Have you ever had a child refuse to listen?
By diva2015
@diva2015 (39)
United States
January 30, 2007 11:01pm CST
what do you do about children that always claim to forget to do what they are told even if they are told a million times? I have tried every approach possible...this is what i decided to do today. I told him if he didn't want to listen to me then that is fine, he can make his own decisions from now on about everything. My purpose is to prove to him that with out me he doesn't know "everything" and needs my guidence. I think it will work because he is already up 3 hours past his bed time and has school in the morning. He doesn't ever shower unless told to do so, won't do homework, chores, pick up after himself unless told and even then he still doesn't do things. I don't feel that he is a bad child but he is too lazy for my liking.
my parents were strick and he is too much of a cry baby for me to deal with.
What do you think? What are some methods you have tried?
1 response
@jessicamquick (57)
• United States
31 Jan 07
he's a cry baby you say but who made him that way? Be more strict with him and show him who is boss, you're the parent not him. Take things away from him when he doesn't do what he's told and reward him for when he listens. Take the tv away, don't let him play or don't let him have desert. Make him sit at the table until his homework is done. You're the adult now show him that!
@diva2015 (39)
• United States
31 Jan 07
oh, i am sorry, i forgeot to mention. I have done all of these things. i am not his biological mother, he is my partner's child and she is away for training. I have been in his life for three years and he wants me to be his second mom. so that is the role i have taken on.
I am new to the whole parenting thing and that is why I am having such a problem. Belive me I am not the soft one, i have taken so much away it isn't funny. But there comes a time when taking and talking, even spanking dosen't work. This is just something new I am trying.
I am going to give it a few days so that he learns his lesson by being extra smelly, tired all the time from not going to bed on time, by not doing his chores he will be with out a lot and i am not going to pick up the slack for him. I really am hoping that after a little while he will understand. and he may not, then I will just ground him again, take his stuff away and everything else that is not nessacary.
