Should I have to give it all away?

I wouldn't give anything away if you think you may want another baby. I was just telling my husband that the other night. We need to pack up the portable swing and playmat. The baby it too big for those things. We have no room to store all this stuff but I don't want to get rid of it just in case. He didn't like my tone, lol. But there is always a chance. My first 3 were all accidents (the last one was partly planned). I say give away anything you didn't really use or like. I had a bunch of clothes that were given to me that I didn't care for (usually I didn't like the style) so I gave some of it away and put the rest in yard sale boxes. (PS I have clothes for you that should fit the baby this summer--I hope I can get them to you before then, lol).

I agree with you. Don't feel pressured into giving more if there's even a chance that you might have another. Even if you weren't planning on another child, it should be a joint decision, and I don't think your husband should pressure you into giving what you don't want to give. If he wants to look good at work, have him, and some others at work, sponsor a baby shower for the woman. He can be in charge of it so that he can get more 'points' at work, lol. Since they both work, maybe they prefer new stuff over the used anyways. Helping others is one thing, but to give it away when you're not sure if you'll need it again doesn't make sense, especially giving it to someone who's better off financially than you are.

Since you have already three children and are planning to have another one it would not be wise to give all your gear away. Your husband and you should congratulate the lady at work, send a nice card and a present when the lady's baby is born. There is no need to explain any further. Your husband would not look good or bad at work since people know your situation and most people would certainly not demand stuff from others at any time. Relax and enjoy your new baby.

If you are planning to have another baby then don't give it all away. I did that two years back, gave everything to an orphanage as I thought after seven years that I am not going to habve any more of them now but after giving it all away, I concieved with in four months time. So we had to buy everything and now we can not afford so many items and I really miss them for my girl. I think you do one thing, choose everything carefully that you are going to need and pack it away, like baby's clothes and cloth diapers tetc that your 5 week old has overgrown. keep packing them away and sort them ones you are ready to part with and ones you want to keep. Do it for all kids clothes many you will see you wont feel like using as they have been washed over and over again. Luckily you hubby may not even noticve that you can send those acrtoss, husbands are pretty duimb that way. I do it with his clothes when he look for them I just say they msut have gone missing. he keeps looking for his baggy pants or used nickers or T-shirts that I really hate and they are never found. He thinks he lost them inlaundary or in ironing or somewhere. He has not figured it out yet and its been fourteen years since I am doing that. and we shift a lot too and he does all the packing too but I am good at it, lol. My advice is you need not replace everything but you can still give away little bit but be careful and choose wisely. Especially choose one thing he really wants you to give away and keep it on the top of the pile or packing. You just hace to make one sacrifice or may be choose one which you and he both agree on giving and keep that on top. He will be really happy, you will see, just apply a little tact.

I think you should keep it- Especially if you guys are planning on having another child. Your husband will have to find a different way to look good at work. And chances are they probably don't want it all anyways- Most new parents want new stuff for their first child- Unless they cannot afford it- And if they are both working I doubt this is true with them. I'd give them a few things that you don't need or have too many of and call it good. Explain to your husband the cost of the new stuff if you give it away. Is he on the same page with having another child?

I think your husband has a good heart, just maybe a little misguided. Explain to him that you need the things you have, but you will go through everything and see what else you can give up. If you have a 5 week old baby, then you will probably need everything you have. I know with my children, there were some things that I didn't really care for. If you have these items, give them up. That way, they won't be taking up the space you may need for things that you like.

I totally agree with you and if they are both working there is no need for you to do that your Husband should not have to do that just to look good and he won't look good if you do have another one and then haven't got the Stuff and he might have to ask her back for it so stand your Ground and keep it

I would tell him HECK NO. You gave her some stuff, but she doesn't need all your stuff. Besides, you're not even close to this woman, from what I can tell from your discussion. She'll have baby showers and get PLENTY of stuff..make your husband realize that. I don't think men realize just how much stuff you get at baby showers. Or, if he's so concerned about her having stuff, tell him to organize an office baby shower for her. That'll shut him up!

I think you are right, and you shouldn't let him 'bully' you into giving all that stuff away.... I gave all my stuff away after my 3rd one, and guess what happened? I got pregnant within a month! You shouldn't have to give up what you don't want to. If you already gave her some things, then that's enough. Your husband is just going to have to understand. And yes, if they are a two income family and you aren't, well, then they would be on their own. Stand your ground! Keep your baby stuff! By the way, Congrats on the new baby! :-)

I wouldn't do it simply to make my husband look good at work. If I knew that they couldn't afford to get a lot, I would go through what I had and pull things out that, while still keeping some for a future child. You could even say that they can use it but that you would like to get everything back when they are done with it.

