do you find it hard to say no to people?

Sometimes that's the easiest way to go. Revel in the grief you have saved yourself! And "choose your battles"...

Some kind in a different situation or people. Sometimes I findly hard to say no to people whom dearly close to me and needing my help especially when it comes to money and emotional matters. Somehow giving them a chance but still have limitations. Coz' based on what I'ved encountered or others experiences there's a saying is that too good to be true and behind your back,your caught to be used. So careful, everthing that is too much is not good and might harm you.....The other one is directly saying No to people w/out any hesitations.......why? definitely those are offered vices nor things, situations that are literally not good into our existence. So no matter false encouragement to make. Still discern it and definitely say a big "NO"...

yeah that is how I am if anyone askes me to help them out with something I usally do it. I am a pushover also.

I have a very difficult time saying no to people. I like to help out where I can but sometimes it does lead to me being walked over and there are times I wish I could grow more of a backbone, lol.

I used to be such a pushover, I couldn't say no at all, even if it put ME in a pinch with money or time. I am proud to announce that I grew a backbone! Now, I don't care if people get mad, and they now know that the answer is 50/50. The answer is UP TO ME!!!!

well i am a straight forward person! general feelings aside one should be clear what he is saying considering his state of mind! so that it doesnt affect the person whom you're talking to! such stuff like saying arise generally when there is a condition or an offer or something else but it doesnt mean you just say no cause you want to ! there are various situations and one cant possibly count them to say whether it is hard to say no to people or not! i think you should rephrase the question ! :)

You aren't alone there. I have a really hard time in saying no to people. I'm not sure why but I've gotten somewhat better but it is something I have to work on. I end up with so much on my plate because I am too willing to help others with things. I did read a great book called "Bounderies" which did help with my issues on saying no. It's just practicing what they recommend in there. To remember that at times I do come first and I do have the right to say no to others without feeling bad about it.

No, I don't have a hard time saying no. I always surprised when I come across people who do. I think it is interesting that you think that by always given in to people (not saying no) that you are making them happy. Saying no may be more beneficial to them than given in to their demands. It also sounds like you give in because you don't want to deal with the consequences if you don't. People who love and really care for you won't mind if you say no occassionally.

I really liked the respose"pick and choose your battles".. Sometimes I yhink not makin a snap decision is the best. That will give you time to mull it over, deciding how you want to handle the situation. Ifever you feel like someone is taking advantage of you the anwer is NOOOO!!! Has someone been trying to take advantage of you? Is that why you sayyou are reveling in your grief???

I can't find it hard to say to people. The truth about this is, either you say no or yes, the person or persons whom your choice has not favoured them will still complain. But you don't have to hurt yourself to please people. You are a human being and by virtue of this have the right of freedom of choice. You deserve the right to make a choice that befits you. And moreover, you have to be principled that whichever decision you make stands. No one actually has to force you to say no - rather they can persuade you to condescend to their own decision. So, you'd better be careful with what you decide. Ok? That's right my girl.... Write to me at easytime_comm_ltd@yahoo.co.uk if you have more questions or whatever to say to me. Bye