to someone. Rejection to these people is all the more crippling because it takes place on line . No, they dont have anything better to do because they dont have a real life. Oh i could tell you many stories about cyber stalkers from when i used to be a chatroom host in winmx. I used to host a bi and lesbian room. We used to get a lot of men coming in pretending to be girls and they would often fixate on the members. You could always tell but it was quite scary. There are a lot more loonies out there than have ever been locked up and chat rooms seem to have more than their share.

I illiminate the problem, I block them...But to be fair, I ask them not to msg'd me so much, give me a chance to message them. If it persists, BLOCK..lol so simple.. I can get irritable quickly at times...

Yes, I've been stalked. This person pretended to be my friend for a long time. Behind my back, she had figured out the password to my email and used it to get the passwords to several message boards that we both belonged to. She used to log into my accounts on the boards and read my private messages and forward them to others. I didn't find out for quite a while because no one wanted to tell me about her. Finally, a friend of mine realized something wasn't right. She and I put our heads together and figured out exactly what was happening. When I confronted her, she accused ME of stalking HER! She's a nutjob. Unfortunately, she lives within 15 miles of me, so I could run into her in person at any time *shudder*

when i first starting using the internet i made the mistake of using my real name as my email address, i was playing a game with someone online and they asked for my email address so we could chat some more, and i made the mistake of giving it to them. All they knew was what state i was in and they were in a different state but he went through all the phonebook and rang all the people with my surname in my state until he found me. I told him i didnt want to talk and he continued to ring and got his sister to ring it was really crazy, once i threatened to go to the police he backed off but it was a lesson well learned

I've had a few, they're kinda amusing. LOADS better than he bad ones. I never really confront the cyberstalkers, it's always great to have a giggle or two which they usually provide. Well, unless they're my ex anyway..but he quit following me around the web. Usually, as far as I've seen..they follow me around the web because they think I'm interesting. Other times they want me to convert to some religion or join a site of theirs O_o. You have no IDEA how many Jehovah's Witnesses I have following me around the web! It reminded me of gangs somehow lol..which led me to the joke "I almost wish they DID form gangs..they sure act like them sometimes..only instead of shooting people they'd throw books or pamphlets at them." Anyway..all in all, I just let them do and say what they like. Talking to them only occasionally and ignoring them every other time. They're either just slightly annoying or highly amusing lol.

I haven't personally, however, my cousin's ex's new girlfriend seems to get a kick out of emailing insenantly (sp?) on myspace.....it's driving my cousin nuts...she has reported to myspace, she has filed harasment charges with the local PD, but nothing seems to help....I told her to not respond and soon she'd be bored, but this was 2 months ago and this girl is still at it....the new girlfriend even emailed all the people including myself on my cousin's friends list saying what a bi&** my cousin was blah blah....I find it amuzing, but my cousin is so sick of it.

I used to be pretty naive before and accepted anyone who added me to their friend list. On sites like orkut I have a picture of me and my real name. At first these guys seem pretty normal with just a hi and normal small talk. I hardly reply to them because I prefer to get to know people personally and dont know if I can trust some guy on the net. Then they start to get obsesive messaging everyday and asking why i dont reply. Thank God for the block feature. I had this other guy who said hi to me on my scrapbook. I didnt delete it but I didnt reply either. A week later my cousin tells me that the guy has changed his profile pic and now has a picture of himself naked with his di*k in his hand. I deleted it immediately and my cousin sent him a couple of abusive scraps. Its a good thing he looks out for me.

I just ignore them. They give me a laugh as well. I used to post on another message board and all this one man did was respond with "yeah" or "no" and that's it. The question or comment didn't require a yes or no answer, but he did it. So I just put him on iggy and had a happy message board. Same thing with the stalkers. I just iggied them.

About 6 1/2 years ago, I noticed another writer at this site and left a comment on something he'd written. He did the same for me. Anyway, we seemed to have a lot in common and began to e-mail each other as well. At first, it was just as friends who had things in common, but it seemed to be taking a romantic turn. I knew that I was starting to have feelings for him, and things that he wrote to me strongly implied that the attraction was mutual. So, I was unpleasantly-surprised when he started not responding to comments I left for things he'd written while leaving comments for everyone else. He also wasn't answering my e-mails as much--but, eventually, implied that everything was all right between us by writing something tender to me. Just when I thought that everything was all right, he publicly raked me over the coals. As you can imagine, I was really hurt. My response was to write to him and ask him to talk to me. I also tried to call him and only got his answering machine. Meanwhile, he was starting to tell everyone that I was stalking him. Although I agree that there are actual stalkers out there--every kind from the annoying to the downright dangerous--there's sometimes another side to a stalking story. There's a song that was popular when I was in high school that--although the song is where it's a boy who has had his girlfriend go cold on him instead of the other way around--reminds me of what was happening with this guy and me... http://www.oracleband.net/Lyrics/build_me_up_buttercup.htm

This may seem a bit of a daft statement .. but how do you know if someone is 'cyber stalking' you ?? Do they send you messages, but how would they do that as they would need to be on your friends list ... or do they post weird messages in your discussions .. I'm really not sure what to think ... but I do agree that it's a form of flattery but also very sad they cannot make real friends of their own ..

I had one who cuberstalked me and then tried to take it to real life. It was a website specifically about my hometown and it's a small place. It got creepy when he started trying to track me down in the flesh. Just ignore them.

Well I did have many girls stalking me online and acting as secret admirers or just someone mysterious for friendship, it was a good pastime and I tried to be as good as possible to them thinking of them as those who entirely live in their own fantasies but when things got a little out of line, I responded with my "Devil" attitude and then they all ran away! LoL that was really funny and I had a good laugh about it. Call me a meany but hey your talking to me for like 8 months now and I don't even know your real name! Well some of those factors did tick me off.

cyberstalkers? is this for real? how can someone cyberstalk a person? creepy enough to think that even in internet, you can't have your privacy. _

i have, i find that alot of strange people are on some chatrooms...and myspace. i find some people very odd, but then again if i dont like them or thing something is odd, then i delete them and block them