Myself, I will not get rid of everything.Every time I started doing that, I ended up pregnant. LOL! In your case,I'm not sure I would get rid of everything either. Why would you need to give them everything?Do you have some things that you have to much of? Are there some things that you might want to get new if you have another baby? Why not just give those things?

Well discuss this properly with your husband.. maybe give most of them .. but leave out some special ones for your kids too.. or maybe for the new baby.. but most importantly help others with joy feelings.. not with resentment.. and certainly dont help others in the hope of looking better in their eyes.. that is not helping... Help should come from your heart and it should be pure.. without wanting anything back..

i probably wouldn't "GIVE" everything to her. Maybe a few things, but not everything. If you really plan on having another child, I would definately keep the crib and things like that. clothing will go out of style and everything so if you want to give it away, that would be fine. However, I would probably sell it on ebay. I, too, am a stay at home mom and I sell tons of things on ebay. i can bring home another $100 a month just in my kids' clothing and toys and such.

Simple ... if you don't want to then don't do it! You'll just be regretting it for a long time and harbouring anger about it all. Maybe if you point out the cost of all the items your husband wants to give away he may think differently about it. I agree that the people are more than capable to buy their own clothes especially as a lot of new parents that I know like their children to be in "new" items not secondhand. I'd be devestated if I was made to give away my boys clothes to someone who wouldn't even use them and then just gave them to charity [or even worse - sell them on eBay for some more money for themselves]

You need to keep what you really like, want and will need, Give only what it is you feel you do not like or need away. As to a shower. It could be a Co ed shower with couples and you don't have to stop with just the workers. If the mom works there so much the better, she would know who else to invite, friends, neighbors, siblings and other relatives. So this would be something your hubby could do with her mom involved.

You can't know what is their financial condition. My both parents are working as well, and we don't have much money at all. People are getting to trouble, and sometimes it's hard for them to get out. Don't judge them because the two of them are working. You can't know what might happend to them. It's a good thing to share and to give. There are many people that won't agree to share this closthes even they know that they don't really need them. You are good person. Don't change.

Your absolutely right. If your planning on having more kids, you shouldn't loan out the clothes, especially for the fact that you already have a 5 week old. I don't know, you just don't ever know how people will take care of your clothes too! I mean if she is working too & her husband than like you said they have more money coming in then you and yours do. Plus, say you did borrow the clothes to her & she uses formula and your clothes get stained from food/poop etc. That really sucks for you because you are planning on having more children & needed those clothes. Like you did, I would just give the clothes to her that you know that you don't care that get ruined or that you don't want back-- if you don't have any to give- then that's fine too. I'm sure they will be able to afford to buy clothes for their child. Explain to your husband why you don't want to borrow them out--because you will eventually need them & if they get ruined you'll have to buy all new stuff. Good luck!! I would keep my clothes :)

I think if your husband needs to give away baby clothes in order to look good, he should perhaps be working a little harder. Even if you were not going to have another child-nothing warrents you having to give all the clothing away. You could sell it at a yard sale, or ebay. No, not your responsibility to outfit another persons kid. Even if this mom-to-be does want them. besides, she will probably be having a shower and surely she knows other people who she can pick some stuff up from. I think Crystal=1 Husband=0 Mom to be= go do some shopping.

well what i did is my cousin in law was pregnant and just had her baby, and me and my husband are trying to have another one, and i to am a stay at home mom. both of them dont work but they live with my cousin in laws father, so they dont have to worry about bills. what i did is i didnt give away ALL of my sons clothes, just whatever didnt fit him i divided into 2 piles and gave her most of them. i still have a bunch of clothes so i dont need to worry. i had a bunch of clothes that he didnt even wear that were given to me. so thats what you could do, if you have a bunch just keep the ones that your next one will most likely wear and give her the clothes that you think are just going to sit there and take up space.

No, you should not have to give your stuff stuff away. Especially when they make more money than you do. A gift is nice, but giving it all to them is ridiculous. I have 3 children, 2 boys and 1 girl, and I am a stay at home mom, so I know how expensive baby and kids clothes can be. As long as you have a place to store your extra gear, there shouldn't be any problem with keeping it, since you know you will need it again. Congradulations on your new baby. My youngest is now 3 and I miss the baby time. Good luck!