My brother is a gay, I can accept him, but how can I make my parents feel ok?

Thailand
January 31, 2007 12:20am CST
My parents is so sad about my brother being a gay, how can I help them
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6 responses
jewelenterprises
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
6 May 08
My mother felt very hurt when I told her I was a lesbian. She didn't talk to me for a couple of weeks because she was so shocked. Apparently she asked her doctor what she had done wrong for me to turn out gay. His response was, 'Janice, you didn't do ANYTHING wrong, your daughter was just born that way!' That seemed to reassure her. Maybe you could discuss it with your parents and let them know that your brother is still the same person and that it's not their fault for him being gay. You may not get the message through straight away but hopefully they will eventually come to terms with it.
tecklebuggg
@tecklebuggg (209)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Of course they are sad! They were probably hoping for grandchildren...that will not happen now. Besides that....they know his life will be hard, no parent wants a hard life for their child, there is a lot of people that will judge him because of his preference. Just love him and be there for him... give them time to process the new info.
lonewolfnan
@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
There really is nothing you can do to make your parents feel ok.You can show support for your brother and realize that the parents are reacting out of lack of knowledge and fear.
Island_Geko
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
by making them understand that he is the same guy he was before he told them and even though he is gay he is still blood and still is family and should be treat as such.
miryam
@miryam (6505)
• Italy
31 Jan 07
I think that no one can help you, only the time, only the love towards your brother. He is what is, is not a bad, some it is not easy to admit it, but it is necessary to accept what he hears. The life is his it is yours to have to accept quwello which makes him happy. If he is satisfy why not to accept his happiness?
xParanoiax
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
1 Mar 07
well..they're alloweto be a bit glum I guess. They were probably hoping of grandkids..which still could be possible if he ver adopts, but yeah..all I can say is, talk with them. Nicely, politely, listen, understand their point of view. As long as they know it's not the end of the world, and their son's not any different than he was before they find out it should be okay.