Does your partner listen to you ?
By Sissygrl
@Sissygrl (10912)
Canada
January 30, 2007 5:40pm CST
When you as him/her to do something do they really listen to you or do you find yourself asking the same questions over and over again? for me, i like to have a clean kitchen table, my husband, likes to leave his things in piles everywhere. PILES of things ANNOY me! Everyday i ask him not to leave his junk on the table when he comes home fom work. i've even made room for all his stuff elsewhere and told him he could put it all there away where its not in a big pile for me to have to look at!
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@Justareceptionist (869)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Every person is different. You just have to find them when they're not being distracted with something else....which is extremely hard to do.
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@k1tten (2318)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I think I listen to my partner pretty well. I may ask for something to be repeated once or twice because it'll take me a little while to understand but I think I get it in the end. I try not to ask too much from my partner but I'm sure she does listen.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
LOL my moms husband is the same (mystepdad) he is awesome around the house. while she is sick he does EVERYTHING. cooks dishes works vaccumes Everything. she's lucky! and so are you. i think i need a little more time to get mine to that point. wait. make that A LOT more time. ;)
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
Lol i call it the exact same thing. I told another lady that when she said she didn't know what was wrong with her partner. It's so true. but i'm going to start selectively hearing what i want and dont want to now too. see how that works out for me lol. it'll probably end bad but we will see!
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
31 Jan 07
OMG YES!!! Oh, where do I start....piles of balled up STINKY STINKY socks everywhere. When he shaves he doesn't miss getting hair on every inch of the bathroom!!! Oh, that makes me so mad, because it's always RIGHT after I get done cleaning it!!! He also will run dishwater but NEVER do the dishes...this aggervates me so badly!!! It's like he's telling me how to do my housework !!! Oh, that makes me so mad!!! I could go on forever...
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Oh honey, I'm MORE than on your side~I'm the president of the club, lmao!!!! If I had a nickel for everytime I asked him to pick up after himself..I'd be RICH!!!
@kerbausama (1335)
• Malaysia
6 Feb 07
yes,she is.we always talk and very happy living in this world.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
6 Feb 07
We do listen to eachother when it something important. he just doesn't seem to think keeping the table free of clutter is important. lol. i guess its not that important. but it seems like something small that he can do for me but never remembers, or just doesn't want to.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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31 Jan 07
LOL - no - he never listens to me with stuff like that. We've been togeher 19 years now and I damn well know he switches off whenever I get into my "nagging" mode as he calls it. He is pathelogically untidy and it could drive me to distraction, but I love him and he is a good man and he cares about me - so I tend to turn a blind eye to it now. Untidiness is not the worst habit for a man to have - I can live with it:-))
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
5 Feb 07
i suppose your right, and you dont have much choice if he hasn't changed in 19 years! lol. I dont think mine will ever learn to keep his stuff off the table either. I tried hidding the stuff in a different spot so he'd have to ask where it was and maybe that would trigger a memory as to not leave it on the table, and if he puts it away then he will know where it is. naw he just got cranky about me hidding his stuff lol. i can't win this one.
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
lol. mine will say he's listening, and that yes he can multitask, but if he's at the computer, or playing a game, or really just about anything other then looking directly at me (and even sometimes then too) i might as well be talking to myself cause he has no clue what i've been saying.
@hiswillnotmywill (260)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
oh my! i'm guilty of that. hehehe...i was the one who is being reminded by my husband to not do this and that but i seemed not to remember. But with his constant reminder and fights over it, i remember those things now. =)
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@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
1 Feb 07
He usually listens to me. But he also has ADD and if he's focused on something else, he won't really have heard me. Then he gets upset when I repeat myself too much! Hey, I just want to make sure he was there!
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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31 Jan 07
Now yes.
Sometimes she doesn't really appreciate that open up to her and she does put her friends before me at times but since speaking to her awhile back she has started.
we respect each other alot and i know it's hard to always listen but i'm glad she does now and i'm glad that i have her!
~joey
@vicky_lane4987 (980)
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31 Jan 07
my partner does listen to me, but well sometimes i think he shuts off...or "throws a deaf one" as i call it :P
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Ha, I thought I wrote that. You sound like me, and I sure understand what you feel. Drives me nuts. And they want to know why we nag? Well, why can't they act like men, and not children? Great post.
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@ineedaname (957)
• United States
31 Jan 07
My husband is so busy playing his games on his PC that he never hears a word I say. I am the one that stays home so I just pick up behind him. It works best for us this way. I let him do his thing, then he is happy.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
31 Jan 07
My husband does the same thing alot. But if I need to talk to him about something important I make sure I doit when the tv isn't on and he's not doing something else so he's completely focused on what I'm saying. Sometimes that works but a lot of other times it doesn't. He always says he'sunder a lot of stress and has too many things on his mind. I tell him I think the reason there's so many things on his mind is because he doesn't address the things that we need to take care of and leaves a million things unfinished. For me if things are left undone they distract me too.
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@maddie6565 (3)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I have a boyfriend that I have to ask to do something again and again and when I ask him about it he says that he "didnt hear me" but when it comes to something that he wants he is real quick to remember what it is that I asked or something that I may have said. Its funny really but I love him he is a good man and for the most part! I just don't think that guys want to be told what to do. Or maybe they really don't remember. What do you think?
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