i may be about to get married but will it last forever?
By hannah
@hannah (1)
July 3, 2006 8:51am CST
Hi sara it,s hannah my boyfriend and i have been together for three years and has been throw alotand he asked me to marry him today but now i may be geting cold feet.i konw this is something i want more than ever but i can,t shake the fear off the marrige ending soon after it began.Is this normal?
3 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
3 Jul 06
Hannah-
If you have this fear, talk to your fiancé’ about it. It is normal to get nervous about such a huge step in your life. Just because you get engaged, it doesn't mean you have to get married right away. People are often engaged for a few years prior to tying the knot. Marriage - just like any relationship - is work. Communicate with him; tell him how you feel and why. Go with what your heart \and your gut feeling tell you. No one here can really tell you if your marriage will last forever - I don't think anyone can really predict that. I do know that if this is the right guy for you, you will love each other unconditionally, you treat each other right, and both of you will be willing to work towards this relationship working.
@hardwrknmama (22)
• United States
23 Dec 06
I ask my husband to marry me. I didn't want to live together and he wasn't asking. He accepted. Well, I was all for it until we had our pre-marriage counselling from the pastor. I insisted that the word obey be removed from our vows. That was apparently a big deal for the pastor but not for my husband and I prevailed. During our ceremony I couldn't speak. Do you take this man? I shook my head. He said you have to say it. I couldn't say it because in my head that little voice was SCREAMING NO! NO! NO! NO! After much hesitation I finally got out the words I do and we've been married 21 years. What's my point? Don't let your fears overtake you, follow your heart. Don't get me wrong, marriage is so very hard. It's like a second job. I love my family and wouldn't change those words back to NO for anything in the world.
@classicaljazz (1628)
• United States
3 Jul 06
Marriage is work, I won't lie, but it is worth it. Cold feet could mean a lot of things, don't panic. Is your fiancee your best friend?
@DesertRose (11)
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3 Jul 06
Is that normal? Are you kidding? Of course! I was proposed too 7 years ago...and im not married! Im glad that my cold feet stopped me because we were together for 6 & 1/2 years and had a baby together.....and guess what? he was cheating. There is something to the "cold feet"....it is your insticts trying to protect you. Listen to them.
