cheating

United States
October 9, 2006 7:26pm CST
When you think someone is cheating...should you confront them immediately or wait till you have more evidence?
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23 responses
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
10 Oct 06
A gut feeling is proof enough for me, but who doesn't like to have substantial evidence to back it up? I'm very intuitive and analytical, so I'd find out for sure and then confront with proof!
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
10 Oct 06
If you confront him, he will probably deny it. The best approach might be to just ask. By catching him off guard, he might blurt it out. Don't count on it though. The best thing to do, if you can afford it, is hire a private detective to follow him and get the goods on him. It would be hard for him to deny it when confronted with photos!
• United States
10 Oct 06
I bet that cost alot.
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
10 Oct 06
I honestly don't know. You could also follow him yourself! Borrow a friend's car and take your camera. Other women have done that who can't afford to hire a private detective. You can't use your own car as he would recognize if.
@psmohan (1877)
• India
10 Oct 06
I just cannot bear the mistrust. I immdly blow back and do not excuse him.
• United States
10 Oct 06
I feel that way sometimes too.
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
10 Oct 06
Do you have any evidence at all or just suspicions at this point in time? It would be better to try and talk to him when you are calm rather than 'confront' the person. Good luck
• United States
10 Oct 06
thanks :) Its just a question ...not that its happening to me.
• United States
10 Oct 06
I would wait to confront them until I had more evidence to support my thoughts, otherwise they just might start being more careful so as though not to get caught, that and I would want to be sure so I didnt falsely accuse them of cheating.
• Nigeria
10 Oct 06
well confrontations could let him have an advantage of denial once you dont have the evidence to nail him down.I know how it feels seen someone you trust cheat on you."You would definately want to nail him down, expect him to accept his mistakes and promise he would never do that again". To be candid you would be wrong if you take that approach.Find some more evidence, lay it bare to him when he's relaxed and see what he does... Good luck
• India
10 Oct 06
I would go for collecting more evidence..and then confront him.....But would i be still be able to trust another person?I mean guess it wud always be in our mind right?
@LBS1178 (317)
• United States
10 Oct 06
You should preobably wait until you have a little proof, but I couldnt wait. Id have to get it out
@acdc0805 (979)
• United States
10 Oct 06
its always good to just ask. Honesty is the best policy. I always give me husband three chances, to come clean...if i have any evidence, and if he doesn't than I confront him. But i always tell him, i'd rather have you tell me whats going on, rather than someone else. Whenever i confront him i tend to be really pissed, and get stressed for no reason, so I'd just ask him if theres anything that you need to know about, if he says no-then confront him.
• India
10 Oct 06
the best way is to wait for more evidence.immediately confronting them is not good.if you have enough evidence you can always confront them later.
@graaji (69)
• India
10 Oct 06
wen we come to know that some one is cheating.... we have to confront them immediately..... why to wait for more evidence bcoz it wil be too late under many circumstances.....
• United States
10 Oct 06
I would wait until there is more proof because if you confront them without any proof they will just deny it. Try a private investigator.
• India
10 Oct 06
I beleive in waiting till i get complete evidence..before u blame someone..
@07141988 (148)
• India
10 Oct 06
i would say ....that u should wait till u get more evidence ....coz if its just a misunderstanding then u may even cost a good relation ....
@keerubai (582)
• India
10 Oct 06
waiting is a good decition because he can be innocent.... sometime this kind of misconcepts also gets in to ur mind ...because of ur failure or ur attachment or concept regarding that person
• India
10 Oct 06
With Evidence i will prove it
@blazonvj (428)
• India
10 Oct 06
i'll wait till i have more evidence and firts make sure that they are really cheating and wee are not jumping into false conclusions!!!!!!!!..... then we can confront them and beat the hell outta em!
@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
10 Oct 06
I would wait until I had complete proof so I could let him know that I KNOW he was lying if he denies it!
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
10 Oct 06
If it was me I would try to find the evidence first. Because you just never know. I would hate to accuse someone of something and find out it was not true.
@rahdua (255)
• India
10 Oct 06
I would support him if he/she is my closest friend.
• United States
10 Oct 06
I would wait until I had solid proof. But don't just look for proof in everything they say or do, just be aware of what is going on around you. When you have something fairly solid, bring it up.